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My hormones are making me an emotional wreck!

jbailey213jbailey213 member
in June 2016 Moms
32 weeks pregnant here, and I don't know if the reality of having baby #2 is setting in or if I am experiencing a major surge in hormones, but I am a wreck! For some reason, I am now worried about the transition from having one child to having two children aged 2 and under. And it's not so much the difficulty of raising 2 children that worries me, it's that my son is going to feel slighted or less loved because he isn't an only child anymore. I'm crazy, right? Yes. I am totally crazy. I grew up with 3 siblings and I am sure there was an adjustment period but I never felt "less loved" when  new sibling came along. 

I have gone into super bonding mode with my 2 year old now because I want to soak up all the "only child-ness" I can before baby #2 arrives. He has been our world for the last 2 years and I don't want him to feel left out once baby comes. (Of course, I am SO excited for baby #2 to arrive so these are conflicting feelings!) My husband must think I am crazy because I even miss our little guy when I drop him off at daycare -- the daycare he has been going to since he was 5 weeks old. This isn't new! I have dropped him off every day for 2 years -- why am I becoming an emotional mess now? Oh, right. Because my hormones are making me crazy. 

Moms who have gone through the 1 kid to 2 kids transition - it gets better, right? 
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  • HeartLikeMine3HeartLikeMine3 member
    I am also having a hard time with this. My son will be three when the baby is here and I'm so nervous about how he will feel and react. He is the center of our world everyone the only grandchild and we just dote on him constantly. The kid doesn't know how to play by himself for a second. I am trying to work on his independence these last couple weeks and not baby him as much. He stayed the night with my mom the other night and I cried because he wasn't home. Previously would have been  celebrated having a night off. Sorry o don't have any advice but just know you aren't alone with your feelings. And  I'm sure our Boys will do better than expected. Newborns sleep a lot so I'm hoping that we will still have a lot of us time! 
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  • jbailey213jbailey213 member
    HeartLikeMine3 said:
    I am also having a hard time with this. My son will be three when the baby is here and I'm so nervous about how he will feel and react. He is the center of our world everyone the only grandchild and we just dote on him constantly. The kid doesn't know how to play by himself for a second. I am trying to work on his independence these last couple weeks and not baby him as much. He stayed the night with my mom the other night and I cried because he wasn't home. Previously would have been  celebrated having a night off. Sorry o don't have any advice but just know you aren't alone with your feelings. And  I'm sure our Boys will do better than expected. Newborns sleep a lot so I'm hoping that we will still have a lot of us time! 
    You are smarter than I am! I should be working on encouraging independence and not babying him but am doing the exact opposite. I selfishly want all the cuddles I can get from him! I have considered an overnight stay for him at my parents' house, kind of a practice run since he will be staying there when I am in the hospital, and thought that might help the transition a little. Grandpa and grandma's house is always more fun, isn't it? Good luck to you! As you said, I am sure our boys will transition just fine and I am hopefully worrying about nothing! 
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  • NLewis1NLewis1 member
    I could have written this.

    ive been so worried about my almost 2yo DS feeling neglected. I had a conversation with my mom about it this weekend and she told me I am not the kind of mom that would let that happen, that just because I'm aware of it, is a step in the right direction to making sure he gets one on one time after the baby is here. 

    She said everything will go better than I expect it will and I hope she's right! 
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  • GinnyJ2012GinnyJ2012 member
    I'll have 3u4 when this girl is born. My boys get a lot of attention, but I have encouraged independent play time. We have different zones in the house with toys and comfortable seating so I can watch the boys play while I nurse. It's what I did when DS2 was born and worked well. I also made special "dates" with DS1, so he had alone time with me or DH. 


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  • fishwife799fishwife799 member
    It will be ok. I promise. I had all of these feelings when I was going from 1-2. To be honest I'm even having them now going to 3. It's really hard to explain but it will all come together for you. Your son is young enough he will likely never remember being an only child. You will see the relationship between them grow and it will fill you with love. Just today i was in the kitchen and came out to my 18mo old sitting on his sisters lap and she was "reading" a book to him. It was the sweetest thing. I also try to make time for just my daughter and I which she loves and it lets us keep our special bond. 


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  • Emztron500Emztron500 member
    I feel you. I go between being scared for my 2-year-old and worried she'll feel neglected, and being worried that I won't love my baby like I did my first one because I'm already preoccupied with my toddler. I know logically that I will love them both and give them both plenty of attention, but it's just hard for me to imagine.
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  • jbailey213jbailey213 member
    I'm glad to hear that these feelings aren't abnormal! I almost feel bad about feeling this way, because it sounds like I am dreading the arrival of #2 (which is very much not the case!) It is just an odd in-between of excitement and sadness/worry. 
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  • WinniethePoohsPantsWinniethePoohsPants member
    I feel very similar!
    My son will be 3 and a half when LO is born. I am really anxious about him feeling left out. I'm hoping that my Dh will be able to pitch in this summer and give him lots of father son outings to make him feel special. I'm looking forward to the day when both of my boys will be old enough to play with each other, I figure that will outweigh the initial anxiety of no longer being an only child.
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  • Mamabraun7911Mamabraun7911 member
    edited April 2016
    I need to bitch about my doctor!! I love her she's great BUT today I went in and she told me she's on vacation June 21-28th (I'm due the 23rd). And I totally get doctors deserve a vacation and have things that come up but I'm sad I love my doctor and want her to deliver! She told me if I want she could induce me on the 20th before she leaves. I'm so toren I really would like him to come on his own but I also want her to deliver him!! Maybe I'm just being whinny!! Any advice or suggestions on which options you'd choose would be great!
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  • HBamama2BHBamama2B member
    Mamabraun7911 said:
    I need to bitch about my doctor!! I love her she's great BUT today I went in and she told me she's on vacation June 21-28th (I'm due the 23rd). And I totally get doctors deserve a vacation and have things that come up but I'm sad I love my doctor and want her to deliver! She told me if I want she could induce me on the 20th before she leaves. I'm so toren I really would like him to come on his own but I also want her to deliver him!! Maybe I'm just being whinny!! Any advice or suggestions on which options you'd choose would be great!
    What?! Do not get an induction for convenience. If your doctor suggested it, be excited about the possibility of a different Doctor. 

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  • Bear14+Bear14+ member
    What pp said... I would not get an induction for convenience! My SIL did this because her preferred dr was on call...shockingly, her baby went into distress & she had an emergency csection (not shocking!!!). 

    You could go at 39 weeks, a due date is an estimate only. My son came at 37. Plus, your ob is only around for pushing, it's the nurses who get you through it. I wouldn't worry about who delivers. Such a tiny piece of L&D. 
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