Trying not to get hopes up - anyone have cramps/spotting then no period only to get period later?

Lydia415 · March 2016

So, long story short... my hubby and I have been TTC for over 3 years now, although the past year or so it hasn't been so much trying... more just us not preventing anything but having pretty much given up on any thought we would ever have a kid. (Which, I call BS on anyone saying it will happen as soon as you stop trying, haha). My hubby got tested a year or so ago and his results came back normal, and I've never done any actual fertility testing, just the usual women's wellness exams, and those were always normal.

So, I had given up on looking for any of the typical "warning signs" that I might be pregnant, since I got tired of getting my hopes up then having them dashed for so long. However, just yesterday I started cramping and getting some light spotting and today it has stopped. I was convinced that my period was going to start, and it didn't. That one is a first for me. Also, my period isn't due till later this week... I really hate getting my hopes up, but to me things seem to be pointing to signs of implantation bleeding yesterday.

Has anyone else thought they had implantation bleeding/cramping that happened at the time that would potentially happen, only to have their period come later? Trying to get some validation here to not get my hopes up again... since the higher my hopes rise, the harder they crash down when it ends up being nothing. I'm not trying to be a downer or anything, just curious if anyone else has been through this situation.

***Update*** Okay, answered my own question. Period just started.

Glad to know my body is just being it's usual dumb self. haha

SmileyMcGee · April 2016

@Lydia415 sorry AF showed. My body does this just about every time! Often get spotting a couple of days in the run up to my actual period. Isn't it awful when you're symptom spotting all the time... Hugs xx

Worldtravler0522 · April 2016

@Lydia415 like you I have pretty much given up on reading too much into the possible early signs of pregnancy because I swear everything is a sign you are pregnant. I'm sorry to hear AF showed up, hopefully her stay is short and painless.

PinkNoise02 · April 2016

Hi Lydia,

I've also been TTC for 4 years and have also had some light spotting before AF that I've mistaken for implantation bleeding. I could have written your exact post myself, I've really given up. No doctor can find anything wrong with me or my husband, yet I've never been pregnant.

I'm wondering what life will mean without kids, I don't know if I'm built for adoption. Just the idea that my adoptive child is always shared with someone else would rip my heart out. I think adopting a child is probably the most selfless thing someone can do. It seems like adoptive children long for their birth parents, which I get, but that would make me feel so terrible not to be their only parent.

My life is good. I'm healthy otherwise, my husband is healthy and we both have fulfilling jobs and hobbies, I just always had kids in my view of my future, and I don't know what the rest of my life looks like without kids. There's not a neat bucket for married people without kids -- we don't fit in with married people with kids or single people. Now most of our friends have "lapped" us and have a second baby or are pregnant now. Very few people know we're trying. I just wish I knew for sure know whether or not I should even keep trying, or just start to plan out the rest of my life without kids. This is such a lonely journey. My husband and I try to help eachother but it's just a cycle of depression. We seem to be sad at different times, which is good I guess.

I've been to so many doctors and I just never get the feeling that anyone actually cares what happens. I'm tired of it all.

Sambie023 · April 2016

I have had the same problems and I've been trying this whole month and I've just got off my birth control had cramps bloating and mood swings and I'm tiered more. I had a late period of 7 days and April first 1 started my period no blood clots at all. I wonder if I could still end up pregnant? And I've taken blood and a pregnancy test like 5 test 2 blood wonder if I still can be pregnant please help and all the doctors I've been to don't care enough to help me is there anyway I could still be even though I had my period.
I'm so very stressed out about all of this idk what to do help

ReesaAnne16 · April 2016

@Sambie023 It sounds like your started your period on April 1st. If you're just coming off of birth control, then it's normal to have irregular or longer cycles. It's also normal for your period to vary in length. I'm sorry, but the chances are you're not pregnant. You might want to read "taking charge of your fertility"

lablover78 · April 2016

@PinkNoise02 I have those same thoughts...ttc for almost 3 yrs, no pregnancies and I am so scared to face a future with no children. My DH said he was open to adoption when we were dating but now that it's a reality it is not an option for him. I love that he is honest but it's heartbreaking. I don't want to give up but I am so tired of this emotional roller coaster. I'm sorry you're having a hard time but thank you for sharing

MedicMomma84 · April 2016

Yes, yes and yes! I am on cycle day 39, going on 40 with no period and many negative HPTs and negative HCG serum tests! Stilllllll no AF. I am getting so tired of this crap! Last month, I had a full cycle, this much, not so much!

At this point, I would rather have a visit from AF than nothing at all.

CowgirlK39 · April 2016

Sorry this cycle didn't work out for you. But to answer your question, yes I have definitely gone through the issues you have. Last year I had cramps but no AF. I tested and it was positive. Then I suffered an early CP. I am going thru the TWW right now after round 1 of Clomid and I'm cramping again. I am due to test this weekend and I'm not sure what to expect. Cramps are so very confusing.

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