WTF Wednesday!

kosmo86 · April 2016

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kosmo86 · April 2016

Mine is two fold.....

first my MIL does not work, they have a bunch of rental properties. She leaves tomorrow for Colorado for the summer (she is a snowbird we have lots of them in FL). She wants to see us and say goodbye and we made plans for yesterday at 7, but apparently they does not work for her so now she wants to meet at her house on my and DH's lunch break today. So yeah super inconvenient we can only stay about 15-20 minutes because its about 15-20 minutes from work and now I also need to find something to eat since I usually go home. I hate that she always wants to meet on the weekdays for lunch or right after work. I guess since she doesn't work it seems to easy to her.

2nd part- DH knew last night that the above situation bothered me, but I was trying to be good and I did not mention it once after the initial conversation earlier in the day. We were talking about my hormones and he brings up that I got hormonal over MIL situation. Hell to the NO. I tried to be good but no he HAD to bring it up.

Tippy05 · April 2016

At 16 weeks, I'm now getting morning sickness. Also, my boss, who I haven't seen in months, is coming to see me today - wonderful.

Katie8687 · April 2016

@kosmo86 Oooh no. I hope you explained to him 1) What an inconvenience it is for you (esp. because hello it involves food) and 2) Nobody but the person with the pregnancy hormones is allowed to talk about the pregnancy hormones!!!

My WTF- last night I had an extremely awkward dream with an ex boyfriend from almost 10 years ago where I was posing with him and his family for pictures. Ew ew ew brain, WTF?

UnwritteN12 · April 2016

@kosmo86 - That deserves a swift kick in the butt if you ask me. Just because we're pregnant does not mean that pregnancy hormones can be blamed every time we get upset.

WTF - My kids seem to think that, if they shove things off to the sides of them room (so that the middle of the room is clean), then the whole room is clean. What do you two not understand about "Put your toys away in the toy bins that you have"?! And then here's DS - "But my room is too big and too much of a mess to clean up!! I need help!" OMG. Really? Let's trade. I'll clean your room and you clean the ENTIRE HOUSE!!

Ok. I feel better now that I got that out.

Ssoccerball · April 2016

@UnwritteN12, your son sounds like my daughter. Whenever it comes time to clean her room, she develops a mysterious leg illness that is so painful, she can't possibly walk around her "gigantic" room and pick up all of the toys. One of these days I'm going to call her bluff and drag her to the doctor to have these painful legs treated with a shot!

hey_clever_girl · April 2016

My WTF is that I am apparently 52 weeks pregnant.

Steephers123 · April 2016

@UnwritteN12 my DD is two, but she's starting this as well. When we ask her to clean up she'll say, "No, mama pick up." I'm bad enough at cleaning my own messes, I don't need hers too lol.

I got myself into this one, but it still made me ragey this morning. We went to a petting zoo this weekend and my husband took some photos of DD and I. He's an amateur photographer but god forbid he put some effort into the photos he takes of me. It's like he tries to get the worst possible photos of me, ie. blinking, hair over my face, etc. So I was looking at the photos this morning and was horrified at how I looked in one of the shots: I'm sitting down on a tilted bench so it's AWFUL. I'm squinting, my ears somehow look funny, my thighs are squashed flat and huge, weird crotch shot, and my boobs look wonky. So I showed it to him this morning and said, is this really how I look? (see the part where I got myself into this one) His response was "yeah, I mean you're sitting down, but it definitely looks like you. If you don't like it, do something about it." Right, I'll just go on a diet while pregnant. I'm plus size and I'm fairly realistic about it but this photo was something else. Which apparently looks like me.
Then my dad looked at the photo when I dropped DD off and said, "yeah that definitely looks like you." fml.

steminist · April 2016

This is one I've been holding on to since Monday - plus a bonus one from last year, actually!

I worked a bit late on Monday, and didn't leave the school until nearly 6. That meant I was basically the only car left in the parking lot. I park near the dumpster, and as I walked past I saw one of our custodians peeing on it! I know it was fairly late, but it was still very light outside and he was just out in the open!

Related story from last year, the staff have two single toilet bathrooms we share, one in each break room. Last year, I kept coming in to see pee on the floor beside the toilet - not in front like might be explainable. Still, this is a bathroom used only by adults...one day, I went and the door was only partly closed, so I pushed it open to find a male teacher standing next to the long side of the toilet with his pants around his ankles, bare butt towards the door. I just closed the door and walked back to my classroom. I did not want to wait around to face him! What is with men and lack of peeing etiquette?

camichael84 · April 2016

runningisrad said:

My WTF is that I am apparently 52 weeks pregnant.

52 weeks AND 7 days. I'm impressed.

SLou24 · April 2016

@Jabreen gross!! So many guys think they can just pee anywhere, and I guess technically they can, but it's not ok!! Especially out in the open at the school-- yikes.

CRich15 · April 2016

Mine is very frustrating but just part of what I signed up for. So DH and I are both active duty and the base we are stationed at is currently conducting an exercise to make sure our procedures are effective. Well during this exercise, my unit felt the need to put everyone (even those who are lt participating) on 12 hour shifts. Just my squadron, my husband still has a normal day.. Thankfully because he has to get the boys from daycare. To make it even worse, we found out that our kids will have to accompany us to work at 600 because the daycare centers on base don't open until 630 unless we have made other arrangements. Their reason, "What if this was real world emergency??" Seriously!? I lost my mind and had an awful day yesterday because of stupid people.

I am am doing much better this morning but goodness..

izzetoot · April 2016

My WTF is that I had a quarterly meeting with my boss and of course it was brought up what time off I was going to be needing for when the baby is here. I was working for him when I had my first baby so I told him it would be about the same depending on when I delivered. I would take off 6 weeks and then work from home for 2. He then preceded to ask me odd questions like "do you really think you can handle 2 kids and a full workload" I am the only sales rep and have been for 3+ years in my city. He then dropped the bomb on me that while Im on maternity he will be bringing in a 2nd sales person to cover me while I am away. Which also means this new person will begin taking accounts, some of mine, and be a permanent fixture afterwards. Is this the beginning of the end? It's a very small company, 6 employees total, and I am the only one married with kids. Everyone else is around my same age or younger and no where close to the family situation. So I am definetly the odd man out...
WTF! I love my job!!

Katie8687 · April 2016

@izzetoot Ugh. Workplace sexism at its best. Like how could you POSSIBLY be a fit mother AND a competent employee?? Ridiculous.

pinkspartan15 · April 2016

My WTF is my body. This morning I woke up with the worst pain in the middle of my sternum- like its bruised or something. Nothing happened yesterday to cause it so I have no idea of whats causing it. It hurts so bad to move around which mean despite finally feeling better I am probably going to skip my gym class tonight. Ugh!

izzetoot · April 2016

Katie8687 said:

@izzetoot Ugh. Workplace sexism at its best. Like how could you POSSIBLY be a fit mother AND a competent employee?? Ridiculous.

Yep. No one seems to be concerned my DHs workload?? Or the time he will be taking off after the baby is born??

toimadness1 · April 2016

My WTF is from Monday night. A couple weeks ago I asked a friend if she could watch my one year old during the day because I needed to spend the day up at the hospital for nursing practice. We've often taken turns watching each other's kids over the years. She's also my only friend who doesn't currently work and she readily agreed and said she'd be super excited to do it. I checked in with her Monday afternoon to make sure we were still on for Tuesday. She agreed again and we made all the arrangements. I was going to just drop him and all his stuff at her house. Well Monday night at 8:30 while I was at bible study she texted me that she wasn't feeling well and had a fever. Not the best news for me but I understood. Spent the drive home trying to figure out some other arrangement for my sons care the next day. Once home I got on Facebook and saw she had tagged herself as having a movie night with her boyfriend only 15 minutes previously. He lives about an hour away and she often stays over there when she doesn't have her kids. Needless to say I was annoyed but my dad pulled through and found a friend who could help watch my son with my brother also helping out a couple hours. Then my friend starts texting me at 5 in the morning complaining about how bad she feels and still had a fever but will watch my son still if I want. Really?

Although maybe it's just me. I've found that I am super irritable lately.

vampirina · April 2016

@UnwritteN12 - I think you just accurately described my personal cleaning methods

@Ssoccerball - I should try that method with my husband tonight

(I really really hate cleaning... can't you tell?)

@izzetoot - that is just awful.

mamadomino · April 2016

camichael84 said:

runningisrad said:

My WTF is that I am apparently 52 weeks pregnant.

52 weeks AND 7 days. I'm impressed.

I think it means the 7th day of the week. Like I turned 16 weeks yesterday, and it says I'm on day 2 of week 16, instead of 16 weeks one day. Which is a stupid way to do it because no one counts days like that in pregnancy.

rn1stbae · April 2016

I'm so glad I'm not the only person with all these WTFs! My WTF for this week is something that my husband does ALL THE TIME. Here's a good scenario: were on vacation last week and are in an itty bitty albeit nice hotel room. Like, we cant walk past each other tiny. He knows I have to pee all the time being pregnant. We spend a few hours out walking around getting dinner and desert and the entire way home I just keep saying OMG I have to peeeee!!!!! We get back and he goes to the bathroom and proceeds to take a ten minute long crap. And it's always so gross and stinky. He comes out and just leaves the door open. He does this at home too. Thanks for not using the vent, or air freshener, or closing the door when you come out. I'm like, it takes me literally 15 seconds to pee, wouldn't you have let me go first?? AMD he gives me some smart ass response.

Then later he comments on how we haven't had sex. Right.

UnwritteN12 · April 2016

Ssoccerball - LoL! Sounds about right. It never ceases to amazes me as far as what these kids can come up with.
@Steephers123 - So frustrating! I guess we need to start training them to clean up after themselves even sooner!

We've actually taken away every single toy in DS's room before because he refused to clean it up. The problem was we had to find some place to stash them and it ended up being in mine and DH's closet. And this child has no shortage of toys so they took up most of the closet.

Thscary · April 2016

@izzetoot I would keep a record of those kind of comments along with the date/time they occurred. Not saying anything will happen with your job, but if you start to notice any kind of descrimination occurring it might help to have documentation as these kind of things can be difficult to prove down the road if you ever needed to take any sort of legal action.

PSUBecky23 · April 2016

WTF to my company and its maternity leave policy that makes no sense and its crappy HR department employees that don't know what they're talking about. Almost halfway through my pregnancy and I'm still not sure how much time I get and how much is paid/unpaid. Kind of need to know so I can make some plans.

ruemcclanahan · April 2016

I need to rant a little bit.
So when I made my FB announcement a few weeks ago one of my friends from grade school liked the post and within 5 mins posted a pretty lack luster announcement that she is expecting her 2nd child. Which bugged me a little but no big, I'm happy for her!

Yesterday she posted that she is 7 weeks along, meaning she announced when she was 4 weeks?
Isn't that a bit early? I mean, goodness I didn't even know I was pregnant at 4 weeks.
People mentioned to me how strange it was that she announced the same day as me, and because she is only a few weeks along it really seems like she was just trying to steal my baby-thunder.

Typing this out makes me seem really petty and irrational but it just rubbed me the wrong way.

mom2adoodle · April 2016

My WTF is that I don't have many pregnant friends. Nor know many pregnant people. (Other than you ladies of course). The one "friend" I do have is one of DH's friend's wives. I email her checking in a lot and try to talk baby stuff and she forgets to reply, will say things like "OMG I haven't even thought about that" and is generally no help nor ally at all. I'm about done trying with this woman. I'm peeved she's one of two pregnant people I know. And she's due 10 days after me. I somehow thought we would be pregnancy buddies but I guess she never got the memo. Ha.

edited to clarify that DH does not have another wife but that his friend has said wife

steminist · April 2016

mom2adoodle said:

My WTF is that I don't have many pregnant friends. Nor know many pregnant people. (Other than you ladies of course). The one "friend" I do have is one of DH's wives. I email her checking in a lot and try to talk baby stuff and she forgets to reply, will say things like "OMG I haven't even thought about that" and is generally no help nor ally at all. I'm about done trying with this woman. I'm peeved she's one of two pregnant people I know. And she's due 10 days after me. I somehow thought we would be pregnancy buddies but I guess she never got the memo. Ha.

LOL...I knew what you meant, but I'm picturing you and a sister wife fighting it out for pregnancy attention and maternal superiority

mom2adoodle · April 2016

@Jabreen HAHAHAHAHHAHAAH!!!!! No sister wives around here but that's hilarious! LOL

izzetoot · April 2016

Thscary said:

@izzetoot I would keep a record of those kind of comments along with the date/time they occurred. Not saying anything will happen with your job, but if you start to notice any kind of descrimination occurring it might help to have documentation as these kind of things can be difficult to prove down the road if you ever needed to take any sort of legal action.

I was kinda thinking the same thing. Part of me understands his concerns because I do have a super large territory and having a 2nd person here would benefit the company. I just don't want to slowly be phased out of the picture while this new, probably commitment free, person steps in. I am really only available to work when I have a nanny at my house to watch my son, which is only 3 days a week, and I can't pick up and run off to late night events or last minute tastings if I don't have a sitter. Im a wine sales rep so those happen frequently. However, just because I do have a family doesn't mean that I am unable to perform my job or be in this line of work. And I need my job to support my family!

RedMar · April 2016

@Thscary I very much agree with what you have to say. Regardless if it's "inconveniencing" your boss @izzetoot it's still sexist and should be documented. You should never feel defeated because you have a (growing) family!

SLou24 · April 2016

@izzetoot ugh, you have a right to be pissed! I can't believe he would ask you that. I guess the only thing you can do is do your very best work and make them see how valuable you are. And not sure if this has already been mentioned but I'd probably document that conversation just in case...

ETA I was lazy and didn't read through first.. But it was mentioned so I second that thought!

hey_clever_girl · April 2016

Megan324 said:

I need to rant a little bit.
So when I made my FB announcement a few weeks ago one of my friends from grade school liked the post and within 5 mins posted a pretty lack luster announcement that she is expecting her 2nd child. Which bugged me a little but no big, I'm happy for her!

Yesterday she posted that she is 7 weeks along, meaning she announced when she was 4 weeks?
Isn't that a bit early? I mean, goodness I didn't even know I was pregnant at 4 weeks.
People mentioned to me how strange it was that she announced the same day as me, and because she is only a few weeks along it really seems like she was just trying to steal my baby-thunder.

Typing this out makes me seem really petty and irrational but it just rubbed me the wrong way.

Annoying that she announced the same day as you, but to play devil's advocate, we announced the day after we found out - right at 4 weeks. I knew that early because we had been trying for 2 years. If you find out right as your period is due (which I did), you're generally around 4 weeks pregnant.

camichael84 · April 2016

runningisrad said:

Megan324 said:

I need to rant a little bit.
So when I made my FB announcement a few weeks ago one of my friends from grade school liked the post and within 5 mins posted a pretty lack luster announcement that she is expecting her 2nd child. Which bugged me a little but no big, I'm happy for her!

Yesterday she posted that she is 7 weeks along, meaning she announced when she was 4 weeks?
Isn't that a bit early? I mean, goodness I didn't even know I was pregnant at 4 weeks.
People mentioned to me how strange it was that she announced the same day as me, and because she is only a few weeks along it really seems like she was just trying to steal my baby-thunder.

Typing this out makes me seem really petty and irrational but it just rubbed me the wrong way.

Annoying that she announced the same day as you, but to play devil's advocate, we announced the day after we found out - right at 4 weeks. I knew that early because we had been trying for 2 years. If you find out right as your period is due (which I did), you're generally around 4 weeks pregnant.

I agree. I knew before 4 weeks with both of my pregnancies. I was tracking ovulation with my first, and took an early test on a whim. This time, I just happened to test at 3w3d because it was NYE, we were NTNP so I knew pregnancy was a possibility, and I was going to drink. Not everyone turns a test that early, but it can happen. That said, I wouldn't FB announce at 4 weeks. Too soon and too risky to me.

ETA Try not to take it to heart. I'm excited for every pregnancy announcement I see, and wouldn't think her announcement makes yours less exciting.

izzetoot · April 2016

@SLou24 @RedMar @Thscary

Thanks, it hasn't been sitting with me really well for the past few days, I keep getting madder and madder and I think I'm going to talk to him about it again. Not right away but the next time it seems appropriate. And I am going to very bluntly say something like "I hope you are not insinuating that because I am pregnant or have children I am incapable of performing my job?" Hopefully that will jar or scare him a little. The last thing he needs is a law suit, and that's the first thing I would give him if I was let go.

AnnaS930 · April 2016

@izzetoot - I like that line. It puts it right out there as a "what you're saying, is sounding an awful lot like this. And trust me - neither of us want that to be the case" Good thinking

ruemcclanahan · April 2016

@runningisrad @camichael84 I am surprised she announced so early, not that she knew so early.
I really am happy for her, I know its not a competition LOL.

I feel silly

camichael84 · April 2016

@Megan324 Don't feel silly. Pregnancy makes us feel all kinds of things we wouldn't otherwise. It's not like you caused a scene about it on FB when it happened or towards her. Feeling annoyed about it isn't a big deal.

Also, non-related, I'm glad you're screen name isn't Knottie-bunch of random numbers anymore. I recognized you by avatar, but now I can associate a screen name with you.

ruemcclanahan · April 2016

@camichael84Yes!! I finally put 2 and 2 together that the knottie.... was from the knot, so I could change my screen name on there. Why it took me this long, who knows

AnnaS930 · April 2016

@Megan324 - I think this board is a decent place to make a petty complaint such as yours (warning that the same complaint on my last BMB would have results in an uproar.. they/we were not so kind). It is silly, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't have felt the exact same way... like, did she really need to announce minutes after? Maybe she read your announcement and peed on a stick herself, lol.

Either way, sounds like you felt like your thunder was stolen but it probably wasn't! FB can be annoying on so many levels.

steminist · April 2016

@Megan324 I understand your feelings entirely. One of my best friends got engaged a couple of days after I did and set her wedding for shortly after mine, too. We were bridesmaids for each other, and obviously not all of that timing was her decision, but I still had this feeling of being one-upped - like people only had so much excitement to show and now I would be getting less of it. It's irrational, yes, but I get it!

I also had a negative reaction to your saying she was only 4 weeks along. I told close family at 6 weeks, then had a loss almost immediately after. This time, I was so anxious I didn't tell anyone until about 8 or 9 weeks, and not friends or coworkers until I was out of the first trimester. I'm not saying she shouldn't have, but I get this nervous and jealous feeling when people post so early. I wish I could go back to being so excited and carefree about the pregnancy that I felt comfortable telling the world right away.

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