Twatwaffle Tuesday

MelissaM090 · April 2016

I guess I'll start!

My TW is everyone on both sides of our family who are pressuring us to get pregnant because THEY want us to. Like we owe them a baby. It'll be the first grandchild on both sides. My mom is being super supportive about the journey and I can talk to her about anything but she's super excited about the concept of a grandchild that I don't think she realizes how much pressure that puts on me as an only child.

DH'S family is all 'better get going while your grandparents are still alive so they can enjoy their great-grandchild before they die!'. Um, yeah, working on it.

This stuff is hard enough. It would be one thing if I was making a conscious decision to not get pregnant or put it off, but I'm TRYING and I have no control over it!

mrsstuessy · April 2016

Today DH is being a TW. Or really, he is just a horrible person today. That is a better description. he hasn't really slept in days, trying to finish his grad school thesis presentation. So, I have been doing everything else. Taking care of DD, getting the storage unit taken care of, getting ready for our move next month, grocery shopping, all the cooking and spending at least an hour every day trying to help him out since I am really better at preparing and doing presentations. (If I could do the whole thing for him I would. It would take me half the time and stress. Unfortunately I don't know enough about architecture to write an architecture grad school thesis.) Today he just lost it. His preliminary thesis was due today. He hasn't really slept in 48 hours and he basically got mad at me for not being able to write this thesis. He was just saying the most hurtful things about me not sacrificing anything, which made me cry and swear. And then he was yelling at me for having emotions and not being helpful. Thank God he left the room after that. So, I could clean up the broken jar that fell out of the fridge and cry in peace. Then I went into the bathroom and cried some more, so DD wouldn't be worried about me. Today I just can't. Like I haven't been sacrificing EVERYTHING while he has been in grad school? Seriously, I have given up so much. he sort of apologized before he left, saying I shouldn't take anything he does today seriously because he is so tired. But, since he said it I can't help but think that it is coming from somewhere. And deep down he thinks that I am lazy, ungrateful and really haven't had to sacrifice anything on this godforsaken, never ending college journey.

QueenSunscreen · April 2016

Guys, this one is totally serious - someone in my office used all of my Kleenex. I have allergies for nine months of the year and I'm currently a weepy-eyed snot monster, even with claritin and benadryl. After I left for the day, someone leaned over my desk across all the things that are mine (because my Kleenex is in a protected, far away from passers-by spot) and cleaned me out! That person is a giant twatwaffle. Now I'm stuck using paper napkins

QueenSunscreen · April 2016

Hugs to you both, @MelissaM090 and @mrsstuessy!! Your twatwaffle nominations are far more real than mine.

mrsstuessy · April 2016

@QueenSunscreenI know. I think mine might be a little to real. haha! But I totally get the anger over the Kleenex too. Seriously. If someone did that in the fall during my allergy season it would NOT be cool.

linzrunz · April 2016

My MIL is still a giant TW. She STILL hasn't apologized for slapping me (we are well past the two week mark), yet comments on my Facebook posts like we're besties. I saw her for the first time since on Friday. I pretty much pretended like she wasn't there. I won't acknowledge someone who treats me that way.

thj101 · April 2016

@melissam090 my parents have been great at not really saying much about us conceiving ( this would be their first grandchild) but DH's are a different story.. they like to say things like when you have kids, I'll do this for your kids blah blah.. and even though it's not outright pressure, it is.. and I wish they just wouldn't say anything... It gets annoying.
@mrsstuessy *hugs* I am so sorry... I hope that once this project is over, he can give you the apology you deserve... stress or no stress, that's no way to talk to someone.

mrsdaddario · April 2016

@MelissaM090 I hear you! My MIL keeps making small comments here and there. The other day she gave me a bag full of baby clothes that my SIL's 6 month old son is grown out of. She literally said to me "you should wear a onesie on your belly to bed for good vibes!" She KNOWS we're going through difficulties getting pregnant. I let that slide. Then on Sunday she told DH and I that she's saving all of my SIL's baby stuff for us. And this is horrible of me to even say, and sounds SO petty and spoiled, but I want new stuff. Sorry. There I said it. Also, MIL, you're stressing my uterus out! I know she means well, and that grandchildren are all she pretty much has to look forward too; but relax.

@mrsstuessy Damn. That is rough! I really hope by "jar that fell out of the fridge" that you meant "the jar that I threw at his head". It's easiest for those closest to us to take things out on us because they know we love them and will forgive them. But that would have pissed me off incredibly. Being married in and of itself is a sacrifice. Maybe he needs a reminder that he's not the only one dealing with a heavy load right now! Fx it gets better when the thesis is turned in and done with!

Edit: Spelling

virginiaham · April 2016

@MelissaM090 That pressure is awful. I haven't been getting it from anyone, but more pressuring myself with my grandparents' age. They are definitely in their final years if not final year, and they were the first ones who really turned my H's heart toward TTC and encouraged us on being parents. I've had to let it go and forgive myself/this process that they may not in fact meet our first child. That situation sucks and it's heartbreaking and I'm so sorry someone else is trying to prod you with it!

felix08 · April 2016

My TW is definitely trivial compared to most of yours, but...my senile English bulldog is being a TW. I usually come home on my lunch hour to let the dogs out and this is what happens everyday: I let him out, shortly he begins barking to come back in, I let him back in, shortly he begins barking to go outside, repeat. Make up your mind!!! And let me eat my lunch in peace and quiet.

felix08 · April 2016

@MelissaM090 sorry about all the pressure--I have definitely avoided certain events because I know questions will be asked.
@mrsstuessy Ugh, sorry your H is so stressed and taking it out on you. I wanted to tell you that when I was in grad school, I was also a huge TW to H when I was feeling the pressures of school--it was SO not fair to him but I am so grateful that he stood by me the whole time and was so supportive even when I did not deserve it, and I'm sure your H feels the same!
@queensunscreen Ugh, my nostrils hurt just thinking about assaulting them with a napkin--stealing Kleenex is really not OK!!

sLass42 · April 2016

@MelissaM090 I feel your pain. We mentioned ttc to the mil and now i get monthly texts "do you have anything to tell me" ughh. Doesn't help that DH is the only son ttc (brother came out recently)
@queensunscreen same face-filled-with-snot issues here. I'd kill the kleenex stealer! I just keep a roll of TP on the desk, no one steals it lol
@linzruns so sorry about the crazy mil. I can't believe she blew it off. You can always set posts so she cant see them and then she can't comment on anything!

Today my TW is work. It's peak season and I'm the receptionist annnnd I'm super sickly. Well our other account rep left so now I'm getting all the work the boss doesn't want to deal with. I already handle 4 phone lines, notify for pickups, handle reorders, new customer inquiries, clean the office, order supplies, file, handle billing, setup couriers, and more and now I get to deal with the crappy people that take hours to do an order. Now I have to handle the webstore orders and card verifications. I'm thinking a raise is definitely in order ($11/hr eck) but don't know how to ask being a small business and DH works here too..today feels like

Image: https://wpcron.files.wordpress.com/2015/02/3153ddf0856f99cdb7fd32b5a6935420-320x192x8.gif

....and then I have no idea what I've gotten done, so lost..
eta- arrgh the sickness

KristoKekerooni · April 2016

The TW in my life today is my customers. All of them.
-I'm sorry, if you don't know that "dichloromethane" and "Methylene chloride" are the same thing, you probably shouldn't be purchasing chemicals.
-Sorry, no I can't ship you "some of the good stuff" (WTF?)
-Sorry, I am not going to ship you controlled substances without a permit from the DEA, it's not my problem that you "don't want to apply for one." I'd rather not go to jail, thanks.
Seriously, people?

HurricaneAmelia · April 2016

DH's brother who is a loser drug addict and doesn't have a job at 40 years old. He got into it last night with my husband on the phone about us not footing the bill for him to fly down for a funeral. He's such a POS. DH finally blocked him on fbook and we told him he wouldn't be part of our lives anymore. Man what a twat.

linzrunz · April 2016

@sLass42 I'm tempted to just unfriend/block her altogether, but I'm afraid it'll cause more drama. Then again, who cares. She started it! lol

@felix08 My yorkie does that too!! And he's currently mad at me because I didn't take him for a walk yesterday, so he's even worse. And I'm not going to be able to today either, so I'm sure I will get the same treatment after work. Total TW.

@MelissaM090 I'm sorry! I'm getting all sorts of comments from literally everyone because my youngest is 4 1/2 apparently that's too long to wait to have another. Even my family is starting to hound me. I hate the "nothing is ever good enough" mentality. Hugs to you.

thj101 · April 2016

My TW is customers who can't afford the insurance on the toys they buy, and want me to incessantly shop their entire policy every time they buy a new toy..... They can't pay $100 a month for insurance, it has to be $95...They can't afford anything over $95.... "Get me a price at $95 or below" well sir, that's not really how this works.... I can't control rating or the prices I am quoted. I want to say so bad, well, if we are up in arms about $5 I think you have bigger problems to deal with here. But.... Customer Service.

mrsstuessy · April 2016

Thanks for all the encouragement. There is still a lot of frustration and sadness in our house today, but once he came home I realized he is really, really sorry. Good thing I love that damn fool so much.

One more (slightly lighter) TW for me today. I think it can be summed up with the following: "Who do I need to screw to get a root canal?"

2 weeks ago my dentist referred me elsewhere for a root canal. I had to wait TWO weeks to schedule the appointment because of insurance. I called today, the day I was told to call. The new dentist never got the referral. I called the agency that processes the referrals. They never got the x-rays so they couldn't process the referral. I give up. And apparently I am willing to resort to prostitution at this point. I have had to do every single thing to get this referral processed, including literally going to the dentist office two weeks ago and telling them I wasn't going to leave until they got the right fax number. (the first 4 times they faxed it, it didn't work).

bambino4465 · April 2016

My eyes are a TW. I've worn contacts since high school, but ever since January I've had so many eye issues. The first infection was bacterial and was so bad my eye swelled shut. Now, both eyes need medicated for allergies. Drops in the morning, drops at night, glasses all day every day. I don't mind glasses, but I'd rather wear them because I want to, not because I have to. I'm just patiently waiting for my eyes to feel normal again!

mtmama2 · April 2016

@bambino4465 I had the same thing happen to me a couple years ago! My doctor had me switch to this contact solution:

and it fixed all my problems! If you decide to try it make sure you soak them for the ENTIRE 6 hours or the hydrogen peroxide will burn the S**T out of your eyes!! Hope this helps, eye problems are awful!

Mylitta · April 2016

@bambino4465 / @SienaC
That cleaner really is the best. I was having eye issues for months, and finally had Nasal surgery after being diagnosed with chronic sinitus.

I thought maybe my eye issues was the cleanser, then the sinitus. Turns out my eyes are allergic to themselves. The proteins I produce because I'm wearing contacts.

My eye Doc said that the sinitus likely pushed my eyes over the edge. So now I can only wear dailies. They are awesome... but much pricier. Apparently eventually my eyes will begin to reject those as well. So is either glasses or lasik... I don't feel comfortable wearing glasses as work. So one day...

It's best to explore all options. My mom turned out to be allergic to the solution (they altered the formula and her eyes freaked.) The one recommended works great for her.

loveinak · April 2016

@SienaC I once wasn't paying attention and put my contacts back in after three hours. I was sure my eye would never open again. The burn!!!

edit: spelling

Lecool · April 2016

Geez, sorry to see so many TW's today!

mtmama2 · April 2016

@loveinak I did that while camping once and I wasn't sure I would even be able to open my eyes long enough to get the contacts back out!! I'm positive I woke the whole campground with my screaming!

now I never forget to set a timer on my phone!

bambino4465 · April 2016

@SienaC @loveinak my eye doc told me I must use the same solution that you mentioned. I'm so relieved to hear that it works! He also warned me about not soaking them long enough. Holy burn. Yikes!!

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