Ugh, I am not excited about seeing my mom this weekend. She's been making noises about how much weight you're supposed to (not) gain, and my face is definitely chubbier than it was in December. The comments will arrive.
@anna.oskar & @mrszoess Oh the joys of being big! I also have the same issues! My RE sent me to a nutritionist in his office and both of them told me I need to cut out fast food, soda and sugary items. I looked at her and was like I don't eat fast food (at all), I haven't had soda in 10 years and chocolate on occasion is my downfall... I have a kidney disease (and PCOS) so I've been on meds for years and even though I have completely healthy bloodwork and my kidney levels are the best they've been in years, they assume the worst! Oh and I was working out 5 days a week with a high-intensity workout with a trainer and my sister before I got pregnant. But they also both just assumed I was lazy!
I need to revive this thread because I am SO sick of hearing all about how " life is going to change when you have the baby"....why people feel
the need to tell me this, I have no idea. I keep getting told, "No more
going out of town all the time, no more spontaneous weekend road trips,
no more going to concerts every weekend...because you know you can't
just drop everything & go when you have a baby". Really?! Because I
thought I could just leave her at home with a bowl of food & water
like we do the cat & she would be just fine. That's not how it
works?? Wow, guess I need to re-think this whole thing then. Grrrr!!!!
Edited to clarify...these aren't necessarily strangers, this is actually everyone, from family & friends to people that I don't really know that well from FB.
That is the worst, @Kaessi! People 1) assuming you haven't put any thought into the mechanics of life with a baby, 2) apparently living miserable lives of their own with terrible children and unhelpful spouses, and 3) wanting to pass that misery onto you. It's so nice being pregnant with #2 because nobody gives me dire predictions. (Not yet, at least.) Last time, I remember my mom telling me, "Make sure you go for lots of walks with [husband] while you still can!" Because, you know, nobody ever took a walk with a baby.
Along with the GD posts, a woman the other day told me "oh gestational diabetes... I never had it, but you need to be really careful with that." Thanks captain obvious, who has never had GD. As if I don't have a doctor to tell me how to maintain it.
I'm a TTM, and I'm tired of the "Wow, you're having ANOTHER?!" reaction I get. Yes, I'm having another. No, it wasn't planned. Yes, we were on BC. YES, I'M STILL HAPPY ABOUT IT! And furthermore, the next person who believes they have the right to say "You guys need to stop now" is getting throat punched...
Our life and amount of children we choose to spawn is OUR business, WE are the ones taking care of them, providing for them, and managing our own lives, am I wrong? We don't plan to have anymore and FI is getting a vasectomy, but regardless whose business is it anyway? What right does any a-hole have to try to tell us what we should and shouldn't do with OUR lives and reproductive systems?
@AllyTheKid I hate that people think it's acceptable to comment on the number of children a couple has. I kind of get the opposite on my end, though, because I'm Catholic. So, while everyone loves big families, they kind of expect you to have lots of kids or you aren't being a "good" Catholic.
From a religious stand point, whatever happened to "The Lord will bless me with however many kids He wants to"?? Instead it's still people looking at your family and judging that you don't have enough kids, so you must either never be having sex or be using BC (a sin in the Catholic Church.)
So no matter what, outsiders think you have too few children or too many children. How about, we have the right amount of children for us? Thanks so much for your input, strangers who know nothing about our lives.
Knowone likes when someone reaches out to touch your growing belly but wait until you have the baby. I can't tell you how often people (usually old) will reach into the car seat and touch the baby. I actually made a sign that said "you can look but do not touch".
When this would happen I would be so dumbfounded that I just frozen in the moment, when all I wanted to do was tell them off.
An old man touched DD1 when she was in her carseat, well, tried to. I grabbed his wrist and said, "don't touch the baby." He took his hand and touched me on my shoulder saying, "well, I can touch Mommy." It was sooo weird!
That is the worst, @Kaessi! People 1) assuming you haven't put any thought into the mechanics of life with a baby, 2) apparently living miserable lives of their own with terrible children and unhelpful spouses, and 3) wanting to pass that misery onto you. It's so nice being pregnant with #2 because nobody gives me dire predictions. (Not yet, at least.) Last time, I remember my mom telling me, "Make sure you go for lots of walks with [husband] while you still can!" Because, you know, nobody ever took a walk with a baby.
@duckmay Yep, no walking with a baby, I think that's against the rules too! Who knew?! Haha
@bamacoop Most of my family is Catholic, so they don't bat an eye, we've ALL come from large groups of siblings, it's normal in my family. But step outside that circle and everybody has an opinion! Granted, my family will NOT be pleased to hear about the vasectomy, but we'll cross that bridge when we come to it, and frankly I don't care. Collectively, we have 4 children. That's plenty for us. And we're happy. Everybody else can shut it haha
When our first baby was new, we used to put him in the Moby, walk downtown to a coffee shop, lay him on a blanket on the table, and play Scrabble. It was great!
I haven't had comments from strangers yet but I hope this board stays active so I can share later. I live in Germany, so strangers are less likely to talk to me, but when they do there is NO filter. I've had strangers tell me I am an animal abuser because I walk my dog on a leash. So there will definitely be a good pregnancy comment this summer. Anyone have a great f*off comment they use? I wanna be ready
An old man touched DD1 when she was in her carseat, well, tried to. I grabbed his wrist and said, "don't touch the baby." He took his hand and touched me on my shoulder saying, "well, I can touch Mommy." It was sooo weird!
WTAF???? Haha I'm sorry because this made me laugh but it really is weird. Glad you're ok to tell the story about that old creep!
edited because my brain fog makes me keep including repeat/excess words in my posts
Well not really a stranger, but a coworkers that I don't talk to or work with very much love to give their own medical advice about my pregnancy.
"If you don't drink enough water, you're going to have a miscarriage" Because I wasn't drinking much water because it would make me vomit, so I was drinking powerade.
Another made a comment after my office mate said I need to eat every 3 hours or I get hangry. Then another coworker says "you're going to regret that after you have the baby" I'm eating very small meals more often than I use to eat. I might be eating less than I use to. My dr has not said anything negative about my weight changes. I am overweight, but coworker, my weight is none of your concern. Also, If I don't eat every few hours I start to get nauseous. ugh!
TTC #1 since August 2015 BFP #1 January 28, 2016
EDD October 3, 2016 Felicity Joy, born September 2, 2016 My Chart
TTC #2 Since August 2020 BFP #2 September 11, 2020 EDD May 23, 2021
An old man touched DD1 when she was in her carseat, well, tried to. I grabbed his wrist and said, "don't touch the baby." He took his hand and touched me on my shoulder saying, "well, I can touch Mommy." It was sooo weird!
O.O wtf! I think I would be too shocked to respond if some weird dude did that.
Getting sick of all the moms around my work going "You think pregnancy is rough now...just wait!" I get that you're trying to be helpful and prepare me, but I do understand that there's more to come. I'm miserable, just let me complain just like you all do when pregnant.
Getting sick of all the moms around my work going "You think pregnancy is rough now...just wait!" I get that you're trying to be helpful and prepare me, but I do understand that there's more to come. I'm miserable, just let me complain just like you all do when pregnant.
@krzyriver Grr, me too!! And when I say I'm tired & get, "Oh it's only going to get worse, you might as well say goodbye to sleep!" Thanks people.
Okay how about this one! Not a stranger, but my mom, and I know she means well but still. I get a craving for something healthy, let's say a salad (which pre-pregnancy I couldn't stand except in rare occasions or caeser), and she's all "the baby is telling you what you need" but then when I say I'm craving a McD BigMac I get the "that's not healthy for the baby!!!"
We went to breakfast with my husband aunt today, and ran into someone she knows from work who I have never met before. She tells me I'm definitely having a boy because my "butt looks flat". Ummmm wtf? This is how my butt has always looked, thankssomuch, but apparently those of us who weren't blessed with booties can only have boys??
Re: Random Stranger's Opinions
Edited to clarify...these aren't necessarily strangers, this is actually everyone, from family & friends to people that I don't really know that well from FB.
E born 6/2014
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
@AllyTheKid I hate that people think it's acceptable to comment on the number of children a couple has. I kind of get the opposite on my end, though, because I'm Catholic. So, while everyone loves big families, they kind of expect you to have lots of kids or you aren't being a "good" Catholic.
From a religious stand point, whatever happened to "The Lord will bless me with however many kids He wants to"?? Instead it's still people looking at your family and judging that you don't have enough kids, so you must either never be having sex or be using BC (a sin in the Catholic Church.)
So no matter what, outsiders think you have too few children or too many children. How about, we have the right amount of children for us? Thanks so much for your input, strangers who know nothing about our lives.
E born 6/2014
Anyone have a great f*off comment they use? I wanna be ready
DS#2 due 25 April 2019
edited because my brain fog makes me keep including repeat/excess words in my posts
"If you don't drink enough water, you're going to have a miscarriage" Because I wasn't drinking much water because it would make me vomit, so I was drinking powerade.
Another made a comment after my office mate said I need to eat every 3 hours or I get hangry. Then another coworker says "you're going to regret that after you have the baby" I'm eating very small meals more often than I use to eat. I might be eating less than I use to. My dr has not said anything negative about my weight changes. I am overweight, but coworker, my weight is none of your concern. Also, If I don't eat every few hours I start to get nauseous. ugh!
BFP #1 January 28, 2016
Felicity Joy, born September 2, 2016
My Chart
BFP #2 September 11, 2020
EDD May 23, 2021
O.O wtf! I think I would be too shocked to respond if some weird dude did that.