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October 2016 Moms
OrangeEv
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Twatwaffley tuesday Apr 12
OrangeEv
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Here ya go @AllyTheKid , get your twatwaffle out haha. Feel free to start this in the future if you have something!
Re: Twatwaffley tuesday Apr 12
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
I'm starting to show a little bit, and had someone touch my belly yesterday. I couldn't tell if I was annoyed or not, because I like the lady and she wasn't rude or pushy or anything and she was really excited.
But I just think it's strange that most people wouldn't reach out and touch someone else's body without permission, let alone their stomach, which is usually a more restricted body part, on a normal day. But when I'm pregnant it's totally fine to reach out uninvited and rub up and down my belly? How? Why?
I mean, especially since I'm so early too. What do you think you're gonna feel? You can't feel the baby yet, so say hello to my stomach pudge, lady!
LFAF April Siggy: TV/Movie BFFs
BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
BFP: February 2016 EDD: October 17, 2016
Well, 1. He's known since like March 3 we are moving. 2. Our place is a disaster, and he has been told this. Boxes everywhere, piles of stuff to be donated, just general in-the-middle-of-moving chaos. Pics of it in its current state are not going to help rent it out. Plus, I've felt pretty terrible since Valentine's Day, so I haven't been able to clean as well as I'd like. It's okay, but not great. 3. Offers of pics we have taken over the years in its natural, organized, decorated, pretty, not-moving-in-two-weeks disaster state were rejected. I'm going to send him some of our pre-packing pics before he comes down on the off chance it will dissuade him from bothering me, but I don't know if it will work. 4. It is a great place in an insanely desirable neighborhood at a waaaay below average rent, so the odds of it not renting quickly are slim-to-none. Plus, it wasn't on Craigslist when we rented it and we were competing with like 5 people to get it. UGH. He is the worst sometimes.
Now, instead of going home and packing a box or two and falling asleep at 7 like I had planned, I have to try to straighten up that hellhole so he can come down, dick around and take pictures, make stupid, not-funny jokes, and generally fuck up my chi.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Glad all is ok @lilbabybrown!
New TW-shutterfly! Ugh..first the app has "free photos" promotion. So I order a bunch but the order won't go through. Then, I go on the full site to work on my pregnancy album and there's glitches there too. I keep trying to change fonts to black and they're showing up lime green. Grrr...
TTC#2: BFP: 8-23-15 MMC: 10-29-15
DD 2: 9-15-16
DD 3: 9-16-17
ETA: @lilbabybrown I'm glad everything is ok.
Edited for grammer
Uuuum, I have a heavy workload and was promised the WEEKEND...
So Monday and Monday night I crammed until after midnight instead of watching a movie with FI like we originally said we wanted to do.
So he decided to keep himself awake and make a scene at 1a.m. about how "I didn't do what I said I would, and only think for myself". You know what? NOT sorry, and NOT MY FAULT. I was promised help I didn't recieve, so I took it into my own hands at the opportunity I had.
The twatwafflery continued yesterday after school, where he decided to wear ear buds all day and intentionally ignore me for several hours until he decided it was time to make the comment "this is what it's like living with you". Gee golly. Sorry I spent one day trying to meet the demands of my other responsibilities instead of devoting all of my attention to you... get over yourself dude. But wait, there's more! Then he decides to tell me "if I can't get attention from you, I'm going to find it somewhere else", for obvious reasons, I lost it after that remark and he simply could NOT wrap his head around why I was angry or yelling at that point... it progressed until I gave up and went to bed. The unpleasantly has followed me into today and I am so over it.
End Rant.
Yeah, I'm being "that girl" posting my relationship problems.
when my DH would do stuff like that, I got a lot of mileage from being really explicit about how things need to go. Yeah, kinda like a kid, telling him "look, I need help with the kids so I can focus on work or I'll have to do it later. It's up to you. Do you want to not deal with kids and then not get time with me, or do you want to take over kids while I work, and then we can do things together when I am free?"
yeah, it felt obvious to me. Clearly I have to work first and if I can't get things done I'll have to not do things later. But DH and perhaps your Fi aren't seeing things that way. My DH was more of a "handle stuff as it comes up" rather than a "think ahead" person. In fact he still is, but now he's more likely to just do what I say because he's learned that I am a think aheader and that I anticipate problems before they arise. So he trusts me to have good ideas about what needs doing. He's still not always seeing things himself, but for habitual things (like weekly cleaning) he understands that we just have to do it as soon as possible, no futzing around, so that we can do what we want later.
Ultimately I think you're right though. I'm going to have to communicate my every move with him better, even if that means spelling it out because I guess he just ISN'T going to understand cause-and-effect on his own. I'm just frustrated. It wouldn't be so bad if he would just refrain from saying shitty things to me when he gets butthurt about something. Or at least try to talk to me about how he feels like an adult instead of coming up with these juvenile, drama queen examples =/ I don't expect him to be a mind reader and always know what I want or need, and I should definitely start being more explicit with planning. I do however, wish he could be a little more mature when things don't pan out the way he wants.
words make people solidify their feelings wants and needs. Words make them think about how to get what they want. Words lead to solutions. Naming feelings is a crucial part of solving them. Unfortunately not everyone learns that. Don't let them rely on sulking or passive aggressiveness. Force them to cooperate by being the sane rational one trying to solve a problem.
theory: many men are socialized to not see their emotions as problems that can be solved and instead just try to force other people to smooth them over. By placing the burden (and the power) back on them to make themselves feel better, they will eventually feel more in control and more human because they will have a more complete toolkit for handling life's ups and downs.