Missing and worrying about baby

Re: Missing and worrying about baby

• VexedMommy member

  March 2016

  The best way to calm down is just to keep doing it.  Try leaving your LO with daddy for a full day of you doing something you enjoy and make it a point to only call a set number of times.  Since daddy is good with him, give dad the privilege that you enjoy of staying home with your little guy and bonding with him.  Constantly checking up on your partner can undermine his sense of himself as a parent. 
  
  It sounds like you feel your anxiety is negatively affecting your school work and could have a negative effect on your relationship with your partner and your son.  You may want to talk to your doctor about these feelings to determine whether they fall within normal levels or if you may benefit from counseling or medication to help you ease your anxiety and learn better coping methods. 
  

  If there's something strange underneath the hood.  Who you gonna call?  Your Doctor.  If there's something weird and it don't look good.  Who you gonna call?  Your Doctor.  Immediately.  If it's new, painful, and possibly pregnancy related get your ass off the internet and call your doctor.  It's for your health and your child's. 
  
  
  
  
  

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• natalknitter15 member

  March 2016

  As usual, @VexedMommy gives some great advice.
  

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• Escheffler34 member

  March 2016

  Thanks so much @VexedMommy. You're so right and it's good to hear from an 'outsiders' perspective 

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• GoogleMD member

  March 2016

  I also agree with vexy.
  
  I also try to remind myself the more focused and efficient I work the sooner i can leave and pick up my little. Maybe yiu can remind yourself the more focused you are in class the more time you will have to devote to your LO at him.
  
  
  Also, i would avoid checking up on the baby frequently. If you are confident in dad's judgment, let him care for the baby knowing he loves and caresfor him as much as you do. 
  My mom watches my son and i used to frequently checked in on him and told her how I do things. I could tell she felt like i didnt trust her, which is certainty not the case at all. I have to remind myself that she loves him, ans would never do anything to put him in harms way. Obviously, she doesnt do everything just like i would, but that is ok. I just made a short list that were non-negotiable  (like dont warm breast milk in the microwave) and otherwise let her do what is comfortsble for her.
  
  Good luck, it gets easier
  
  

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• Ceridwen77 member

  April 2016

  I'm still struggling with this and I've been back to work full time since 2/1. I will say my anxiety and inability to focus have both markedly improved in that time. I think leaving lo is a challenge for a lot of moms and it just takes time to become more comfortable with the situation. But at the same time vexedmommy has great advice that I often tell myself to help me get over some of my anxiety. I especially agree with the part about trusting you lo's caregivers and not making them feel unable or inadequate. 

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• rubirubi89 member

  April 2016

  I had a long talk with my mom since she felt I didn't trust her, because I was calling about every 2 hours. I explained that to this day, my son has lived longer inside than outside of me and I feel the need to see him. So now she sends me a couple of pictures of him during the day and we facetime during my lunch. 

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