OPINIONS...

arduaaa · April 2016

I was pregnant and had my son in May 2015. I got pregnant again and I'm due July 19th 2016 and im having another boy. But I've been told I'm not aloud too have another baby shower because I jus had one for my first son. And they won't be that far apart in age. But then I feel bad because it's like we aren't even celebrating the new baby arriving idk am I over thinking it. Thoughts please!!!

[Deleted User] · April 2016

edited my response because the link was dumb.

You can do a sip and see party - just make sure to not expect of ask for gifts.

CharmBombExplosion · April 2016

arduaaa said:

I was pregnant and had my son in May 2015. I got pregnant again and I'm due July 19th 2016 and im having another boy. But I've been told I'm not aloud too have another baby shower because I jus had one for my first son. And they won't be that far apart in age. But then I feel bad because it's like we aren't even celebrating the new baby arriving idk am I over thinking it. Thoughts please!!!

You can totes have a shower!!! It definitely won't be viewed as tacky at all! In fact, since you will probably throw it yourself, make it pot luck so you don't have to worry about food! The only possible way to celebrate the arrival of a new baby is by making sure all of your family and friends have to buy you gifts so I totes understand!

MissWaldorf · April 2016

CharmBombExplosion said:

arduaaa said:

I was pregnant and had my son in May 2015. I got pregnant again and I'm due July 19th 2016 and im having another boy. But I've been told I'm not aloud too have another baby shower because I jus had one for my first son. And they won't be that far apart in age. But then I feel bad because it's like we aren't even celebrating the new baby arriving idk am I over thinking it. Thoughts please!!!

You can totes have a shower!!! It definitely won't be viewed as tacky at all! In fact, since you will probably throw it yourself, make it pot luck so you don't have to worry about food! The only possible way to celebrate the arrival of a new baby is by making sure all of your family and friends have to buy you gifts so I totes understand!

OP I really hope you understand that this post is sarcastic.
A baby shower is a gift welcoming a woman to motherhood which you have already been welcomed to.
Regardless of the sex of the baby or how far apart in age, second showers are extremely distasteful and gift grabby.
Showers celebrate the mother not the baby as the baby hasn't even arrived yet.
If you feel like you aren't celebrating this baby without one why don't you host a meet the baby barbecue?
Also if you ultilize the search function you would have seen how this board feels about second showers unless this is mud which I'm getting the slight feeling it may be.
ETA if you decide to go with @CharmBombExplosion's soirée idea most def have a diaper raffle, a wishing well and since thank you cards are so time consuming just mass print a bunch with a generalized thank you!

VOR · April 2016

So.... as stated, showers are welcoming YOU to motherhood. It's more about you than "celebrating the baby" (who actually isn't even here yet...). Past that - something about "celebrating the baby" bugs me. Yes, babies are big deals. Life changing events and all that.

BUT not every event in our life- even including kids - will necessarily always be celebrated. There is no "unfairness" about it. Trust - your kids aren't going to know nor care if a shower was thrown for you while PG w/ each of them. Well, unless YOU make it an issue, of course.

But - again, yes, you're having a baby. You're excited and so forht. If you want to throw a "meet the baby" party after you've had the baby, go ahead. But just realize that there isn't a need or requirement that this baby MUST be "celebrated" with a party.

LoveIsOwlYouNeed · April 2016

Just echoing what has been said. Showers are to welcome you to motherhood not celebrate the baby. That has been done. If you want to celebrate the baby, have a party to meet the baby once it's here.

missteacherlady16 · April 2016

arduaaa said:

I was pregnant and had my son in May 2015. I got pregnant again and I'm due July 19th 2016 and im having another boy. But I've been told I'm not aloud too have another baby shower because I jus had one for my first son. And they won't be that far apart in age. But then I feel bad because it's like we aren't even celebrating the new baby arriving idk am I over thinking it. Thoughts please!!!

Yes.

Also, ditto to PPs. A second baby shower is tacky. If you've lurked around this board even a little, you'd already know that.

dufferoo · April 2016

There are lots of ways you can celebrate your new baby without having a shower: Have a cute family photo shoot with your hubby, baby and pregnant belly; write letters or poems to the baby while she's still in utero; get a babysitter and go out to dinner with your husband where you guys can talk about baby plans and names; etc. Like others said, just because all your friends aren't there buying you gifts doesn't mean you're not properly celebrating!

Bringmemylongswordho · April 2016

I think it's sad that people only seem to see something as a celebration if someone else gives them a gift. Have a sip n see if you want to, but honestly baby number 2 isn’t going to feel more loved if you do.

blush64 · April 2016

Although in my family we do have a shower for each pregnancy it seems that is not what is done in your family. (and not done in many places) You can celebrate your baby in many ways that doesn't involve a shower. The baby isn't even aware of what is going on and many times not born. Do something special for you and your family, a dinner, a day out, a weekend away.

cseley321 · April 2016

If someone is offering to throw one, by all means accept if you want, but I would not do a registry, and keep the guest list to close family and close friends only.

If you're wanting to throw your own, it's just going to come off tacky no matter how you slice it. If you're planning to do your own, just wait and do a meet the baby get together if you simply must have a party

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