TW:potential loss.

JustAnotherUsername16 · April 2016

Yesterday I had some brown spotting. I did a lot of research and saw that brown spotting isn't "normal" but pretty common in first trimesters. Today, when I woke up, it wasn't brown spotting anymore... I was bleeding. I tried calling my doctor but they are unavailable for the next hour at least. I wish someone would tell me that I'm overreacting, but I'm fairly certain I am having a mc. This is my first pregnancy and I am so lost and scared right now... DH is at work and unable to take a call.

XmomX · April 2016

I am so sorry your in limbo

I hope you get in to see the Dr soon and are able to get ahold of DH.

talkthewholetime · April 2016

I'm so sorry you're stick not knowing. I hope you can get all the necessary people tracked down ASAP.

jarethinafrock · April 2016

I can't even imagine how difficult this is. Is there really no way you can send in some kind of message to your husband? I know work is important, but this is an emergency and you really need him right now. Wishing you all the best.

JustAnotherUsername16 · April 2016

Unfortunately work for him is an emergency. Doctor said that there is a 75% chance it's a mmc. They will run some tests Monday morning to determine for sure. Until then I'm supposed to stay in bed all weekend sand get as much rest as possible. I really appreciate all of yalls support.

DunkinDecaf · April 2016

So sorry you're going through this. Fx you get good news on Monday.

thatlauragirl · April 2016

I am so sorry, I am hoping so hard they find another reason for the bleeding.

beforeyou · April 2016

so sorry you are going through this, I really hope everything is ok!

comealongponds · April 2016

I'm so sorry, limbo is a terrible place to be. Take care of yourself over the weekend, I hope things turn out okay. FWIW I've had bright red bleeding both pregnancies, once it was a miscarriage and this time around it was an SCH. It's never ideal, but it's not always the worst case scenario either. FX for you.

muybueno · April 2016

I'm sorry you are in limbo and not able to get an answer until Monday. When I had bleeding on a Friday night, I went Saturday morning to a diagnostic imaging center-not connected to my OB- and had an u/s on my own. I just didn't want to be wondering all weekend. Maybe that's an option? It was like $70 so not prohibitively expensive.

GL and keep us posted

Oakleypoozles · April 2016

I'm very sorry this is happening to you. Here is some important info that may or may not make you feel better. I hope it does though :-/

First time pregnancy's have a higher risk of ending in miscarriage. Those same people go on to have completely healthy pregnancy's in the future though.

In the first trimester if you are miscarrying there isn't anything that they can do. So when it happened to me I found solace in knowing that my body could take care of it on its own and that more than likely this was something I could suffer with on my own without others being involved.

I can't tell you whether you are or aren't. I would believe though if you are bleeding and cramping though that it doesn't look good. Just pray and know that things happen for a reason and even though it's heart breaking things will go on and hopefully you can try again

m6agua · April 2016

Sorry you are going through this. FX everything turns out alright.

MrsDho11 · April 2016

I'm sorry you're dealing with this, and I hope it turns out okay. FX for you.

rspalding001 · April 2016

I'm so very sorry

MollySm · April 2016

I'm so sorry you are going through this, and that you are doing it with your H at work. Being in limbo really sucks. I did bleed a decent amount with my second daughter because of placenta previa. But I also bled during another pregnancy when I was miscarrying. FX everything is okay.

JustAnotherUsername16 · April 2016

I'm even more confused and concerned now. The bleeding stopped but naturally I still went to the doctor. They did an US and found the sak but there was no fetus inside at all... How does a fetus just disappear? 3 weeks ago I saw my baby on an US and there was even a distinct flicker that the doctor told us was the heartbeat. I did bleed, but not that much and no blood clots or tissue. The doctor yesterday told me that my baby never even formed and suggested a D&C. I KNOW my baby formed because I saw her and her heartbeat. I'm having trouble coming to terms with this....

whaat · April 2016

@DaniBanani16 sometimes you can kind of "absorb" it. (Someone else feel free to explain or tell me if I'm wrong, I've never had this happen myself). So sorry for your loss.

Oakleypoozles · April 2016

@DaniBanani16

This is a hard topic. I wish I could make you feel better.
Usually your midwife/OB has access to some type of counseling for loss. You could call and ask for the information. Maybe they can help?

jarethinafrock · April 2016

I am so sorry for your loss. I have no idea how this could have happened.

comealongponds · April 2016

I believe @whaat is correct. If fetal development is stopped (usually due to a chromosomal abnormality), your body will essentially absorb the tissue. This is the same thing that happens in the case of a vanishing twin. If it would make you feel better, you can request to have a follow up ultrasound in a week or so to check that there is no heart beat before scheduling a D&C. There's generally also nothing wrong with waiting a week or two, to see if your body recognizes the loss and you miscarry spontaneously.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I found the miscarriage/loss boards a great comfort after my mc in December, and the TTCAL board is wonderful if/when you feel ready to try again. Please take care of yourself and allow yourself time to grieve.

Oakleypoozles · April 2016

@DaniBanani16 Make sure you know all your options before you agree to a D&C

thatlauragirl · April 2016

I'm sorry you're going through this. With my first pregnancy, I was pregnant with twins and the exact same thing happened. First appointment saw them both with flickering heartbeats and when I went back, one was simply gone. It was absolutely crushing and I was mystified but like others said, I was told that at this early stage some times your body will absorb the loss. I would definitely recommend a follow-up appointment or second opinion for peace of mind. Again, I'm so very sorry and you're in my thoughts.

JustAnotherUsername16 · April 2016

Thank you all for your support. I'm going to move myself over to the miscarriage board as I struggle to accept my reality. This is a place for love and celebration and I am so excited for all of y'all to be moms! Thank you for your initial support - your kindness will not soon be forgotten.

MollySm · April 2016

I'm so sorry for your loss .

Sheybre · April 2016

I'm so sorry! Sending you my thoughts and prayers.

banfrog · April 2016

So sorry. Thinking of you.

jlm731 · April 2016

TW...

so sorry for your loss. Two years ago when i miscarried, I had begun bleeding after spotting that morning. When I went to the dr for an u/s the next day, I had stopped bleeding but when they did the u/s only the sac was visible. I had had two other u/s both of which we saw a baby with a flickering heartbeat. I had been measuring behind so knew there was the potential for loss. I chose to do cytotec vs having a d&c...and when i finally passed everything I did see something that I'm pretty sure was the baby. I never confirmed with the dr. But it did give me closure as we buried that something in our flower garden with a little plaque that reads "love blooms here." So most likely you have a lot more of your lining to pass, which is where the baby may be too...so don't feel like you were just seeing something initially. it is very possible to see the baby and then during a mc not see it.

again, so sorry...take your time to grieve...and know you aren't alone!

mszobota · April 2016

Hello ladies. Update, miscarriage confirmed. The doctor gave me cytotec which didn't work for me at all. I'm working on setting up a D & C for this week.

This community has been wonderful and I wish you all healthy and happy pregnancies and babies.

yosemite2018 · April 2016

I'm sorry @mszobota! Take care of yourself!

XmomX · April 2016

I'm so sorry

LikeICantEven · April 2016

Will be praying for you sweetheart.

thatlauragirl · April 2016

I'm so very sorry, you are in my thoughts.

erniebernie1 · April 2016

So sorry for your loss

MrsDho11 · April 2016

I'm very sorry for your loss.

comealongponds · April 2016

I'm so sorry for your loss.

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