While this has been a devastating experience, I'm grateful for the support of this community. At my 8 week ultrasound, we found out the baby had not grew since what would have been a 5 week pregnancy. My OB wanted to wait a week to confirm no growth which was the worst week of my life. At 9 weeks, a missed miscarriage was confirmed. I decided to go the misoprostol route and it did not work at all. Finally, at 10 weeks, I went in for a D&C that went as well as possible (had not bled at all and the baby had passed 5 weeks earlier). We've asked for the tissue to be tested for chromosomal issues. This is also my first pregnancy.
I feel like I'm finally able to move on from the physical part of this. The emotional part is another story. I just realized that the chromosomal testing will tell us gender if we want that information. I am so split on this because I was at peace not knowing. I feel like knowing will bust open wounds much much more. But if we have this info, how can I not find out knowing we had this at our fingertips? Have any of you been through this?