Thanks for your support and love guys. I am so beyond ticked. I'm glad you guys are here because I was starting to feel like she was right. Maybe I don't have a place caring for babies. I don't feel quite as crazy now.
@MrsBinPA- Well I am so glad you come to us for support. It's a great way to cope and really shows your strength. Keep your head up.
TTC #1 since September 2014 Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI
(count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low
progesterone Check out my Infertility blog Check out my Infertility Instagram
Loss History (TW):
BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015 BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015 BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015 BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018 BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
TTC History (TW):
3 losses in 2015 Met with OBGYN in January 2016 Me: all clear, H: OAT November 2016: HSG = All
Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt
#1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17 December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC) Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA) FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018 May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus" FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019 Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two! Lost Baby A 02 July 2018 Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018 Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
Next Up:
TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. ER#2 ~Jan 2019
Guys. Should I add a trigger warning to my siggy? I see you have one @MommyForTheFirstTime I feel like triggers are overly used for loss. It's a reality of TTC. I understand if I was posting in a BMB, but for TTC it just seems a bit like overkill. It's my history and I'm not ashamed of it, but I also don't want to be insensitive either.
@MommyForTheFirstTime What the fuck is the matter with these people?! I'm sorry you've had to deal with not one, but two insensitive and clearly delusional bitches. You're clearly a better person than I am because I would have lost my shit. I'm so sorry. You deserve all of the love and support
Guys. Should I add a trigger warning to my siggy? I see you have one @MommyForTheFirstTime I feel like triggers are overly used for loss. It's a reality of TTC. I understand if I was posting in a BMB, but for TTC it just seems a bit like overkill. It's my history and I'm not ashamed of it, but I also don't want to be insensitive either.
Thoughts welcome!
I only did because I saw so many others have. I agree with you, if it were up to me, I would never use a TW because it doesn't bother me and it's part of the territory. Even for BFP, I get happy not sad. I dunno. I wish there was just a broad, "TW not needed here" for the group
TTC #1 since September 2014 Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI
(count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low
progesterone Check out my Infertility blog Check out my Infertility Instagram
Loss History (TW):
BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015 BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015 BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015 BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018 BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
TTC History (TW):
3 losses in 2015 Met with OBGYN in January 2016 Me: all clear, H: OAT November 2016: HSG = All
Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt
#1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17 December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC) Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA) FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018 May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus" FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019 Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two! Lost Baby A 02 July 2018 Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018 Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
Next Up:
TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. ER#2 ~Jan 2019
@loveinak - They both like totally threw me off. I just stood there both times with my mouth wide open. I would have reacted if I had seen it coming but I just stood there appalled. I still can't even fathom what would posses someone to say these things. Especially that second one. Who says "God thinks you'll be a bad mom?" What the heck. I mean. What the actual heck?
TTC #1 since September 2014 Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI
(count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low
progesterone Check out my Infertility blog Check out my Infertility Instagram
Loss History (TW):
BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015 BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015 BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015 BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018 BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
TTC History (TW):
3 losses in 2015 Met with OBGYN in January 2016 Me: all clear, H: OAT November 2016: HSG = All
Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt
#1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17 December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC) Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA) FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018 May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus" FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019 Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two! Lost Baby A 02 July 2018 Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018 Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
Next Up:
TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. ER#2 ~Jan 2019
@MommyForTheFirstTime wow. just wow. I can't believe the things that come out of peoples' mouths sometimes....even thinking something like that in your head is horrible, but who actually thinks these things and then think, "yup, that's a good thing to say out loud"...I can't even imagine how that feels for you in the situation.
I really hope the other ladies at your work interjected and didn't just stand there awkwardly letting that new girl be such a heartless, unempathetic, uninformed moron.
TTGP history (*TW*):
Started TTC Oct 2015 BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016 Re-started TTC Aug 2016 Started IF testing Nov 2016 Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017 BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
question for you ladies....if I quote something with a picture (of a dreaded pee stick), is that a do or don't. I know we like to quote things so that others can see what is frowned upon, but the pee stick is still in my quote....
QBF Stuck in Quotebox! @zoey1019 Admin took it down and it's gone from your quote too...so you don't have to worry about the quote
TTGP history (*TW*):
Started TTC Oct 2015 BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016 Re-started TTC Aug 2016 Started IF testing Nov 2016 Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017 BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
@Buthayna - Most of the ladies had walked away by the time she opened her mouth, but the two who hear turned around super fast and stared her down. Something along the lines of "why the hell would you say that" and "you don't even know her" and "you're wrong and totally out of line" were all said while I just stood there like an idiot.
TTC #1 since September 2014 Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI
(count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low
progesterone Check out my Infertility blog Check out my Infertility Instagram
Loss History (TW):
BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015 BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015 BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015 BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018 BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
TTC History (TW):
3 losses in 2015 Met with OBGYN in January 2016 Me: all clear, H: OAT November 2016: HSG = All
Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt
#1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17 December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC) Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA) FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018 May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus" FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019 Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two! Lost Baby A 02 July 2018 Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018 Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
Next Up:
TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. ER#2 ~Jan 2019
@MommyForTheFirstTime I'm glad they had your back, at least, but it doesn't take away the pain of what was said in the first place
TTGP history (*TW*):
Started TTC Oct 2015 BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016 Re-started TTC Aug 2016 Started IF testing Nov 2016 Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017 BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
@mommyforthefirsttime I am so sorry you have to deal with that. I know I would be a mess if someone said 1 of those things to me let alone 2x. No one should ever have to be told such horrible things. You are a good person and will be a great mother. I hope the rest of your day is much better.
@MommyfortheFirst WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. You will make a wonderful mother - I'm a stranger staring at a glowing box from who knows how far away, and even I can tell that. What kind of an actual sociopath would actually say that to someone? I hope you all shun her and treat her like the dumpster fire she is.
@MommyForTheFirstTime People are so freaking stupid! I am so sorry that they've apparently congregated near you. I am so so sorry! And very impressed you didn't throat punch them. A throat punch is appropriate
Guys. You have no idea. I was telling my work friends about it this morning because they all know everything about my losses and all that (kinda hard to hide when the m/c starts at work...), but anyway there is a relatively new girl that was with the group of us as I was talking about it and I think this is the first she heard of my "issues." Anyway, she was one of "those people" and kept saying things like, "well maybe you should relax a little" and "oh, you're only 25, you have time." So, as we are breaking up to go and actually do our job, she said "well maybe this is God's way of saying you'd make a bad mom, so maybe you should just stop trying and listen to Him." Like. Wow. What a flipping great week so far. Edit because Mobile sucks
Did you slap her? I probably would have.
Me: 32 DH: 31
Married: July 14, 2007 TTC #1: January 2008 Surprise BFP: November 2009
@MommyForTheFirstTime People are assholes! Violence is the answer! Punch Em in the Face!
*TW - Miscarriage mentioned* My MBF is my chart. DH and I have been benched post miscarriage until AF decides to rear her head, so I started temping again a few days after my loss so I wouldn't be freaking out about the length of my cycle. FF gave me an "O" date about 10 days ago which was CD 11 (Bases on my heaviest day of bleeding for the miscarriage) and I was pretty excited it happened so quickly and found it calming that my body had regulated so quickly. Anyway Saturday my temp dropped and I started cramping, so I thought Aunt Flow was coming. I had some spotting when I wiped, and the next day my temp dropped again and FF took away my CH and still no AF. Which sucks, cause I was rearing to get going again and now, I might not even have O'd yet. I hate my body.
@MommyForTheFirstTime I just....I don't even know what to say. That makes me speechless! Unreal. So sorry you had to face all these ignorant people this weekend/today!! I honestly feel like sometimes it's the super religious people who can be really judgmental. Not everyone obviously, not the good ones lol. Geez lady, be nice to yourself today!!
@mommyforthefirsttime -- I can't believe anyone would say that to you. If anything, you working in there is a selfless act and they should recognize that. Also, your coworker sounds like a freaking bitch. What a stupid misguided thing to say. *hugs*
@MommyForTheFirstTime You absolutely win the MBF today. Either of those stories would be awful on their own but to have them both.. unbelievable. Creepy internet hugs to you.
My MBF is that it's snowing. FFS.
Me: 32 DH: 33 Married: October 2015 TTC #1: October 2015 EDD #1: June/July 2017
@mommyforthefirsttime I'm really sorry that you experienced that. I know the whole experience must have been really hard.
My MBF is that we went on vacation for the weekend and ate crappy food all weekend. I figured I would grab some pizza when we got back into town but now my stomach is all "eat a vegatable, woman" and I don't want to go to the groccery store.
I only got through page 1... but I just need to tell @MommyForTheFirstTimehow sorry I am that someone did that. I am in shock.. Like, how is that ok? On of my good friends from church has struggled with infertility for about 8 years now. And now she has severe chronic pain so she can't even try through IVF or anything right now. She watched DD in the nursery and has been the best nursery worker for years. The thought that someone would so that about someone I love so much (or anyone) just brought tears to my eyes. Again, so sorry and shame on them!
Me: 28 year old SAHM/Birth Doula DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
Married: October 8, 2011
DD1: September 24, 2013 BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016 DD2: April 16, 2017 BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
ok, so I was going to post my own BFM but after @MommyForTheFirstTimeI don't even think I can. As a Christian and someone who listens and talk to God I am so sorry that someone told you something so horrible. Every once and while I shock myself with an awful thought, but I would never, never. NEVER say them out loud. And I promise she wasn't telling you the truth. you will be a wonderful mother. It is so obvious, even on the internet.
Me: 28 year old SAHM/Birth Doula DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
Married: October 8, 2011
DD1: September 24, 2013 BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016 DD2: April 16, 2017 BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
@MommyForTheFirstTime - Wow. Just wow. Some people just don't get it. I'm sorry you had to go through 2(!) things like that in one day! Go do something really great for yourself. Fuck them!
@MommyForTheFirstTime, I have no words, just hugs. I can't believe how often people fail to think through the ramifications of their stupid, stupid words. I'm sorry you had to deal with both assholes.
I have a MBF today and it's kind of vain and definitely pretty mild compared to others, but I found out I have pityriasis rosea, which is more or less a rash that hangs around for six to eight weeks on average - sometimes as long as 12 weeks. It doesn't itch, but it's on my chest and neck and upper arms, so it's super visible and I'm super self conscious about people thinking I'm diseased. Potentially all summer. *sigh*
Me - 30 DH - 36 Married 10/12/13 TTC #1 since 10/15 Chart!
First off, thank you to everyone who wished me a happy birthday. It put a huge smile on my face! I wish I could tag you all but I'm on mobile and its being wonky.
Secondly, @MommyForTheFirstTime ..... So many hugs. I am just in shock that someone would say that to you... Or even think it! You are going to be an amazing mother. Those babies in the nursery are lucky to have you there.
@Mommyforthefirsttime The ignorance of people really does shock me sometimes. I am so terribly sorry for both encounters. Please let some of what the women on here are saying soak in. It is not you. It is them. They are idiots. You WILL be an amazing mother someday. If you need me, I'm happy to come Melissa McCarthy your co-worker. For realz.
@MommyForTheFirstTime I am so so sorry for the horrible insensitivity you have had to deal with! I am constantly shocked by the number of people who don't filter the things they say! I am glad that you turned to this board for support! Hoping you get the chance to get out and do something that makes you smile today Those children at the nursery are so lucky to have you there for them and don't let anyone make you feel differently about that! Sending creepy internet hugs to you
Guys. Ya'll made me cry. I've been so upset all day and you guys have shown so much love. Did every single contributing member post for me? Seems like it. This is why I am so in love with this community. I can't believe how many of you took time out of your day to make me feel a little better. I don't even know what to say. You guys are seriously the best. Seriously. I just love you guys.
TTC #1 since September 2014 Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI
(count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low
progesterone Check out my Infertility blog Check out my Infertility Instagram
Loss History (TW):
BFP: 3 May 2015, loss confirmed 4 June 2015 BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015 BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015 BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018 BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
TTC History (TW):
3 losses in 2015 Met with OBGYN in January 2016 Me: all clear, H: OAT November 2016: HSG = All
Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt
#1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17 December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC) Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA) FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018 May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus" FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo. BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019 Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two! Lost Baby A 02 July 2018 Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018 Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
Next Up:
TTC Naturally, possibly IUIs for remainder of 2018. ER#2 ~Jan 2019
@MommyForTheFirstTime I think the director should have told that lady who reported you to stop being such a loco biznitch, instructed her to go consider why reporting you was even an urge in her heart, and never mentioned it to you. I want to respond with something more sailor-terms but you said this was at church so I'm trying to clean it up. What? Like you're going to snatch a baby and run in front of three other people? Sooo much stupid. And back-stabbing girl stuff. Who does that where they be all sweet to your face and then think, "WWDJ? I know! Go report her as a threat!" That sucks and it really pisses me off that someone would do that to you.
Me: 34 DH: 38 Married: June 2011 TTC since Feb 2016 BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
Not really a BF but just an "ew" - a couple of girls over on J17 are posting pee sticks. And like. I want to report them, but that's mean. And I want to tell them that it's not allowed, but I'm a dirty lurker. Any grads lurking MBF today that want to throw those girls a bone?
@MommyForTheFirstTime I think the director should have told that lady who reported you to stop being such a loco biznitch, instructed her to go consider why reporting you was even an urge in her heart, and never mentioned it to you. I want to respond with something more sailor-terms but you said this was at church so I'm trying to clean it up. What? Like you're going to snatch a baby and run in front of three other people? Sooo much stupid. And back-stabbing girl stuff. Who does that where they be all sweet to your face and then think, "WWDJ? I know! Go report her as a threat!" That sucks and it really pisses me off that someone would do that to you.
@kiki75@MommyForTheFirstTime Yeah, I've been biting my tongue, but I think it's extremely out of line for the director to have even mentioned her comments to you, let alone expect an explanation. Part of being a supervisor is providing appropriate feedback, keyword appropriate.
If she felt compelled to, maybe something like, "I know you're open about your struggles to conceive, and I applaud that. I do want to caution that some people may be uncomfortable with hearing that information when they weren't expecting it. Going forward, make sure to share personal details only if all members of the conversation seem to be engaged participants. I will be discussing with the team as a whole on how to politely disengage from an uncomfortable conversation."
Covers her butt and gives you the hint that some people are freaking bizarro.
@mylove071407 - it's referring to the January 2017 birth month board. Once you get a BFP you can move over to a birth month board which is the month of your estimate due date (EDD).
Zoey1019 said:
greattttttt...so much to look forward to in J17!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@Zoey1019 - i have been waiting for them to post the J17 board! ::off to lurk:::
Me: 33 DH: 31 DS: 5 years old TTC #2 since August 2015 July 2016: Testing cycle with 100 mg Clomid = BFN August 2016: 50 mg Clomid + IUI = BFN October 2016: IVF#1 - 13 retrieved / 12 mature / 9 fertilized / 2 blasts November 2016: FET#1 = chemical January 2017: FET#2 = chemical March 2017: IVF#2 - 18 retrieved / 18 mature / 16 fertilized / 5 blasts
April 24, 2017: FET#3 - BFN May 24, 2017: FET#4 - BFP! - Beta #1 151 - Beta #2 503 - Due date 2/9/18
Re: Monday Bitchfest
Thanks for your support and love guys. I am so beyond ticked. I'm glad you guys are here because I was starting to feel like she was right. Maybe I don't have a place caring for babies. I don't feel quite as crazy now.
@housewifehobbyist - Thanks for that GIF, I actually giggled.
@MrsBinPA- Well I am so glad you come to us for support. It's a great way to cope and really shows your strength. Keep your head up.
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
Check out my Infertility blog
Check out my Infertility Instagram
BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
I would have had to punch someone in the throat!
BFP #1 8/4/2015, MMC 9/24/2015
DD 2/13/2017
BFP #3 8/24/2017, MC 9/20/2017
BFP #4 11/14/2017, CP
BFP #5 1/5/2018, MC/BO 2/17/2018
BFP #6 7/15/2018, CP
BFP #7 12/15/2018, EDD 8/28/2019
Guys. Should I add a trigger warning to my siggy? I see you have one @MommyForTheFirstTime I feel like triggers are overly used for loss. It's a reality of TTC. I understand if I was posting in a BMB, but for TTC it just seems a bit like overkill. It's my history and I'm not ashamed of it, but I also don't want to be insensitive either.
Thoughts welcome!
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19
I'm so sorry. You deserve all of the love and support
Me: 39 DH: 40
Married: 12/6/2014
BFP#2: 10/28/15 MC: 11/24/15
BFP#3: 3/20/16 MC: 4/26/16
BFP#4: 7/15/16 DD: 3/18/17
BFP#5: 5/1/18 EDD: 1/12/19
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
Check out my Infertility blog
Check out my Infertility Instagram
BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
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BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
I really hope the other ladies at your work interjected and didn't just stand there awkwardly letting that new girl be such a heartless, unempathetic, uninformed moron.
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
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BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #1: January 2008
Surprise BFP: November 2009
CP: September 2016
*TW - Miscarriage mentioned*
My MBF is my chart. DH and I have been benched post miscarriage until AF decides to rear her head, so I started temping again a few days after my loss so I wouldn't be freaking out about the length of my cycle. FF gave me an "O" date about 10 days ago which was CD 11 (Bases on my heaviest day of bleeding for the miscarriage) and I was pretty excited it happened so quickly and found it calming that my body had regulated so quickly. Anyway Saturday my temp dropped and I started cramping, so I thought Aunt Flow was coming. I had some spotting when I wiped, and the next day my temp dropped again and FF took away my CH and still no AF. Which sucks, cause I was rearing to get going again and now, I might not even have O'd yet. I hate my body.
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
You can always have a
Edit for other comments:
@mommyforthefirsttime -- I can't believe anyone would say that to you. If anything, you working in there is a selfless act and they should recognize that. Also, your coworker sounds like a freaking bitch. What a stupid misguided thing to say. *hugs*
My MBF is that it's snowing. FFS.
DH: 33
Married: October 2015
TTC #1: October 2015
EDD #1: June/July 2017
My MBF is that we went on vacation for the weekend and ate crappy food all weekend. I figured I would grab some pizza when we got back into town but now my stomach is all "eat a vegatable, woman" and I don't want to go to the
groccery store.
DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016
DD2: April 16, 2017
BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016
DD2: April 16, 2017
BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
I have a MBF today and it's kind of vain and definitely pretty mild compared to others, but I found out I have pityriasis rosea, which is more or less a rash that hangs around for six to eight weeks on average - sometimes as long as 12 weeks. It doesn't itch, but it's on my chest and neck and upper arms, so it's super visible and I'm super self conscious about people thinking I'm diseased. Potentially all summer. *sigh*
Married 10/12/13
TTC #1 since 10/15
Chart!
Secondly, @MommyForTheFirstTime ..... So many hugs. I am just in shock that someone would say that to you... Or even think it! You are going to be an amazing mother. Those babies in the nursery are lucky to have you there.
@Mommyforthefirsttime The ignorance of people really does shock me sometimes. I am so terribly sorry for both encounters. Please let some of what the women on here are saying soak in. It is not you. It is them. They are idiots. You WILL be an amazing mother someday. If you need me, I'm happy to come Melissa McCarthy your co-worker. For realz.
@clover28 Happy Birthday!!
@MommyForTheFirstTime I am so so sorry for the horrible insensitivity you have had to deal with! I am constantly shocked by the number of people who don't filter the things they say! I am glad that you turned to this board for support! Hoping you get the chance to get out and do something that makes you smile today Those children at the nursery are so lucky to have you there for them and don't let anyone make you feel differently about that! Sending creepy internet hugs to you
Me: 26 Hubs: 28
Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017
Guys. Ya'll made me cry. I've been so upset all day and you guys have shown so much love. Did every single contributing member post for me? Seems like it. This is why I am so in love with this community. I can't believe how many of you took time out of your day to make me feel a little better. I don't even know what to say. You guys are seriously the best. Seriously. I just love you guys.
Diagnoses: RPL, Endometriosis, MFI (count, morph, DNI, DNAS, multiple bilateral subclinical varicoceles), low progesterone
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BFP: 15 August 2015, loss confirmed 23 August 2015
BFP: 16 November 2015, loss confirmed 22 November 2015
BFP: 18 July 2016, loss confirmed same day
BFP: 04 March 2018, loss confirmed 23 March 2018
BFP: 12 June 2018, TWINS; D&C 06 July 2018
Met with OBGYN in January 2016
Me: all clear, H: OAT
November 2016: HSG = All Clear!
January 2017: H tested again, High DNA fragmentation and stainability
February 2017: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
March 2017: Clomid + HCG + IUI + Progesterone = SA/wash: zero count on attempt #1, <1,000 on attempt #2= BFN
Varicocele Embolization- 5 May 17
December 2017 SA: Zero improvement after embolization
January IVF- 25 retrieved, 11 mature, 8 fertilized, 3 frozen day fives (3AA, 3AA, 3AA), 1 frozen day 6 (5BB), 1 frozen day 7 (3CC)
Three PGS normal (3AA, 3AA, 5BB), one inconclusive (3AA)
FET #1: 27 February 2018, 3AA & 5BB, one stuck! BFP 04 March 2018.... Loss confirmed 23 March 2018
May 2018: SHG/SIS = all clear "beautiful uterus"
FET #2: 04 June 2018, 3AA PGS normal embryo, 3AA PGS hatching inconclusive embryo.
BFP: 12 June 2018, EDD 20 February 2019
Ultrasound, 25 June 2018: There are two!
Lost Baby A 02 July 2018
Baby B not growing, D&C 06 July 2018
Laparoscopy, hysteroscopy, chromotubation: 23 July 2018: blocked right tube, heavily inflamed, covered in endo. Removed right tube. Removed more endo from uterus, tubes, ovaries. Endo remains on bladder and bowel.
ER#2 ~Jan 2019
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.
Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW,
because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
Me: 26 Hubs: 28
Married: 6/6/15
Baby Girl: 3/22/2017
Me:31 H:31
DX: MFI - 1% Morph
12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger
ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future)
3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger
ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal
FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #1: January 2008
Surprise BFP: November 2009
CP: September 2016
Yeah, I've been biting my tongue, but I think it's extremely out of line for the director to have even mentioned her comments to you, let alone expect an explanation. Part of being a supervisor is providing appropriate feedback, keyword appropriate.
If she felt compelled to, maybe something like, "I know you're open about your struggles to conceive, and I applaud that. I do want to caution that some people may be uncomfortable with hearing that information when they weren't expecting it. Going forward, make sure to share personal details only if all members of the conversation seem to be engaged participants. I will be discussing with the team as a whole on how to politely disengage from an uncomfortable conversation."
Covers her butt and gives you the hint that some people are freaking bizarro.
Me: 28 & Partner: 32 | Married 2014
BFP 7/29 EDD 4/11
Zoey1019 said: greattttttt...so much to look forward to in J17!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@Zoey1019 - i have been waiting for them to post the J17 board! ::off to lurk:::
DS: 5 years old
TTC #2 since August 2015
July 2016: Testing cycle with 100 mg Clomid = BFN
August 2016: 50 mg Clomid + IUI = BFN
October 2016: IVF#1 - 13 retrieved / 12 mature / 9 fertilized / 2 blasts
November 2016: FET#1 = chemical
January 2017: FET#2 = chemical
March 2017: IVF#2 - 18 retrieved / 18 mature / 16 fertilized / 5 blasts
May 24, 2017: FET#4 - BFP! - Beta #1 151 - Beta #2 503 - Due date 2/9/18
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #1: January 2008
Surprise BFP: November 2009
CP: September 2016