Second thoughts now.. ( child mentioned)

runner76 · April 2016

I felt like I wanted this so bad and now I am questioning it all. First of all, reading all those side effects scared the hell out of me. ( there have been deaths, the blood clots, cancer risk) I have a ten year old with someone else. is it worth dying for this and leaving her? I had a horrible car accident 13 years ago and was in a coma.. I had blood clots and much more.. this is all scaring me and making me think back to then. I want a baby again and to be a mother but idk if I can do it.. I have one tube,. what if it coulda happened on its own. What If I start doing the shots and change my mind? what can happen if you don't finish shots?? I don't know what im am going to do.

em01092 · April 2016

Hi there, I am so sorry to hear about your struggles. That is terrible. I think it's normal to question these sorts of things. What is your treatment plan? Are you doing IVF, IUI?

runner76 · April 2016

IVF. injections start tomorrow

dragonfaerie · April 2016

@runner76 I understand the fears and doubts that go along with this. But you have to trust your doctors. As long as you have been up front with them about all of your medical history, they will put you on the best meds to keep you safe and healthy. There are always risks with everything, even driving a car or going on a rollercoaster, but you and your partner have sat down to discuss this, especially with all the consents you should have signed before you got to the injections. It's scary, but only you can decide if it's worth those risks.
I would strongly encourage you to go speak to someone about your concerns, whether that's a counselor, a pastor, or just your RE. I don't want to upset you, but you seem to be struggling with peace of mind, and being relaxed is more important during this time than anything else. I will be praying for your peace.

meli123k · April 2016

Hi @runner76, I'm sorry you are having to go through this. I am doing IUI with meds, and sometimes I have worries and question my doing this because I had a stroke several years back when I was on birth control. Since then I've been careful about the meds I take, however I've accepted the risks of taking the fertility meds for now, but am not sure if I will continue on them if the IUIs don't work out in the next few months. But I remind myself that I won't know how I feel about it all until I get there, so I'm keeping an open mind for now. It's a tough decision and very personal...on one hand taking the risk may help you conceive the child you long and ache for, and pregnancy in itself is an increased risk for clots and stroke anyway, so there will always be a risk. On the other hand, it's worrisome knowing there is extra risk on top of all the other stress you have to deal with. In the end, you are the only one who can make that difficult decision. I hope you are able to come to a decision that you are comfortable with, and I hope you are able to come to peace with that decision.

runner76 · April 2016

I think I am more scared of the cancer risk more than any of it. I never heard this before till now..

chickyclg · April 2016

I honestly think you should contact your RE or nurses to try and put your mind at ease. I have a blood disorder that causes clots and the only thing that changed was I was put on a blood thinner.

I think everyone has a different mind set, but mine is we live in a time where it seems everything has side effects, so maybe there's a way to look each drug and evaluate each ones risk.

runner76 · April 2016

I talked to nurse,, it somewhat helped.. but I guess its the unknown scaring me. if I do this and there is a cancer risk. I think a lot of it is because I almost died years ago and went through years of health stuff and now I am voluntarily putting myself at risk. If I stop shots or the cycle prematurely can that make me not get pregnant on my own later

I am almost 40.. I think this is just not normal I am even doing this.

cmm012 · April 2016

Hello again. Perhaps you should consider canceling this month and getting more information about the risk and occurrence of adverse reactions. Your meds won't go bad in a month, it you will probably have a better experience if you are more confident. I completely understand the trauma of having an accident with a huge health scare. It is hard to think about possibly putting yourself in a similar situation. I think some additional time to consider everything will help.

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