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Running errands

Newlywedbliss611Newlywedbliss611 member
edited April 2016 in October 2015 Moms
Does anyone ever go run errands without baby even if it means they have to take a bottle from dad, grandma or whomever? My DD is 5 months but I feel sooo guilty running errands and having my husband stay home with her. Am I the only one? 
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    amwright33amwright33 member
    I just get nervous because she won't let anyone feed her but me. I usually just tote her with me. Most places will provide a breastfeeding room. Or I will feed her in the car with a cover.
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    Newlywedbliss611Newlywedbliss611 member
    I work full time so she is in day care 4 days a week, so I know she won't have a problem taking a bottle from dh.
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    amwright33amwright33 member
    That's good. I wish mine would without a 3 hour screaming match with DH and grandparents. I wouldn't feel guilty for doing errands without her. I would consider it me time. 
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    tpete12tpete12 member
    Every 2/3 shopping trips I would say that I take my daughter with me. I leave her with my mom, Aunt or hubby if I have a bunch of quick stops to make or if I have to do a big grocery run. 
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    J1DJ1D member
    I leave baby home with his dad all the time and vice versa. My baby has 2 parents both totally capable of caring for him on their own. On the the weekends when my husband is off work HE takes baby to run errands while I stay home and chill (obviously this depends on the errands.)
    OP, may I ask why you would feel guilty leaving your baby with his other parent?
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    Newlywedbliss611Newlywedbliss611 member
    I'm not sure why I feel guilty. Maybe because I was home with her for 4 months on maternity leave and now I feel guilty for not spending time with her while working or running errands. I know my husband can take off her by himself, he is a very good father. I'm not entirely sure why I feel guilty. 
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    LouislLouisl member
    Time away/to myself makes me a better parent. 
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    J1DJ1D member
    Louisl said:
    Time away/to myself makes me a better parent. 
    Yup.
    Sometimes we get a babysitter just so I can nap cause my baby doesn't sleep well (now it's just not well, but for the first 4 months it was a total nightmare) so I'm exhausted. Last week the sitter came over so I could sleep and then I went to a fitness class and when I got home I had the best afternoon/evening with my baby :) I was so happy to see him and I was rested and not stressed. It was so nice. I felt like a Disney Princess for real!
    We've decided to have the sitter come more regularly so I can have some time to sleep and some time to myself. Those days I have much more meaningful interaction with my son. 
    I take care of him and love him everyday, but not gonna lie, some days I zombie stumble my way through. On the days I get sleep I'm able to play with him more and you know, not fall asleep in a puddle of my own drool on the floor next to him. It also really clears my head and calms me to go to a class or run errands alone cause I can focus on just one thing for a little while. Then when I get back I can give my son undivided attention for a while and I love that!

    My mother almost never took us to run errands. Most of the time it's not really fun for anyone involved. We had a much better time staying home with dad and mom had a better time running her errands. Cause our dad worked a 9-5 it was also a nice chance for him to get a little one on one time with us kiddos. So really everyone won.
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    Newlywedbliss611 said:
    I'm not sure why I feel guilty. Maybe because I was home with her for 4 months on maternity leave and now I feel guilty for not spending time with her while working or running errands. I know my husband can take off her by himself, he is a very good father. I'm not entirely sure why I feel guilty. 
    In my post above I mention getting a sitter. The first few times she came over I felt GUILTY. So guilty. "I should be watching my baby. We're wasting money. I should do a million things while she's here so it makes it worth the money." Then I stopped with the guilt and looked at the situation and realized how much better I felt and did as a mom and a wife when I got a little sleep and a little time to myself.

    I know we are moms now and everything is different and our babies come first. And I'm 100% cool with that :) But we are still people. We are still important and taking a few minutes to ourselves doesn't hurt baby at all and does us a world of good :)
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    chein1chein1 member
    Baby always stays home unless we need something urgent. Like last week, we needed food and milk badly so I couldn't wait until DH got home. I'll take only my 2 year old or none most of the time. I feel no guilt, but that could be a second time mom thing. I definitely felt guilt the first time around.
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