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Co-sleeping

jessfrksjessfrks member
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My daughter is now 3 months old. She sleeps on me in the bed. I put pillows around us so she can't roll around. Its been like this since she was born. Occasionally she will sleep a few hours in her bassinet beside the bed. Don't get me wrong I'm not complaining in fact I love snuggling with her. And although people say it's not safe I feel better knowing she's that close. I actually worry about putting her in her crib. Sometimes I don't even know she spits up until I look at her cuz sometimes she doesn't make any noise when she spits up. And I'm worried she'll spit up in her sleep and I won't know it. I know that I need to get her used to sleeping alone. Its just hard. I also breastfeed and its easier on her and me because I can let her feed and then she goes right back to sleep on me. I don't want to start a bad habit (although I think I already have but I don't really consider it a "bad" habit). Any suggestions or anyone else in the same position?
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  • kdoak2015kdoak2015 member
    We are 4 months and we bedshare. I no longer let her sleep on me though, she usually falls asleep on me and I transfer her beside me. I usually sleep with her head on my arm. I'm for what's doing best for her and I. If you are going to stay bed sharing maybe just start transitioning her off of you after. I usually sit upstairs for 45 mins so she can fall into a deep sleep and digest her bottle so she doesn't spit up.
    Good luck!
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  • purplelollypurplelolly member
    My daughter is 3 months and we cosleep. I don't plan on transitioning her to her crib until she's 6 months to a year, well see how it goes. Bedsharing just felt natural and it's easier, she sleeps almost through the night. She is going through a regression right now, but I feel like it's easier having her in the bed than trying to deal with a regression and getting her to sleep in her crib. 

    I used to sleep with her in the crook of my arm. Now it's easier to just put her down next to me and turn on some white noise and she can usually go to sleep on her own if she has her pacifier. I'm working on getting her to nap on her own though. I don't mind her in the bed at night but I need to be able to put her down during the day; she still insists on me holding her for naps. I'd just do what feels best for you and your family! I don't think you're creating a bad habit at all. 
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  • thatgirlree24thatgirlree24 member
    I've co-slept/bed shared with all three of my boys. I don't really think it's creating a bad habit when they're this little unless you continue it. The other thing I always think about is they're only small once. And as soon as they get older, there will be no more co-sleeping and bed sharing. I've just started to embrace the fact that I have a five, seven and soon to be 4 month old sleeping in my bed kicking the crap out of me lol
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  • ATolentino89ATolentino89 member
    4 months old here and we have been bed sharing since day one. Like @kdoak2015 I transition him next to me instead of on me. He will nap on his own. Your not alone at all!
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  • dec15mumdec15mum member
    My son is 3 months and we co sleep, I kicked SO out of bed and onto the couch so I had more room (he doesn't do motbf anyway) started out with him having to be cuddled right into me but we've gradually got further away over time so I'm now on one side and he's on the other. I can leave the bed once he's asleep but he won't sleep unless I'm in bed next to him it's weird.
    Probably started a really bad habit but we're trying 
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  • kdoak2015kdoak2015 member
    Sorry I just want to add/educate because for some reason this bothers me. I don't know why but it just does lol.
    co sleeping is having the baby in you room on/in a separate surface and bed sharing is th actual sharing of the same
    surface. Sorry just wanted to throw that out there. 
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  • ammnam14ammnam14 member
    We have an arms reach co sleeper and I love it. They are fairly priced and a great investment. Maybe look into it!
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  • taysuntaysun member
    We bedshare. DD used to sleep on my chest but now we sleep tummy to tummy on our sides with my arms around her. When SO works overnights she sleeps part of the night in her own little space on the bed with a firm pillow next to her chest/legs to keep her from rolling off the bed. We hope to transition her to the pack n play in our room in the next month or two. 
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  • caketimescaketimes member
    We are dealing with the thought of crib transitioning these days, because we co-sleep (baby in arms reach). DD is almost 4 months, I thought originally that we'd co sleep for 12 weeks and then transition but now I am thinking more like 6 months... I am worried about the transition since I love waking up to baby being right there! I am scared I'll sleep through her waking up/choking/whatever else if she's in the other room. But. She's growing out of the co sleeper... So we're going to have to do something soon. 
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  • laurabwalkerlaurabwalker member
    I bed share some of the night, she's in the swing the rest of the time (I swaddle her in the swing but not in the bed) and this is the reason mainly she is in the swing, in bed she still hits herself in the face (she's 12 weeks). I never wanted to bed share, mainly wanted to cosleep in her halo basinette, I have tried to do naps in there and haven't been very successful. I am ebf so it is easier on me when she's in the bed, however my husband is sleeping in her room and he really wants to sleep in the bed again, so we have been trying to figure out how to change it, not sure yet.
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  • blended10blended10 member
    edited March 2016
    I'm a big advocate for bed sharing but I think I'll transition her to her crib at about 6 months. She sleeps on the bed now & sleeps very well. When she stirs I dream feed but she barely eats. Leads me to believe she's sleeping well & big enough now to not need much at night (she sleeps like this from 7pm-3am, nurses a bigger amount then sleeps til 5am & we get up) she naps a good stint in the morning in her swing. 
    Id be happy if she just came to bed from 3am on. Honestly I just want to get thru the high sids risk time & then deal with a move. More for my own peace of mind. 
    With ds he was nursing so much for so long (at night) it took longer to get him in his own space 

    *peace not piece lol
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  • jessfrksjessfrks member
    edited March 2016
    Thanks for the replies
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  • jessfrksjessfrks member
    @caketimes I'm worried about the same stuff!!
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  • parkerhouseparkerhouse member
    My husband is super against bed sharing because he's afraid of hurting the baby. After the second wake up of the night, around 4 or 5, if Landon won't go back to sleep then I'll take him to the spare room to feed in bed and sleep with me until our morning wake up. I love it and would love to do it all night, but since he sleeps well in his crib I'll take the bed sharing with the hubs while I can. :)
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