December 2015 Moms
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Scared DH won't recognize me on Mother's Day
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so I've mentioned a lot that Mother's Day is Coming and if he's done his shopping. He's said that it's a "hallmark" holiday. I just wish he would get it on his own. My sister said she would text him to remind him. But I don't want a gift if he is feeling forced. Because then it's not special. Not sure what to do. Any advice or anyone else have a DH/SO like this? Is it too much to ask for flowers and a card?
But also if he doesn't get me anything I think I will be crushed and we are having brunch with my parents so it will be hard to pretend that it doesn't bother me. Even though I'm sad inside. I want a great first Mother's Day. Not a sad one
But also if he doesn't get me anything I think I will be crushed and we are having brunch with my parents so it will be hard to pretend that it doesn't bother me. Even though I'm sad inside. I want a great first Mother's Day. Not a sad one
Re: Scared DH won't recognize me on Mother's Day
I made a little art project with the babies' handprint and foot prints for the grandmothers and great grandmother along with one for myself. Hubby helped me without complaint and actually got fairly into it. I think it meant a lot more than anything he could have bought.
My first Mother's Day hubby was out of work so my present was that my mom gave me money for a hair cut. It was awesome!
So maybe do something for yourself and let it go. It's a lot less stressful that way.
ETA It should change as our little ones get older and rather than our significant others getting something it will be them helping the kids with presents.
Don't know where I'm going with this except to say, if you don't want a gift to be forced, why not ask him to take you on a nice date? Maybe spending time together will feel less forced then a random gift.
I don't expect any gifts from DH, he's not a gift giver. I'm looking forward to spending time with my family and snuggling up DD all day. We're making a craft for our mother's using DDs hands and feet. If you do want a gift just tell him. Men don't get hints lol.
All I have requested is a nap and breakfast. Maybe even a shower but I don't want to push it.
If I want something I ask for it, same deal for birthday, Christmas and Valentine's Day. Would it be nice if he did something on his own? Yes, but that's not who he is. We skipped the holidays this year because of all the baby spending but I had to say "hey next year for this holiday I would really love/appreciate this sort of gift".
I'm getting a dyson vacuum for Mother's Day/just because after not having a vacuum for over a year and damn it I'm thrilled.
Hubs always downplays holidays but comes through in the end. He already told me my Mother's Day gift is "just a small sentimental thing" I also know he got "basically the same thing" for his mom and my mom. Even last year I got flowers. I might get a nap but really it'll just be a family day.
I think instead of being upset be prepared for him to not get anything for you and if he does then bonus!
What do you plan to do for him for Father's Day?
I think it sucks if you want a present and won't get one. But maybe you could instead ask him to watch baby while you do something for yourself like binge watch Netflix for a couple hours or take a nap. It's kind of a compromise?
Maybe a more direct approach would help? My DH once told me that he can't read my mind and if I want or need something to just tell him. That's the best I advice I can give. Like pp said...men don't get hints.
If he doesn't surprise you I would just tell him something you would like to do or buy for your first mothers day from baby. It's the first mother's day so I understand wanting it to be special. Don't let it ruin your day if he doesn't surprise you!