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Long Distance Pregnancy?

november1992november1992 member
in October 2016 Moms
My husband is in the military and is about to leave to overseas for the next year, right in the middle of this pregnancy. Any other mamas going through, or have been through, their pregnancy alone? And any advice?? Thanks ahead of time!
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Re: Long Distance Pregnancy?

  • F47F47 member
    I am not going through this, nor have I. But, I wanted to send you my good thoughts. I can't imagine how difficult that would be. For both of you! I hope you have a good support system still at home. <3
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  • november1992november1992 member
    Aw thank you, that's very sweet to say. I made the decision to move back near family and friends while my husband is away so I have the added support system. Hope all is well with you and yours  <3
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  • allisonkm2allisonkm2 member
    I had to do it alone for about 6 months total of my last pregnancy. Hubby had to go away for military training in another state. To top it all off, I got laid off about a month in, so it was just me, netflix, and lots of job applications (with no luck). He was able to make it back though before baby was born (by about 36 hours).

    My sister-in-law was in a very similar situation as you. Baby was born about 5-6 months after he deployed. He got to watch from overseas, which I thought was very nice. She just took the time to be with her family, and then to bond with her baby.

    My advice would be to get together with good friends who support you, a hobby to keep you busy (I crocheted a baby blanket), and FaceTime/Skype with him whenever you can. It will be over soon. My thoughts are with you!
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  • november1992november1992 member
    While it's nice to have someone to relate to, it sucks you had to go through it alone as well. Thank you for sharing with me. I'm hoping to restart my education this month, between that and focusing on the baby I should be super busy and well distracted. I actually bought a few crocheting guides and tons of yarn! I figured it was a good skill to learn, as well as an added distraction. 
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  • marygrace0729marygrace0729 member
    I completely understand what you are going through! My husband is in the military too and just left for a year deployment overseas as well. We are also towards the middle of our pregnancy. It helps to have family and friends close for a good support system, but for me it's still very tough because they aren't my husband :( UgH.. The life of a military family. 
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  • november1992november1992 member
    I'm so sorry you're going through the same thing! It truly does suck. 
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  • marygrace0729marygrace0729 member
    It really does suck! We have been through a ton of deployments but this one seems to be the hardest. 
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  • heart_of_virginiaheart_of_virginia member
    My husband was in the military for the first three years of our marriage. He was gone training for my first pregnancy, home for the birth, then deployed two weeks later. It was not easy. It was a hard pregnancy to begin with, I had to go to the hospital twice a week to get fluids through an IV for the entire pregnancy. I got infection after infection, then ended up with pre-eclampsia. I was 2 states away from family. We had just moved to that state a month before my husband left for training, so I knew no one. And I'm a baby, so its a miracle I made it through haha. All I know, is that pregnancy is what made all the hard things seem ok. It made being alone in a new place as a newlywed, for such long periods of time, bearable. Once I started feeling her kicks all day, it was easier to focus on her and preparing for her. It was the hardest time in my life, but it seems much worse to me when I think about it now, than when I was actually going through it. I'm sorry for anyone that has to go through pregnancy alone, especially for those that have to do the birth alone. Focusing on your baby and when the time will come that you can all be together again makes it easier. 
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  • Schell2013Schell2013 member
    I don't have a military husband but my husband in my first and second pregnancies was gone a lot for work, sometimes only a few weeks, sometimes months. It was hard especially when the baby was moving around and he wasn't there to feel those first kicks, or help get the nursery ready. However, I made it through with the help of my mom, her and I are really close and it helped me to have someone aupportive there. 
    So your not alone! I took lots of belly pictures, shared all my ultrasound pictures and as many pictures as I could to make it feel like he was a part of things too. 
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