ok, I will start. But this is definitely just me bitching. I don't even care. DH's ex-girlfriend, who I have had a made up competition with in my head for the last 7 years, since he left her for me, is going on my dream vacation. Like, literally if I could pick anything in the world that is what I would pick. They also bought a nice house this winter, which I had to unfollow her on facebook for because I kept crying. I want a house so bad, but life is a jerk and things are a lot harder than I thought they would be 10 years ago. And now my absolute dream vacation. It is for their 5th anniversary. Our 5th anniversary is this fall and we will not being doing anything because we are forever poor and saving our money for things like paying off student loans and hopefully buying a house one day before we die. And they didn't even do things "right". They didn't bust their butts at college for years, move away from home and family to make it happen. They are actually missionaries here in the US, who have to raise support from people. So, I don't even know how they have this much money. I guess people just give them a lot of it. Maybe I should just ask people for money and I too could own a home and go on extravagant European vacations. yep, I am a whiney, annoying bitter lady today. Someone slap me, quick!
Me: 28 year old SAHM/Birth Doula DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
Married: October 8, 2011
DD1: September 24, 2013 BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016 DD2: April 16, 2017 BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
@mrsstuessy Sorry about DH's ex, Feel Better! FB unfollow is the first step. Followed by
But glass half full= you got a full education that will last a lifetime and you won't need financial support from others, you can plan an AMAZING 10th anniversary (who cares about 5 anyway right?), and you now have the opportunity to find the perfect home when you're ready (maybe they'll get termites). Bottom line is you win the competition because you got DH!!
I've got a house rant. We started up the homebuying process in March and are approved for a nifty USDA rural loan. It's 0% down with a locked in interested around 3.6%. Sounds amazing right? Well they only loan the appraisal value and only cover homes (no mobile homes). We've looked at maybe 4 that met our criteria (2 bathroom/ 3br) so far and nothing else has popped up in the rural areas since everyone puts up trailers now. We're also battling with investors in bidding wars. They bring cash in hand and are snatching places up after 2 days on the market. Our realtor was very helpful at first, she sent listings daily. But she didn't check out the homes before showings. So we couldn't even get into one house, one had the siding falling off from wood rot, and one was on a street no one should ever walk down alone. When we finally found a nice one a month ago we jumped on it, secured the contract, and ordered our inspection. Inspection was devastating. It had been re-roofed with fungus from moisture growing under the first layer and the plumbing boots left off. The outside was stucco and they laid it over the wood siding about 4 inches thick. They also left holes in the stucco where the fence touched the outer wall, I stuck my finger inside and hit rotting hardy board. Neighbor said the stucco was done 2 years ago and the house has been vacant....2 years of possible water in the walls? Finally in the front bedroom the entire wall was filled with live termites. They said it could possibly go up into the roof. We submitted the inspection to the seller and they said we'll fix what we deem necessary. I'm assuming they wanted an as-is cash buyer *sigh. We let it go, losing the inspection fees was better then re-doing half a house. So now we're back at square one. Our realtor is suddenly MIA and hasn't sent over anything in a week or 2. We finally had to renew our rental lease, but added a clause to move out with no penalty if we purchase. It's getting frustrating because nothings popping up, everything's moving quickly, and we only have off on weekends (get off at around 7 during the week). Plus once we find something our offer might not even matter if the appraisal is low. We'll have to resubmit at appraised value and hope they don't have a better offer after paying escrow ($500), inspections ($450), and appraisal ($500). This process is so frustrating that I now understand people who rent for life
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@mrsstuessy comparison is the thief of joy, amiright?
i don't have much to bitch about today, in fact i'm really happy that i was able to take my ovidrel shot last night, and am ovulating today. BUT, it's passover, and we have family coming into town this weekend to stay with us. we're going to host the passover meal. this is exciting but stressful. there is still SO MUCH to clean and SO MUCH to cook and i don't know when i'm going to do it all. ughhh.
WTF to door-to-door salesmen!! I am so sick of them showing up at my door at all hours trying to sell me things that I don't need.
Am I the only one the doesn't answer their door when home alone? My dog barks and I just try to hide and pretend like there is no one home. When H is home, he answers the door and it drives him crazy when I don't. I'm too scared when I'm alone.
@pepperAT I hate when people come to my door! Unless it's Girl Scouts with cookies, they're ok. If you don't have cookies f-off. I'm such an anxiety ridden introvert I always make my husband answer the door, and rarely answer it if I'm alone.
WTF to my students today? Not only are they difficult to work with, but they think I am literally the dumbest person on the planet.
I had a student who fell asleep (like, snoring and drooling on his newspaper) during our reading time and then when I woke him up, he tried to convince me I made it up. He wasn't really sleeping in class.
I also had another student listening to music. He had the paper up in front of his face so that I couldn't see his ears. When I asked him to turn off his phone and bring it up to me, he said, "But Miss, I'm reading." Yeah, buddy, but you aren't supposed to have your phone on in class. Bring it up here. When he finally brought it up and was back to his seat, he put the newspaper back up in front of his face, like he's trying to prove I'm full of shit.
@mrsstuessy - They could also have a lot of credit card/loan debt that they're paying the minimum on, and that's how they're doing all of these things. My brother and SIL are constantly going out to dinner, going on vacations, upgrading their house, buying expensive things for the kids... all the things most of us want to be able to do in life. He constantly posts about his promotions and random checks he gets for team work from his job and "humble brags" - and she constantly posts about how her business is doing great and blah blah. But, they both have massive credit card debt and are up to their eye balls in loans. You wouldn't know it if you weren't close friends or family. I judge them so hard, because why not give up going out to eat every night to pay off some of that debt? But I also get so jealous that they're doing those things while we can wait months before having a little bit of extra money to go out to dinner. The only reason we're affording our trip to Arkansas to see my brother is because we got a payment from our mortgage bank from over-paying on taxes last year. ETA: We're going to Arkansas to visit another brother of mine, not him. I have 4 brothers, just for clarification...
I'm not saying it doesn't suck to watch other people live happily and seemingly care-free and lavishly while you're scrimping by, not by any means, but I will say that unless you know their situation and know how they're paying for it all, they could actually be screwing themselves in the long run for a few years of enjoyment. People go house-broke all the time. I learned the hard way not to envy what other's have, because it's not always what it may seem. *shrug*
WTF to my college's constant texts about random articles and crap. And WTF to the most recent one applying so good to my situation right now: Unhealthy friendship? How to salvage or end it. [Link] HOW DID YOU KNOW?!
@PepperAT ughh I cant stand salesmen! We live on a main road so it's constant, especially lawn services and churches. I do the same though, hide and let the dogs bark till they go away. DH is at the door ready to grab his dang revolver most of the time. We actually have a sign I painted by the door kinda like this one:
But I personalized a little. We've found our religion, we aren't interested politics, we do our own lawn, girl scouts welcome.
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WTF to McDonalds. I wait in the drive thru line for 15 minutes before getting to the first window, only to be told their card machine just went down. I said I don't have any cash... Wait another 5 minutes, manager comes to the window and says, yea, our machine is down, if you don't have cash there's nothing we can do. What the actual F? I have been waiting in line for 20 min total now, on my hour lunch break, and now I'm going to have to get back out in this pouring rain, wait in another drive thru line, and not get to run my errand that I needed to run on my lunch break. I have a hard time believing that McDonald's has no way to manually run a credit or debit card. Or, type up a sign to put on their speaker box that says, "cash only, credit card machine is down" Yes, I complained to McDonalds corporate. Yes, I acted like a total entitled brat.
#hangryprobs
Me: 33 DH: 36 Together since 2007 Happily Ever After 4.30.2015 ~~One Beautiful Daughter~~ Born: 11.6.2017 Trying for #2!!
@DoctorDonna your students sound annoying, but it's funny, because I can totally relate. I tell them to stop talking, and they argue with me and say they weren't. I SAW you! With my eyes! I didn't just randomly decided to blame you.
@thj101 No shame about complaining about the McDonald's drive thru! I once got super pissed because I waiting in the line for fries (my go to hangover cure) on a Sunday and didn't realize that lunch started later. I was 20 minutes early for fries. It was not a high point in my life... I basically got snotty (you know, in the damn McDonald's line) because they didn't have fries and I didn't want anything else. So I drove off with nothing.
This thread showed up late today... My WTF is how much extra work I've just been handed. There's this new fancy regulation that all chemical SDSs have to been GHS compliant and blah blah blah. So every single chemical we have at our facility has to have a compliant SDS. By June 1. We have THOUSANDS of chemicals and most of those we get from more than one supplier, so a couple thousand more there.... Thousands and thousands. So now I have to get a list from every singe department of what chemicals they use/have, compile one master list of every chemical, maintain an inventory spreadsheet, go through the SDSs we do have, and see if they are complaint. If they aren't I have to hunt one down from the supplier, many of which are overseas and take a million years to respond. By June. I have to physically look through thousands of SDSs. By June. By myself. oh, and do my regular job as well, which is already a lot to handle. WTF.
TTC #1 since September 2014 Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI
(count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low
progesterone Check out my Infertility blog Check out my Infertility Instagram
Loss History (TW):
BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015 BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015 BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015 BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018 BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
TTC History (TW):
3 losses in 2015 Met with OBGYN in January 2016 Me: all clear, H: OAT November 2016: HSG = All
Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt
#1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17 December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC) Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA) FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018 May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus" FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019 Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two! Lost Baby A 02 July 2018 Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018 Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
Next Up:
TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. ER#2 ~Jan 2019
Please read, I deserve to get made fun of. So much shame. AHHHH
So, total BSC moment. It's a good one. I'm normally pretty good, if anything, I normally sway on the side of negativity. But the other day I was laying in bed watching tv and all of a sudden I had the weirdest feeling. I swear I felt something that I can only compare to a baby kicking. It was so strange. It wasn't just a tiny bubble of gas or something. My stomach visably moved. I swear. It was so strange. So immediately I was like "OMG, I'm one of these 'I didn't know I was pregnant' women who got their period throughout pregnancy. I'm totally KU! That would explain why I've been having heartburn and I'm so tired and I have worked out so hard and can't seem to lose any weight!" And then I realized that's ridiculous.
TTC #1 since September 2014 Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI
(count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low
progesterone Check out my Infertility blog Check out my Infertility Instagram
Loss History (TW):
BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015 BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015 BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015 BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018 BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
TTC History (TW):
3 losses in 2015 Met with OBGYN in January 2016 Me: all clear, H: OAT November 2016: HSG = All
Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt
#1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17 December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC) Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA) FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018 May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus" FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019 Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two! Lost Baby A 02 July 2018 Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018 Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
Next Up:
TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. ER#2 ~Jan 2019
My WTF goes to The Bump today. I finally got so annoyed with mobile Bumping that I took advantage of their 'We need to talk' app feedback. Listed all the issues I had ('You don't have permission to do this' pop-ups, the constant errors, the logging me out, weird time stamps, inconsistent 'new' flags) and basically just said that the constant bugs made using a forum that is incredibly valuable, very unpleasant to use. I actually got an email back from the admins saying they were aware of the issues, and they were releasing an update that should fix them all.
Last week my nice personal phone (Samsung Galaxy Note 5) bit the dust and I had to wait until Monday for my replacement. In the meantime I downloaded The Bump app on my crappy work phone (iPhone 4). Lo and behold it's the new updated app. Actually got confused downloading it because it looks so different. Used it over the the weekend and while phone itself is a piece of garbage and made it difficult to type on, the app was great. No errors at all.
So where's the Android update?? WTF The Bump??!
Me: 32 DH: 33 Married: October 2015 TTC #1: October 2015 EDD #1: June/July 2017
@PepperAT and @housewifehobbyist - I NEVER answer the door. I can't deal with telling people no. The shades that face the front of my house are always closed so they can't see I'm home. The one time I did answer the door, my elderly neighbor guy was there, actually crying about how they put their dog down that morning (super sad!) and how they wanted hubster and me to come get all of their dead dog's things for our dogs (super creepy!) We did. After an hour in their smoke-fillrd house, we ended up with this:
I rarely update my apps (I have an iPhone 6), so when I saw what you just wrote, @MelissaM090 , I headed to the app store and updated. and OMG, SO DIFFERENT. It took me a minute to find because the whole thing is redesigned. Much, much better though. Kudos to you!!
TTC #1 since September 2014 Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI
(count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low
progesterone Check out my Infertility blog Check out my Infertility Instagram
Loss History (TW):
BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015 BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015 BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015 BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018 BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
TTC History (TW):
3 losses in 2015 Met with OBGYN in January 2016 Me: all clear, H: OAT November 2016: HSG = All
Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt
#1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17 December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC) Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA) FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018 May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus" FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019 Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two! Lost Baby A 02 July 2018 Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018 Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
Next Up:
TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. ER#2 ~Jan 2019
My WTF is to my husband. Love him dearly, but I asked him to tidy the house today (he's off) because he's having friends over this weekend. What did he do to tidy the house? He raked half the front lawn because "that's important."
K firstly, no. Secondly, unless you're playing your nerd games outside on the front lawn, we need to clean the INSIDE of the house. Ugh.
My WTF is that there's a random ad for P&G or Walmart that keeps popping up on mobile and then somewhat freezing the browser so I can't click on any of the links and have to refresh over and over. No clue whether it's chrome or the bump.
ETA definitely the bump, just added the app and it's there too grr
I'll keep the backstory light because it's somewhat political but we were having a group lunch at work and got onto a topic and while I normally keep my mouth shut because I know that our opinions differ greatly and while other people feel very free to express their opinions as fact and make other people feel uncomfortable, I don't think those discussions belong in the workplace. But once in a while, they manage to touch a nerve and I feel compelled to at least share the counterpoint and while it probably at best goes in one ear and out the other, maybe it helps them to develop some more nuanced opinions.
Today was one of those days and one of the people tried to shut me down with, basically, that I don't understand because I don't have kids I'm looking to protect. 1. Bite me. 2. Twice. 3. Just because I don't have kids right now, doesn't mean that I don't consider how laws and policies put in place now will affect my future children. 4. Just because I don't have kids of my own, doesn't mean that I don't give a crap about the safety of kids in general. 5. You should check where you're getting your stats from because there are stats to support my opinion and the stats to support yours are very, very weak. There's hardly any even strictly anecdotal evidence to your opinions.
@mrsstuessy I know how you feel. It's really hard some days to see what others have and be okay with being on a different path. Just remind yourself that you two are building something together with hard work, determination, and sacrifice. You're playing the long game. It will pay off and when those days come, you two can be super proud of yourselves because you worked to get there. And, you never really 100% know what's going on in the background. They might have insane amounts of CC debt. @sLass42 One of the best things I ever did was to dump our first realtor. Sounds like this one wants all the commission, with none of the work. Rural areas are a little tougher (no Redfin, I presume) but you can use Zillow to get pretty far. The investors with cash are the hard part. Depending on your timeline, you might also look at other loan options. Ours was something like 3.5-5% down, we did pay the PMI in one lump sum, but our interest rate was just in the 'normal' range. Or you can wait. There is talk of another housing bubble. @sammajane19 Good luck with the family. Take a look at your list and see what you can pare down or do the easy way. One of the best things H has taught me is that sometimes I don't have to make things so complicated. So do the things you really like or can't source and then get premade of the things that you can. The point of this is family, fun, and happiness, right? @PepperAT I don't know where you live but I'm in a relatively safe place and unless I know for sure who it is and that I'm okay with them, I don't answer the door. I don't owe these people a dang thing. I'm not going to take a risk when I'm home alone for some random idiot. Last time I did it was a tree guy who got condescending with me and asked if he couldn't please speak to the owner (aka man) of the house. @DoctorDonna Did you ask him if he normally just goes around making drool puddles? @thj101 Awww hell to the no. They should have an old manual system. Or tell you to take it for free, sorry about the wait. That's how you create goodwill with customers. Besides, the food costs them a small fraction of what they charge. Then go put up a sign. Complaining is not an entitled brat! They wasted your time and opportunity for a meal. I say this as someone who actually was a manager at a fast food place for a year. That's straight BS. @MommyForTheFirstTime That sounds pretty obnoxious but I do think your job overall sounds pretty cool. As for your BSC, that's pretty funny!
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
@Kiki75 - Nope! I just showed him the picture of him passed out I took of him. Lol! Then I threatened to post it to the school website if he didn't get his work done. Lol!
@sLass42 Sorry to hear house hunting has been so difficult. We bought our home last year through USDA and it took a year to find it. I found so many that looked good online and then my mortgage guy would say no, that won't qualify. In the end we ended up having to go up 50k to find something that wouldn't require a rehab loan. Your agent sounds like a TW, maybe finding a new one will help. FX you find the perfect house soon!
@Dilynne are you married to my husband? My house could be covered in filth and he wouldn't notice. But if the grass is a centimeter longer than he would like everything must come to a complete halt until he has mowed the lawn.
I know I am super, super annoying today. But my hubbs and I were just talking and I was telling him how upset I am that I haven't been losing weight very fast and how I can't believe I weigh almost 250 lb! I just don't feel like it's that much! And he was all "no way, babe you don't weight that much" and I was like, "oh, you're just being nice." Well as it turns out, my hubby deiced to inform me that our scale at home has been broken for a very long time. He said it balancing is off so it adds 53 pounds. I'm like, "uh, I have weighed myself weekly for the past several months and you're just now telling me??" and he said he thought I knew that and was just removing the 53 pound. So I was right! I am not that much! UGH!!!! I'm like 195 or so. WTF, boo???
TTC #1 since September 2014 Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI
(count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low
progesterone Check out my Infertility blog Check out my Infertility Instagram
Loss History (TW):
BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015 BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015 BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015 BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018 BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
TTC History (TW):
3 losses in 2015 Met with OBGYN in January 2016 Me: all clear, H: OAT November 2016: HSG = All
Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt
#1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17 December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC) Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA) FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018 May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus" FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019 Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two! Lost Baby A 02 July 2018 Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018 Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
Next Up:
TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. ER#2 ~Jan 2019
WTF WEATHER?! We had a tornado touch down west of here, so we all got crammed into the school library. All of the teachers were out in the hallway because the kids all smell bad...it's a mixture of BO and Axe Body Spray.
@furbabymom2007 - Haha, Just ask you hubbs. he might be holding back on you. Does this mean on the weekly check in, I win? A dramatic weight loss of 53 pounds in a week ought to do it!!!
TTC #1 since September 2014 Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI
(count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low
progesterone Check out my Infertility blog Check out my Infertility Instagram
Loss History (TW):
BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015 BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015 BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015 BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018 BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
TTC History (TW):
3 losses in 2015 Met with OBGYN in January 2016 Me: all clear, H: OAT November 2016: HSG = All
Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt
#1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17 December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC) Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA) FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018 May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus" FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019 Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two! Lost Baby A 02 July 2018 Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018 Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
Next Up:
TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. ER#2 ~Jan 2019
@kiki75 We went with USDA because we're paying off debt and didn't have too much to put down. But we're saving as we look. A coworker just bought a place in a month with a great realtor and she mentioned the housing bubble too! We might wait it out and keep looking, then switch to FHA or conventional when we have enough of of a downpayment @littlechick2 Like above I'm thinking we keep looking because I'm sure it'll take around a year at this rate. We signed a 2 year lease with the mortgage clause so we kinda planned on that after looking. And I think we'll end up in the same boat, going up $50,000 seems to make a huge difference. The $100,000 range is all rehabs and anything that isn't is snatched up by cash investors by the time we can look! I feel bad about the realtor because she put time into it, but it seems like she is just in it for commission since she doesn't even look at the places first. She also mentioned 3 houses in that it was nice to come back to work after half of last year off...wait so you don't even know the market right now?? But I love our lender and our realtor referred us so I'm just worried about starting over from scratch. Wonder if that's the best plan at this point ugh.
-I'd like to add to the rant that it's annoyingly frustrating because my brother (4 years younger) already has a 4 year old and he bought a house 2 years ago with the same realtor using FHA. He dropped out of HS and they accidently got KU when he was about 20 and his gf only has one tube (said she wasnt able to have kids). So I've got that horrible "I waited and did everything right and now its not happening" feeling looming over me. end re-rant
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(count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low
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Loss History (TW):
BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015 BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015 BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015 BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018 BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
TTC History (TW):
3 losses in 2015 Met with OBGYN in January 2016 Me: all clear, H: OAT November 2016: HSG = All
Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt
#1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17 December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC) Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA) FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018 May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus" FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019 Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two! Lost Baby A 02 July 2018 Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018 Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
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TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. ER#2 ~Jan 2019
@PepperAT I never ever answer the door! I watch way too many scary TV shows and freak out over the tiniest little noises when DH isn't home! If someone comes to the door I always hide!
@DoctorDonna your students make me laugh and remind me of high school but I totally love your "wrongness" gif!
@MelissaM090 I totally agree! My Android app keeps crashing and it is ridiculously hard to post from mobile!
My WTF today is that I just spent 3 hours working on a computer problem (and I had to call the actual IT guy) for one of our physicians so that he could do something on a laptop the he shouldn't even be doing!! I really had big plans for being productive at work today but that all just flew right out the window!
My WTF today is for myself. I got an ultrasound last night to check on my fibroid (now fibroids). The ultrasound tech broke the rule of not giving me any information about my results because she felt bad (I didn't ask; she just said it) and told me how many I had and that they were "almost filling up my uterine cavity." This of course caused me to consult Dr. Google, read about women who had to have surgery to remove them and then were benched for months, and then completely meltdown and post really sad things all over the boards today. If I had waited not even 24 hours I would've gotten my email from my actual doctor who said that although they've grown, she doesn't believe it's time to worry. In the future I'll be a lot more patient and stay off the damn internet when I'm waiting to hear from a professional.
@meilay Hugs! I'm glad you got good news from your doctor even though you were really worried for a bit.
My WTF is the people on the weight watchers connect app. Weight watchers essentially has a form of social media called connect and when they first started I used to jump on there a decent amount. When we started TTC, the Bump really replaced connect as the place I spent my social media time. Today I jumped back on connect because it's nice to see people's motivational stories of weight loss and successes from time to time. Especially the before and after pictures, and the yummy food recipes. What I forgot is that people LOVE to post BFPs on there when they get pregnant as a way of saying "Hey I'm KU and can't go here anymore so bye", and after only a minute or two of scrolling I ran into one. It's like drive by weight watchers style but makes even less sense because it's a weight loss site, not a TTC or pregnancy related site! I don't want to look at things you've peed on in between peoples pictures of delicious healthy looking food.
@thj101 No shame about complaining about the McDonald's drive thru! I once got super pissed because I waiting in the line for fries (my go to hangover cure) on a Sunday and didn't realize that lunch started later. I was 20 minutes early for fries. It was not a high point in my life... I basically got snotty (you know, in the damn McDonald's line) because they didn't have fries and I didn't want anything else. So I drove off with nothing.
God help my DH when I do eventually get KU
When I was pregnant with DS they forgot my nuggets, I cried for an hour and made DH go back and get me some more nuggets
Me - 22 | DH - 32 | Married - 24 May 2014 DS - January 2014
TTC#2 - December 2015
BFP - 6 March 2016 | MC Confirmed - 21 March 2016 TTCAL | April 2016 CP | June 2016 CP | July 2016
Hi ladies. So normally I don't have anything to post here, but today I got a call that judust has me going.....WTF????????????? Back story... I was dating (read sleeping with) this guy that I worked with. We were on and off for about 2 years until one night he decided he would hit on my then best friend while I was passed out. Needless to say I was pissed and quit seeing him and then quit talking to her once I found out that they were going out on dates????? WTF. JEEZ. Fast forward to a couple years after that and this guy starts working at my new job and we start seeing each other again. For about 6 months. I stopped seeing him after I asked him if he was seeing anyone else, and he said yes....again wtf? So fast forward to today..... I got a phone call from a friend that knows our history and she told me that he married the my ex best friend that stopped us from seeing one another. WTF????????? This dude was hitting on every piece of ass that walked by, including me, even after I was engaged. OMG!!!!! I don't have a relationship with my ex friend, but holy hell, I really hope this asshole has gotten his shit together. I don't want for her to be hurt even after everything... wow....WTF
Me: 35 DH: 37 Married: April 2015 TTC #1: Oct 2015 BFP: Dec 2015 / MC: Jan 2016 TTC #2: Mar 2016 DD 16 yrs old 2 Furbabies: Doug and Carla http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5c7c93
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@KristoB Are SDS sheets formerly known as MSDS sheets?! I work at a garden center, we also have thousands of chemicals. Chemicals we sell, chemicals we use, chemicals everywhere! I had to find every fucking MSDS sheet there was. Luckily 90% of them were online, so that was helpful. And then put them in alphabetical order in a filing system so that incase we got audited they could find them easily. But I know what a monumental task that is!
Re: WTF Wednesday
DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016
DD2: April 16, 2017
BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
But glass half full= you got a full education that will last a lifetime and you won't need financial support from others, you can plan an AMAZING 10th anniversary (who cares about 5 anyway right?), and you now have the opportunity to find the perfect home when you're ready (maybe they'll get termites).
Bottom line is you win the competition because you got DH!!
I've got a house rant.
We started up the homebuying process in March and are approved for a nifty USDA rural loan. It's 0% down with a locked in interested around 3.6%. Sounds amazing right? Well they only loan the appraisal value and only cover homes (no mobile homes). We've looked at maybe 4 that met our criteria (2 bathroom/ 3br) so far and nothing else has popped up in the rural areas since everyone puts up trailers now. We're also battling with investors in bidding wars. They bring cash in hand and are snatching places up after 2 days on the market.
Our realtor was very helpful at first, she sent listings daily. But she didn't check out the homes before showings. So we couldn't even get into one house, one had the siding falling off from wood rot, and one was on a street no one should ever walk down alone. When we finally found a nice one a month ago we jumped on it, secured the contract, and ordered our inspection.
Inspection was devastating. It had been re-roofed with fungus from moisture growing under the first layer and the plumbing boots left off. The outside was stucco and they laid it over the wood siding about 4 inches thick. They also left holes in the stucco where the fence touched the outer wall, I stuck my finger inside and hit rotting hardy board. Neighbor said the stucco was done 2 years ago and the house has been vacant....2 years of possible water in the walls? Finally in the front bedroom the entire wall was filled with live termites. They said it could possibly go up into the roof.
We submitted the inspection to the seller and they said we'll fix what we deem necessary. I'm assuming they wanted an as-is cash buyer *sigh. We let it go, losing the inspection fees was better then re-doing half a house.
So now we're back at square one. Our realtor is suddenly MIA and hasn't sent over anything in a week or 2. We finally had to renew our rental lease, but added a clause to move out with no penalty if we purchase.
It's getting frustrating because nothings popping up, everything's moving quickly, and we only have off on weekends (get off at around 7 during the week).
Plus once we find something our offer might not even matter if the appraisal is low. We'll have to resubmit at appraised value and hope they don't have a better offer after paying escrow ($500), inspections ($450), and appraisal ($500). This process is so frustrating that I now understand people who rent for life
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i don't have much to bitch about today, in fact i'm really happy that i was able to take my ovidrel shot last night, and am ovulating today. BUT, it's passover, and we have family coming into town this weekend to stay with us. we're going to host the passover meal. this is exciting but stressful. there is still SO MUCH to clean and SO MUCH to cook and i don't know when i'm going to do it all. ughhh.
TTC Since: Nov. 2015
Dx: PCOS
Clomid + Ovidrel, Round I: BFN
Clomid + Ovidrel, Round II: BFN
Clomid+Ovidrel, Round III: BFP! 7/5/16
Am I the only one the doesn't answer their door when home alone? My dog barks and I just try to hide and pretend like there is no one home. When H is home, he answers the door and it drives him crazy when I don't. I'm too scared when I'm alone.
10/2/10
Me:29 H: 31
TTC#1: Aug 2015
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I had a student who fell asleep (like, snoring and drooling on his newspaper) during our reading time and then when I woke him up, he tried to convince me I made it up. He wasn't really sleeping in class.
I also had another student listening to music. He had the paper up in front of his face so that I couldn't see his ears. When I asked him to turn off his phone and bring it up to me, he said, "But Miss, I'm reading." Yeah, buddy, but you aren't supposed to have your phone on in class. Bring it up here. When he finally brought it up and was back to his seat, he put the newspaper back up in front of his face, like he's trying to prove I'm full of shit.
Ugh...sooooo over this school year!!!
My brother and SIL are constantly going out to dinner, going on vacations, upgrading their house, buying expensive things for the kids... all the things most of us want to be able to do in life. He constantly posts about his promotions and random checks he gets for team work from his job and "humble brags" - and she constantly posts about how her business is doing great and blah blah.
But, they both have massive credit card debt and are up to their eye balls in loans. You wouldn't know it if you weren't close friends or family. I judge them so hard, because why not give up going out to eat every night to pay off some of that debt? But I also get so jealous that they're doing those things while we can wait months before having a little bit of extra money to go out to dinner. The only reason we're affording our trip to Arkansas to see my brother is because we got a payment from our mortgage bank from over-paying on taxes last year.
ETA: We're going to Arkansas to visit another brother of mine, not him. I have 4 brothers, just for clarification...
I'm not saying it doesn't suck to watch other people live happily and seemingly care-free and lavishly while you're scrimping by, not by any means, but I will say that unless you know their situation and know how they're paying for it all, they could actually be screwing themselves in the long run for a few years of enjoyment. People go house-broke all the time.
I learned the hard way not to envy what other's have, because it's not always what it may seem. *shrug*
WTF to my college's constant texts about random articles and crap. And WTF to the most recent one applying so good to my situation right now:
Unhealthy friendship? How to salvage or end it. [Link]
HOW DID YOU KNOW?!
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
We actually have a sign I painted by the door kinda like this one:
But I personalized a little.
We've found our religion, we aren't interested politics, we do our own lawn, girl scouts welcome.
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DH: 36
Together since 2007
Happily Ever After 4.30.2015
~~One Beautiful Daughter~~ Born: 11.6.2017
Trying for #2!!
I feel your pain.
No shame about complaining about the McDonald's drive thru! I once got super pissed because I waiting in the line for fries (my go to hangover cure) on a Sunday and didn't realize that lunch started later. I was 20 minutes early for fries. It was not a high point in my life... I basically got snotty (you know, in the damn McDonald's line) because they didn't have fries and I didn't want anything else. So I drove off with nothing.
God help my DH when I do eventually get KU
DH: 36
Together since 2007
Happily Ever After 4.30.2015
~~One Beautiful Daughter~~ Born: 11.6.2017
Trying for #2!!
My WTF is how much extra work I've just been handed. There's this new fancy regulation that all chemical SDSs have to been GHS compliant and blah blah blah. So every single chemical we have at our facility has to have a compliant SDS. By June 1. We have THOUSANDS of chemicals and most of those we get from more than one supplier, so a couple thousand more there.... Thousands and thousands. So now I have to get a list from every singe department of what chemicals they use/have, compile one master list of every chemical, maintain an inventory spreadsheet, go through the SDSs we do have, and see if they are complaint. If they aren't I have to hunt one down from the supplier, many of which are overseas and take a million years to respond. By June. I have to physically look through thousands of SDSs. By June. By myself. oh, and do my regular job as well, which is already a lot to handle.
WTF.
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
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BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
My WTF is that I have to go to physical therapy again tonight.. for an injury that happened almost 2 months ago...so stupid.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #1: January 2008
Surprise BFP: November 2009
CP: September 2016
So, total BSC moment. It's a good one. I'm normally pretty good, if anything, I normally sway on the side of negativity. But the other day I was laying in bed watching tv and all of a sudden I had the weirdest feeling. I swear I felt something that I can only compare to a baby kicking. It was so strange. It wasn't just a tiny bubble of gas or something. My stomach visably moved. I swear. It was so strange. So immediately I was like "OMG, I'm one of these 'I didn't know I was pregnant' women who got their period throughout pregnancy. I'm totally KU! That would explain why I've been having heartburn and I'm so tired and I have worked out so hard and can't seem to lose any weight!" And then I realized that's ridiculous.
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
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BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
Last week my nice personal phone (Samsung Galaxy Note 5) bit the dust and I had to wait until Monday for my replacement. In the meantime I downloaded The Bump app on my crappy work phone (iPhone 4). Lo and behold it's the new updated app. Actually got confused downloading it because it looks so different. Used it over the the weekend and while phone itself is a piece of garbage and made it difficult to type on, the app was great. No errors at all.
So where's the Android update?? WTF The Bump??!
DH: 33
Married: October 2015
TTC #1: October 2015
EDD #1: June/July 2017
Never again.
Married 10/12/13
TTC #1 since 10/15
Chart!
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
Check out my Infertility blog
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BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
K firstly, no. Secondly, unless you're playing your nerd games outside on the front lawn, we need to clean the INSIDE of the house. Ugh.
Also, I'm still Oscar the Grouch.
Married: 04/05/15
TTC since: 02/16/16
ETA definitely the bump, just added the app and it's there too grr
Today was one of those days and one of the people tried to shut me down with, basically, that I don't understand because I don't have kids I'm looking to protect. 1. Bite me. 2. Twice. 3. Just because I don't have kids right now, doesn't mean that I don't consider how laws and policies put in place now will affect my future children. 4. Just because I don't have kids of my own, doesn't mean that I don't give a crap about the safety of kids in general. 5. You should check where you're getting your stats from because there are stats to support my opinion and the stats to support yours are very, very weak. There's hardly any even strictly anecdotal evidence to your opinions.
@mrsstuessy I know how you feel. It's really hard some days to see what others have and be okay with being on a different path. Just remind yourself that you two are building something together with hard work, determination, and sacrifice. You're playing the long game. It will pay off and when those days come, you two can be super proud of yourselves because you worked to get there. And, you never really 100% know what's going on in the background. They might have insane amounts of CC debt.
@sLass42 One of the best things I ever did was to dump our first realtor. Sounds like this one wants all the commission, with none of the work. Rural areas are a little tougher (no Redfin, I presume) but you can use Zillow to get pretty far. The investors with cash are the hard part. Depending on your timeline, you might also look at other loan options. Ours was something like 3.5-5% down, we did pay the PMI in one lump sum, but our interest rate was just in the 'normal' range. Or you can wait. There is talk of another housing bubble.
@sammajane19 Good luck with the family. Take a look at your list and see what you can pare down or do the easy way. One of the best things H has taught me is that sometimes I don't have to make things so complicated. So do the things you really like or can't source and then get premade of the things that you can. The point of this is family, fun, and happiness, right?
@PepperAT I don't know where you live but I'm in a relatively safe place and unless I know for sure who it is and that I'm okay with them, I don't answer the door. I don't owe these people a dang thing. I'm not going to take a risk when I'm home alone for some random idiot. Last time I did it was a tree guy who got condescending with me and asked if he couldn't please speak to the owner (aka man) of the house.
@DoctorDonna Did you ask him if he normally just goes around making drool puddles?
@thj101 Awww hell to the no. They should have an old manual system. Or tell you to take it for free, sorry about the wait. That's how you create goodwill with customers. Besides, the food costs them a small fraction of what they charge. Then go put up a sign. Complaining is not an entitled brat! They wasted your time and opportunity for a meal. I say this as someone who actually was a manager at a fast food place for a year. That's straight BS.
@MommyForTheFirstTime That sounds pretty obnoxious but I do think your job overall sounds pretty cool. As for your BSC, that's pretty funny!
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
Check out my Infertility blog
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BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
Check out my Infertility blog
Check out my Infertility Instagram
BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
@littlechick2 Like above I'm thinking we keep looking because I'm sure it'll take around a year at this rate. We signed a 2 year lease with the mortgage clause so we kinda planned on that after looking. And I think we'll end up in the same boat, going up $50,000 seems to make a huge difference. The $100,000 range is all rehabs and anything that isn't is snatched up by cash investors by the time we can look!
I feel bad about the realtor because she put time into it, but it seems like she is just in it for commission since she doesn't even look at the places first. She also mentioned 3 houses in that it was nice to come back to work after half of last year off...wait so you don't even know the market right now?? But I love our lender and our realtor referred us so I'm just worried about starting over from scratch. Wonder if that's the best plan at this point ugh.
-I'd like to add to the rant that it's annoyingly frustrating because my brother (4 years younger) already has a 4 year old and he bought a house 2 years ago with the same realtor using FHA. He dropped out of HS and they accidently got KU when he was about 20 and his gf only has one tube (said she wasnt able to have kids). So I've got that horrible "I waited and did everything right and now its not happening" feeling looming over me.
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Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
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BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
A for effort!
@PepperAT I never ever answer the door! I watch way too many scary TV shows and freak out over the tiniest little noises when DH isn't home! If someone comes to the door I always hide!
@DoctorDonna your students make me laugh and remind me of high school but I totally love your "wrongness" gif!
@MelissaM090 I totally agree! My Android app keeps crashing and it is ridiculously hard to post from mobile!
My WTF today is that I just spent 3 hours working on a computer problem (and I had to call the actual IT guy) for one of our physicians so that he could do something on a laptop the he shouldn't even be doing!! I really had big plans for being productive at work today but that all just flew right out the window!
Me: 26 Hubs: 28
Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017
My WTF is the people on the weight watchers connect app. Weight watchers essentially has a form of social media called connect and when they first started I used to jump on there a decent amount. When we started TTC, the Bump really replaced connect as the place I spent my social media time. Today I jumped back on connect because it's nice to see people's motivational stories of weight loss and successes from time to time. Especially the before and after pictures, and the yummy food recipes. What I forgot is that people LOVE to post BFPs on there when they get pregnant as a way of saying "Hey I'm KU and can't go here anymore so bye", and after only a minute or two of scrolling I ran into one. It's like drive by weight watchers style but makes even less sense because it's a weight loss site, not a TTC or pregnancy related site! I don't want to look at things you've peed on in between peoples pictures of delicious healthy looking food.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #1: January 2008
Surprise BFP: November 2009
CP: September 2016
DS - January 2014
TTCAL | April 2016
CP | June 2016
CP | July 2016
Married: April 2015
TTC #1: Oct 2015
BFP: Dec 2015 / MC: Jan 2016
TTC #2: Mar 2016
DD 16 yrs old
2 Furbabies: Doug and Carla
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@meilay Girllll that is AMAZING news!