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November 2015 Moms
doodleoodle
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I'm an awful mother. Learn from my terrible, stupid mistake.
doodleoodle
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LO was fussy because she was hungry. I was holding her as I warmed up water to warm her bottle. I took the bowl of warm water out of the microwave and she swiped at it, scalding her entire hand. I ran it under cool water and put lavender oil on it, but she wouldn't stop crying. She cried almost the entire way to the pediatrician's office and then began crying again once the doctor looked at her hand and didn't stop crying until it was wrapped. She has been asleep for almost an hour, but even in her sleep is breathing heavy the way you do after you've been crying really hard. Moral of the story, even if you have a clingy crying baby don't hold them while you warm up a bottle 
or are around anything warm for that matter. It seems obvious now, but I'm a dumb FTM and it just never occurred to me.
or are around anything warm for that matter. It seems obvious now, but I'm a dumb FTM and it just never occurred to me.
Re: I'm an awful mother. Learn from my terrible, stupid mistake.
I left baby propped up on a boppy so I could go to the bathroom and came back to a screaming baby because he had launched himself over the side and face planted onto a jagged dog bone. All because I wanted to pee! And that thing actually has a warning tag! While I'll never do that ever again, he healed and doesn't even remember it now.
We make mistakes and learn from them, that's when we become better parents.
My first was a huge wiggle worm. I had her on the changing table and was out of diapers in the usual spot. With her "safe" because she was belted onto the changing table I walked across the room to her closet to grab a new pack of diapers. I heard an odd sound behind me and she had managed to wiggle straight down off the changing table! Luckily she landed in the dirty clothes hamper. Thank goodness for my crappy house cleaning skills.
Parents of older kids tend to have a ton of stories like this. The time the toddler skinned their face running on the sidewalk, the time you had to call poison control because they ate Vaseline (perfectly safe fyi), the time they were the Picasso of Poop on the wall behind their crib, etc, etc, etc.
Pretty much every other time I cut my child's fingers I manage to draw blood because he squirms sooooo badly (and biting nails is worse and he sleeps too lightly). I hate it and he screams. But he heals.
Please don't beat yourself up, momma. Accidents happen. And there's every chance your daughter will injure herself worse than a scalding as she's growing and playing and exploring the world around her. Bumps and bruises will happen along the way. As long as you aren't intentionally putting them in harms way (like being one of those parents that sticks a bumbo on top of a counter and walks away), you're fine.
Edited: autocorrect
Her dad had her on his lap while watching some videos on his laptop and he didn't have his hand on her chest so she leaned forward and bonked her head right onto the table. She cried but was okay after a minute.
You're not a bad mom! Our kids are gonna get hurt on their own and we're gonna make mistakes. It happens to everyone! As long as it wasn't done on purpose then you have nothing to be upset about...although it's in our nature to worry.
When my niece was 2, my brother was making her cheese grits because it was all she would eat. We were out of instant so he made them on the stove. He poured them in a bowl to cool, set them on the table, and strapped her into her high chair. He turned around to grab her sippy cup and she somehow launched herself from the chair to the table and scalded her hand. She had third degree burns on all of her fingers and her palm, all the way to her forearm. Her mom spent weeks bringing her to the burn unit every day to have her hand stripped in a whirlpool. She remarkably didn't scar and doesn't remember the incident, but she learned what HOT means.
You're not the first and definitely won't be the last. It's just a lesson learned.
I also zipped her belly once while putting her jammies on her.
As for Maddie, I went in for a kiss today and her face smashed into my glasses. She cried for a moment, but "Sissy Ellie kisses" made her right as rain.