Back again. Lessons from my 3rd MC

LaurenDarling · April 2016

It seems like I'm back here time and time again. Yesterday my DH and I went in for an ultrasound at 9w1d and discovered the heartbeat had stopped at 8w4d. To say I'm devistated is an understatement. This was supposed to be the successful one. My HCG was good, I was on progesterone and at 7w there was a strong heartbeat. Since this was number 3, they suggested I do a dnc for genetic testing. The hospital was available in a few hours, so I took the appointment to get it over with.

I've now had 3 types of miscarriages/treatments so I can shed light on my experiences.

My first MC in August 2015 was natural at 5w4d. By the time I went to the OB, most of it had already passed. I bled for about a week and my period came exactly 4 weeks later.

My second MC in January 2016 was a missed MC at 6w4d and was treated via Cylotec, the MC inducing drug. I selected this option to be able to pass the tissue at home privately and (I thought) comfortably. The cramping was awful, luckily they gave me a few perocets to get me through it. Within 48 hours it had passed and I stopped bleeding in 5 days. My next period came about 5 weeks after (28 days after my hcg was back at 0).

My third was yesterday at 9w1d, although growth stopped at 8w4d. I had no bleeding or signs of MC. The dnc was what I had been dreading. I had never been admitted to the hospital or even had an IV. My ob appointment was at 2:30, confirmed no heartbeat by 3:30, and dnc at 6:00. I was home by 9. Today I'm crampy with light bleeding, it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, but I'm feeling so numb and defeated. Hopefully the tissue analysis will shed some light on what is happening with me.

In the mean time, it has been suggested I contact a reproductive endocrinologist, as 3 in a row in my late 20s is uncommon.

For those debating between pills or dnc, I am willing to answer any questions that may help you with your decision.

MooFish2364 · April 2016

I am so sorry for your losses. I hope that you are able to get some answers with the tissue testing. It's so unfair that you have had this happen three times. Sending positive vibes your way.

Wishilivedinflorida · April 2016

I'm so so sorry @LaurenDarling My heart is just breaking for you.

ThePax89 · April 2016

Goodness gracious I'm so sorry. I'm glad you will be pursuing this further with an RE. I'm also glad you did a tissue analysis. I opted to have the tissue tested after my second loss, and the results really helped DH and I with healing.

MrsBinPA · April 2016

@LaurenDarling I am exactly the same. First natural, second cytotec, and will have D&E Monday. I so wanted third time to be a charm. It's so so unfair. I'm glad to hear that the procedure wasn't bad. I really want the genetic testing too. We tried to have the RE do it last time and he did the cytotec. This time he is insistent on it. I've never had anesthesia. I think that makes me the most nervous & how crampy I will be afterwards.

I'm so sorry for your losses & am here if you need anything. The 3+ RPL club is just beyond terrible.

Spartanrd4 · April 2016

So sorry for all your losses @LaurenDarling

I had a D&C 7 weeks ago...glad you aren't feeling too bad afterwards and get some answers soon! *hugs*

CRJones1978 · April 2016

@LaurenDarling we are in the same boat. I am so sorry that you are going through this. I hope that you get some answers.

LaurenDarling · April 2016

@MrsBinPA so sorry you're going through this too. I really didn't want to go through the d&c, but it was okay. I made it. Now I can begin to move forward.

SnobunnieMel · April 2016

@MrsBinPA I am so sorry to see that you are back here with us. There are too many December TTCAL finding their way back

RiverSong15 · April 2016

I'm so sorry for your losses and to see you back here. Hugs. I hope you get the answers you need.

AL_TwinCities · April 2016

I'm so sorry for your loss @LaurenDarling. I was rooting for you and am so sorry to see this.

LaurenDarling · April 2016

@RiverSong15 @AL_TwinCities thanks for the love and support. I guess I never thought this would be what my journey would look like, but who ever does?

fiorip · April 2016

I'm so sorry for your losses. You are so brave for sharing your story and being willing to help others who might be going through the same situation. I've had 3 losses in the last year and a half at very different stages and I'm 29, I can relate to what you are feeling, I also thought I was going to make it till the end with my last pregnancy, I made it to 17 weeks.

I hope you can find peace and that you get answers.

kmkremp7 · April 2016

@MrsBinPA I had a D&E two weeks ago and was surprised at how normal I felt afterwards. The day of the actual surgery was fine before and after the anesthesia. I couldn't believe I felt so normal-it actually made me sad! What was terrible was the dilation the day before. Worst pain of my entire life! They gave me ibuprofen before, but wish I took something stronger!!

yolandamunoz · April 2016

I am so sorry for your losses. This so sad... But you are not alone.
hugs
-Y

Glitter · April 2016

Im also very sorry, and am also at 3 in a row. 1st at 4weeks, 2nd at 4 or 5 weeks, and this last one was 8w2d. I just had the d&c yesterday. I had a great staff and they helped so much. I hope your doing well now and are starting to feel better. Im also going to look for answers. Im in my late 20's, we need to find out why our babies arent making it. I wish you luck and hope we work towards our rainbow babies.

FunnyGal18 · May 2016

Which one is best?

Sugargirl1019 · May 2016

FunnyGal18 said:

Which one is best?

I'm still deciding on what to do, but I thought about these things making a decision.

1. Do I have the time and work schedule to allow it naturally? Can I perform my work duties while this happens? Do I have the patience to wait for it to happen naturally? Am I against other invasive methods and medications?
2. Cytotec should allow it to happen on my own time, will I have closure by going through the pain and birth of my baby? Will I regret not experiencing the process for my mental closure? Can I handle the pain and blood?
3. Do I want testing on the baby? Do I want to find out what sex? Do I have a limited time off and need to get back to work and want it to be as physically painless as possible? Will this allow things to normalize more quickly so we can try again to conceive sooner than the other options?

MrsBinPA · May 2016

@Sugargirl1019 I am very sad to see you here. I have been rooting for you. If you need any wisdom from my experiences please don't hesitate to PM me. Big creepy internet hugs to you.

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