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Faith Fridays 4-1-16

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On this April Fool's day edition of Faith Fridays let's take a look at how many times we have been in a relationship with someone that was one sided but we still loved them.

Have you ever been part of an 80/20 team? 20% of the people do the work and 80% watch and comment from the sidelines. Some people may call it foolish to even do the task at hand in those scenarios, but it has to be done. 

From work projects, group homework assignments to missions/ministry work, sometimes the load falls onto your shoulders and has the potential of throwing you off balance. Sometimes we have to carry a bit more or lean on someone else for a while. Especially during this time of pregnancy it's ok to do either within reason. First and third trimester you just need a break. Second trimester you're Wonder Woman.

When you are in either position and want to throw your hands up ask yourself:
When was the last time you were the earth? When was the last time you were the sun?

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Re: Faith Fridays 4-1-16

  • Prof=MomProf=Mom member
    BONUS HAVE A BLESSED DAY! 
    No Joke: Free Krispy Kreme Doughnut On April 1st

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  • TheTamedShrewTheTamedShrew member
    I think so many times, as women, we feel like we have to be the sun all the time. That if we were to stop and take a break, that everything would fall apart. Even mothers who have careers outside the home feel the pressure to keep the house in order, grocery shop, cook, check children's homework, etc. etc. etc. 

    I think that especially for women it is important to allow your spouse/partner to step up and be the sun for awhile, especially during pregnancy. After all, there's nothing more "earthy" than growing a human life, right? :) 
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  • KristinUM12KristinUM12 member
    @TheTamedShrew I totally agree. So often we feel like we have to be the one to take care of other people, be the strong, caring, nurturing one...and we forget (or even refuse) to let other people do that for us. I definitely hear you with that feeling of "if I let go of something, it's going to fall apart". Pregnancy has been slowly helping me learn that sometimes I HAVE to rely on people (DH, mom, friends, co-workers) to help me, to let me rest, to give me break. But I STILL FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT!!!!!
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  • jensoujensou member
    Thought provoking! I like this. 

    i feel this way at work a lot. But I try to remind myself it's not about my coworkers, it's about the patients. And even if I stay an hour over, I still get to go home and sleep in my bed. Those poor dears are still there, at the mercy of their Drs and RNs, sick as all get out. I'll keep being the 20% at work but have def been burnt out before. 

    I read something once about imagining yourself as a pitcher. You can pour out to others, but can only keep going if you take the time to refill yourself. 
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  • SuzJune04SuzJune04 member
    Interesting thread!  I find that I give a lot whether it's for the family or volunteering.  Sometimes I feel like I have only one speed "intense" and have had to scale certain things back.  It's taken me years to figure out how to be involved but scale it back, take breaks, and sometimes let things be done poorly by others.  I do a lot because I care a lot but I don't want my family to suffer if I over commit myself (esp. with volunteering).   

    With some people I have to set healthy boundaries too.  If I don't set those boundaries then I'm stuck after the fact worrying with insomnia and trying to figure out how to get out of their drama.  I've literally had to tell a family member that I couldn't hear about her marriage problems anymore because I'm not a professional and the venting this person wanted to do was completely unhealthy.  I feel like the best thing I can do for her marriage is to pray for her.

    I feel very lucky to have a great group of women in a book club that are my support and help me refill "my pitcher" and grow in my faith.  I wish you all a very relaxing weekend!


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  • Prof=MomProf=Mom member
    One thing that has helped me over the years is to take a step back and ask myself "do I need to be involved?" The police always say if it doesn't have your name on it Don't pick it up. Many times we think we are helping but we end up hurting the situation by not letting others get their hands dirty, so to speak. 

    Also many times as women we think our way is the only right way. As a Mom you will learn that the way your husband loads the dishwasher is completely unnerving but guess what... the dishes got washed! Some people learn how to do things without that hovering that we tend to do. It takes time to learn how to step up to the challenge and how to step back and be silent. Pray that God will show you the red, yellow and green lights of every situation so that His will is done and not our own. Let Him refill your pitcher. But Lord it's hard when they're doin it wrong :-) 
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