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Things my MIL says LOL

LoveLee85LoveLee85 member
in September 2015 Moms
Do you ever have a conversation with someone and you are so lost trying to follow them the entire time?? Story of my life with my MIL. None of its offensive or anything like that, just mentally exhausting trying to track her. For example, tonight I learned my LO has red/auburn hair!!! LMAO I didn't catch who she said she was talking about to her friend at work, and she said "well your boy and his beautiful strawberry/red/auburn hair!" WTF. I literally looked at my DH, we both are like huh? Then we were so lost we didn't even comment. My LO was born with black hair and it's brown now. He has big blue eyes. In no universe does my son have red or auburn hair?! Not even a shade or highlight of it. She was standing right next to me while I heald my LO...and she was talking about his auburn hair?!?! I love a cute red head but please don't tell people our LO has red hair. They will think you are crazy when they meet him and it's not red. It would be like saying he has brown eyes. Not even kind of close. It was so weird!!!! 

She reminds me of my old grandma, who always got her facts mixed up and said crazy things. Anyone else! 
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Re: Things my MIL says LOL

  • vibarra27vibarra27 member
    Lmao wow thats funny! Annoying i bet, but funny. Does she by any chance have bad eye sight?not to be rude of course. Or is it just her personality like you said?

    Mine isnt quite like that, though she tries to act like she knows my kids more than me. She'll be like well "this twin is easier to make smile than the other." & ill be like "no the other is." Then shell say "this one sleeps more than the other." my response "no they sleep almost the same amount, i have them on the same schedule but on the weekends it shifts since were out & about." or "this twin eats more." my response "no they eat the same amount."

    Just random things like that. Sometimes she'll want to sit there and argue & tell me the contrary & i tell her, "really? Im their mom i know my kids." she used to do it a lot with DD when she was a baby as well. Sometimes I just think to my self "dude! My kids im raising them, you're not gonna know them more than i do!" 

    So i guess she has her facts mixed up as well, or should i say tries to make up her own lol.
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  • ItsmeR30ItsmeR30 member
    Omg @vibarra27 my mil does the same thing! So annoying! And what's worse is that she sees my kids MAYBE twice a year. And she acts like she knows each one of them and their personalities and their likes/dislikes. NOT


    One thing recently I saw her text my husband.. So we were planning a day with her (joy) and they got the day planned out, etc and she says to my husband "oh Rita can come too if she wants".... Uhhhhh, gee, thanks! :|. 
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  • vibarra27vibarra27 member
    @ItsmeR30 lol they see my kids maybe every other week but not enough to think they know them to tell ME their personalities. But i think yours is worse then lol.

    & thats so dumb & messed up! What would make her think your children & husband would be going somewhere without you? 
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  • BrandiLaw87BrandiLaw87 member
    When LO was first born, my MIL always talked about how much she looked like her. I would send her a pic and she would say "oh she looks so Chinese!" 
    DH is less than 25% Chinese. None of his siblings or their kids look Chinese lol. His mom doesn't even! Just to be clear it wouldn't matter if any of them did, I just think it's funny. So does DH.

    She also likes to commit to things with no intention of following through. I think she is legit forgetful and it's getting worse. I love the lady but twice in two weeks she said she would babysit but coukdnt actually do it. I don't have much of a life and to do something without the kids takes a lot of planning, so I take those offers very seriously. 
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  • LoveLee85LoveLee85 member
    I worry because my MIL is early 50's and it's already bad. She's in her own world 90% of the time. My MIL and SIL won't admit my son looks like me. They say he's my DH clone. He literally is my twin. Lol. What's so wrong with that?? It kind of hurts my feelings. 
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  • vibarra27vibarra27 member
    @LoveLee85. Thats how they are! My MIL & my husbands grama claim the kids look like my husband. But my daughter is all me & the boys are all my daughter. Even their family members say they dont look like DH that they look like me..

    They just dont want to give us credit for good looking kids :wink: dont let it get to you. As he gets older & they keep making comments like these it will just roll off your back & you'll learn to not let it get to you!
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  • kdoak2015kdoak2015 member
    My mil did this but it was the eyes, she always talk about my daughters BLUE eyes. Umm they are and always have been brown.
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  • LoveLee85LoveLee85 member
    kdoak2015 said:
    My mil did this but it was the eyes, she always talk about my daughters BLUE eyes. Umm they are and always have been brown.
    Where do they come up with this stuff?! 
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  • etayisloveetayislove member
    Anybody else's MIL like to ask, are the kids sick?! Why are they sick, again?! When the kids are in fact sick. It is so ridiculously stupid and annoying. She acts like her kids never got sick with the common cold, like, ever. She also very much dislikes the fact that we never take them to the doctor when they have said, common cold. Ugh.
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  • LaurenNewphLaurenNewph member
    I'll start off by admitting my mil is mostly wonderful. She's very nice, and keeps her mouth shut most of the time. So far she has only said three things in the last 8.5 months that have annoyed me. The first was she rolled her eyes and told me "yeah right good luck" when I said I wanted to keep my baby on the same schedule as the NICU had him on. He's actually really never strayed from... Obviously adjusting it for age and such but he's been such a schedule-able baby from day one! The second was she bought him a CD player and three lullaby CDs for Easter so "he didn't have watch so much tv." He doesn't watch tv... I do! And then just this week I bought 4 rompers for the warm weather... 4... "I have never seen a baby with so many clothes!" Really lady? He's in 9 mo and he has 10 outfits (11 now that bff bought him a super cute one the other day) and 4 he can't wear until it's hot and 4 he can't wear once it's hot! It just rubbed me the wrong way!
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  • MW5280MW5280 member
    LoveLee85 said:
    kdoak2015 said:
    My mil did this but it was the eyes, she always talk about my daughters BLUE eyes. Umm they are and always have been brown.
    Where do they come up with this stuff?! 
    Right?!?! This is it with my MIL exactly. 

    My MIL, my mom and I have brown eyes. LOs eyes started out gray and MIL was sure they were gonna go blue and be "beautiful" like the older kids. There was no way she was going to have blue. 

    They're all kinds of brown. And she still insists that they could still change. 

    No dice, crazy lady. 

    I just dont don't understand why she so desperately wants her eyes to be blue and not brown. What's wrong with brown???

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  • wannabeamongoosewannabeamongoose member
    LaurenNewph we had the opposite situation. MIL bought baby 3 snow suits in 0-3 months size. Every time we went shopping she insisted that he needed another snow suit, because we just didn't have enough and don't I know how cold it gets in the winter. It only got cold enough for baby to wear them a handful of times before he outgrew them, and on those days we didn't go outside or we would go straight from inside, to car, to inside again. To her credit she lives in Arizona and has no tolerance for the cold and we live in Colorado where people think it's always cold and snowy but actually, where we live, it's beautiful most of the winter. But still. I ended up finally putting him in a snowsuit that was too small, just so I could get a photo of him playing in the snow in his snowsuit because she was so upset that we never used them. Also, she is convinced that baby looks nothing like hubby and constantly tells him so and argues with me when I disagree. It drives him crazy.

    **TW**
    Me & DH: 32
    Married 2013
    Kiddo #1: Sept 2015
    BFP: 1/19, EDD: 9/30

    "I'm having fruit salad for dinner. Well, it's mostly just grapes, actually. Ok all grapes. Fermented grapes. Fine, I'm having wine for dinner."
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  • mrsmctaggart6mrsmctaggart6 member
    Everyone on both sides insists DD looks like me and has my eyes, she absolutely doesn't! I have a weird gray green blue going, hers are exactly my husbands true blue eyes, I pointed that out to my mother and her response was "well yours were like that too and they changed..." Why can no one admit she has her fathers eyes? I honestly think they're prettier, lol
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  • abchrist1abchrist1 member
    I'm convinced MIL's only say the babies look like their kid. Always and with every baby born into the family. Lo was blonde/blue eyes, and pale . I assume he gets it from both his grandpa's since they are too. I'm brown hair/eyes, Dh black hair, Brown eyes., darker skin When lo was born mil said he looks just like his dad. Dh laughed at that because he's always had thick black hair. Then the other day we were meeting my sil's new baby boy, he has a lot of dark hair, looks nothing like my son. And mil is talking about how my Dh looked just like my nephew. How is that possible?
     Same when I had my first. She talks all the time how my daughter looks just like her and my Dh. Reality is that she's the spitting image of me and my grandma. I think mil's have a hard time sharing/admitting we're a part of this too. 
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  • CarolinazTallestCarolinazTallest member
    I have to say my MIL is def in the denial category... My daughter is me all over, except I had a ton of hair and she doesn't yet. But MIL and GMIL will never admit the part I played in making this child... If it was possible to rewrite the truth MIL would be first in line to make it so... I kinda get a kick out of how FIL says "You look just like your mommy, you are so beautiful... I just can't take it"... and MIL scoffs and walks off. Can't hide from the truth lady...
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