Got laid off :(

Magallyta · April 2016

hello everyone! I am here to vent as I've been crying since I got home after news of being laid off today. I never got to tell my job I was pregnant. So many mixed emotions I am having my 1st sonogram on Monday. Do I look for another job & then deal with the stress of telling them I'm pregnant later on? I have a 2 1/2yr old in daycare- I would have to pull her out of it. ... Just looking for any advice how to deal with this...

mrsjlang · April 2016

@Magallyta I am so sorry that you're going through this. Sadly, there's never a good time to be facing this either.

There's obviously pros and cons to both sides of it. Working means that you bring in more cash, which in turn helps provide for daycare, etc. Not working would mean being able to spend more time with your DD, but limits on your discretionary spending. You (and SO if applicable) are the only one that can decide what is the best option for you and your family.

If it were me, I would start looking at what open positions are available. It doesn't hurt to look. And you most definitely do not need to disclose that you're KU, as they legally cannot ask that in an interview. (Not to mention it's incredibly rude to ask, IMO) To be incredibly optimistic, you might luck out and find a super awesome job that comes with a super awesome work team. Also not sure where you live if there are any employment "rules" that might be an issue later down the road.

At the very least, I suggest that you take a couple of days to just process what happened. Having employment issues is mentally taxing, whether there's babies involved or not (I sadly speak from personal experience). Bright side - you have a viable excuse for randomly crying and/or random mood swings for at least a few days if you're still trying to keep your pregnancy a secret.

Good luck! As much as it seems terrible right now, things will work out the way that they're supposed to, but in the mean time just take it one step at a time.

Thewizardofrhythm · April 2016

First I would apply for unemployment asap so that you have income in between jobs. Second, if you are able to find a job that will pay for two kids in childcare, then I would go for it. Like pp said, they cannot ask if you are pregnant and I know plenty of women, including one just hired at my company, who told their prospective employers after they were hired. If childcare will eat up your cash even working full time, then perhaps consider being a stay at home mom. There are tons of subsidies available for people with limited incomes. They are not great, but they are there. Plus, many states have child care voucher programs if you qualify. I'm sorry you're facing such a stressful situation during your pregnancy. Good luck.

kristah2 · April 2016

Someone on a precious thread mentioned going through a temp agency to get work for duration for pregnancy. Just something to consider.
Good luck

Magallyta · April 2016

Thank you everyone for your words. I am true believer that everything happens for a reason. I will look into temp jobs. I don't think working full time is the right option. Ive always worked like crazy & I think God is telling me to stay with my DD & take care of myself for my 2nd.

Meether · April 2016

While you are unemployed, you can get unemployment benefits because you were laid off. It is not a lot, but it may be able to help a little. Pregnancy does not affect it.

Hedgessm · April 2016

I'm so sorry. Terrible timing is an understatement. Personally, I'd apply for jobs. I interviewed for a new job 8 weeks pregnant with my first. I gauged the person I was interviewing with about whether or not tell. I ended up telling and she said she didn't care as long as I was sure I was coming back after mat leave. Legally they cannot not hire because your pregnant. Good luck. This is a tough one.

muybueno · April 2016

So sorry- how upsetting! I second @Thewizardofrhythm's advice.

shevaCC · April 2016

I'm really sorry. I agree with @Thewizardofrhythm too. Take care of yourself and give yourself plenty of time to process the emotions. It sucks getting laid off!

Chcaggie1 · April 2016

I had a girlfriend that went through a similar situation while pregnant. She desired to make her part time business work full time so she took several months to try that but realized it wasn't working out for her in that season. She actually interviewed and was hired for a job when she was about 5 or 6 months pregnant. So obviously they knew when they hired her she was pregnant. I think she only got 6 weeks of maternity leave (unpaid) but it worked out for her, she still works there today.

If your desire is to work, I would interview like normal and accept a job. After accepting I would speak with HR to determine how maternity leave will work and then letyour supervisor/manager know.

Good lunck!

TwandaFTG · April 2016

I think all the PPs covered it. Good luck and I hope you find what works best for your family.

jarethinafrock · April 2016

Sorry you are going through such a tough time. Wishing you all the best as you figure out what to do next! And definitely collect that unemployment.

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