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What's the stupidest fight with SO since giving birth?

eliseandbabyeliseandbaby member
in December 2015 Moms
Two weeks after she was born he made me toast with peanut butter but no jam and I cried and said "do you even know me?!" 

Hormones and no sleep. 

Whats been the the stupidest fight you've had with SO (or anyone else!) since having your baby?
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Re: What's the stupidest fight with SO since giving birth?

  • BethP321BethP321 member
    Not being able to shower...  And then he tells me that I smell when I don't shower for two nights.  Umm HELLO?
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  • Court11152325Court11152325 member
    Sleep. And who's more tired. I EBF, of course I'm more tired. The fact that we even argued over it when she was around 1 month old was ridiculous. He knows that now!!
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  • dec15mumdec15mum member
    edited March 2016
    He farted and I threatened to leave him.....
    I was very very tired 
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  • taysuntaysun member
    He went to see star wars even though he hasn't seen any of the other movies and I had to stay home with the baby when I actually wanted to see the movie. 
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  • ssn109ssn109 member
    edited March 2016
    The baby was having a very clingy day, I hadn't been able to put him down at all without serious screaming. DH comes home and gets mad because dinner hadn't been started.

    ETA: he doesn't say a word any more on the days I don't get to dinner before he gets home.
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  • momotheflyinglemurmomotheflyinglemur member
    About him slacking off with taking care of his dog. I shouldn't have to change diapers and pick up poop.
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • Mizuiro007Mizuiro007 member
    Curtains. For the longest time we had a sheet hung over the binds with binder clips for privacy. My mom got some nice curtains for me for my birthday and got the shortest length we could find that would cover. I'm home all day so wanted something nicer to look at.

    Hubby doesn't like that DS can reach them and plays with them. Nevermind that he can reach the window or blinds if he wants to. I've been exhausted lately from both kids and nerve pain not letting me sleep, hadn't eaten yet and hubby left me with this. I took DD back to our room and went to bed.
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  • knew1212knew1212 member
    Daughter was born in early December.  About 2 weeks later, Husband asked, "Can you start watering the Christmas tree?  I keep forgetting."
    "NO!  I CANNOT HANDLE ONE MORE THING!"
    Husband slowly backed away, got home from work early that day, took the baby and told me to get some sleep.  
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  • groovylocksgroovylocks member
    edited March 2016
    Idiot noticed that i was shifting diagonally in my sleep. I figure i was doing it to better reach Olive's bassinet (I have a sleep-habit of putting my hands in there) My feet were migrating to his side of the bed as a result. 

    So he started taking pictures. 

    WITH THE FLASH ON. Because, you know, otherwise...? How could I see how wrong i was?

    Did you know that a camera flash WAKES A SLEEPING BABY? BECAUSE HE DIDN'T. 

    I did. He's a photographer when he's not flying. Whatever..

    To be fair, this never became a fight. In order to fight, you have to give a sweet *#$& if you win. And honestly? I don't care anymore. Just logging hours at this point.

    EDITED because I'm just SO angry and delusioned and filled with seething hate and anxiety. And I keep thinking "No, screw this, I have more to say."

    Same with the followup post..
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  • dec15mumdec15mum member
    groovylocks said:
    ^^ OH also, that wasn't the stupidest fight since Olive was born. 

    That was, however, the stupidest fight this week. 

    No offense and I don't want to dismiss anybody. But i legit wish I had a husband that screwed up like most of yours do. If I woke up next to a normal, kind, loving person, I'd give him SUCH a hummer. 

    Please don't report this. I NEED to get this frustration out. 

    My coworker asked me out. He's one of the nicest people I've ever met. It's kind of a big deal. I feel like a lot of shit is coming to a head. 
    You need to sort something with you husband! You're not happy with him and you deserve to be happy for yours and Olives sake!! Personally I think you should leave him he sounds like such a dick head from what you've posted! What's this coworker like? Is he any nice?
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  • eliseandbabyeliseandbaby member
    @groovylocks co worker?? Just go out with him! I agree with previous poster, you gotta ditch the husband. It's sad when people separate for sure, but it sounds like Olive would be better off. 
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  • Gingermom15Gingermom15 member
    edited March 2016
    Where the peanut butter is supposed to go in the kitchen. We didn't talk for two days. 

    edit: this was around 4 weeks PP. We laugh about it now. 
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  • laurabwalkerlaurabwalker member
    @groovylocks ugh you must get away from this guy!!!

    my husband has no clue how tired I am and he acts like he does and I want to fight him everyday about lol. He gets mad because I don't persist with things in regards to Ellie's sleep but it's like your sleep is not dependent on her. He has been sleeping seperately from us since week 3, full nights sleep every night. Yesterday he was like "I need a break I'm going out this weekend" insert middle finger emoji
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  • dec15mumdec15mum member
    groovylocks said:
    dec15mum said:
    groovylocks said:
    ^^ OH also, that wasn't the stupidest fight since Olive was born. 

    That was, however, the stupidest fight this week. 

    No offense and I don't want to dismiss anybody. But i legit wish I had a husband that screwed up like most of yours do. If I woke up next to a normal, kind, loving person, I'd give him SUCH a hummer. 

    Please don't report this. I NEED to get this frustration out. 

    My coworker asked me out. He's one of the nicest people I've ever met. It's kind of a big deal. I feel like a lot of shit is coming to a head. 
    You need to sort something with you husband! You're not happy with him and you deserve to be happy for yours and Olives sake!! Personally I think you should leave him he sounds like such a dick head from what you've posted! What's this coworker like? Is he any nice?
    eliseandbaby said:
    @groovylocks co worker?? Just go out with him! I agree with previous poster, you gotta ditch the husband. It's sad when people separate for sure, but it sounds like Olive would be better off. 

    So my husband and i are in a weird situation. I'm an immigrant. Olive is a born citizen of two countries. It's complex 

    I want my husband and i to be friends. But yes. I want out. It's not ever going to work out between us. I want us to establish a healthy friendship. For baby's sake. We own a house together. That has to be sorted out.

    So my friend is pretty much the same situation i am. Which makes him dangerous. He's SO nice. He's really kind to me. He and I are exactly alike and have the best time together but because his life is also geologically unstable, part of me wants to just avoid it. It's flattering and a big deal only because I know there is life after marriage now. 

    In all honesty, I'd prefer to stay single from here on if DH and i split. It's nice to have that person to talk to. It's flattering to be asked out. He's cute, etc. But I need a lot of space for myself and my girl. DH and i used to have fun together too. He used to be nice. Things used to be ok. Maybe I'm shell shocked. But I have her now. I'm not bringing clowns in and out of her life. It'll take more than some stuff in common and cute office banter to strike up anything serious.
    I think you're being very sensible with this! That's right you're from Canada aren't you? Would it mean you would need to move back there if you split with your husband? 
    I'm praying things work out for you though, you deserve happiness and I'm glad you have this friend to help you through things!
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  • andreaAL11andreaAL11 member
    groovylocks said:
    dec15mum said:
    groovylocks said:
    ^^ OH also, that wasn't the stupidest fight since Olive was born. 

    That was, however, the stupidest fight this week. 

    No offense and I don't want to dismiss anybody. But i legit wish I had a husband that screwed up like most of yours do. If I woke up next to a normal, kind, loving person, I'd give him SUCH a hummer. 

    Please don't report this. I NEED to get this frustration out. 

    My coworker asked me out. He's one of the nicest people I've ever met. It's kind of a big deal. I feel like a lot of shit is coming to a head. 
    You need to sort something with you husband! You're not happy with him and you deserve to be happy for yours and Olives sake!! Personally I think you should leave him he sounds like such a dick head from what you've posted! What's this coworker like? Is he any nice?
    eliseandbaby said:
    @groovylocks co worker?? Just go out with him! I agree with previous poster, you gotta ditch the husband. It's sad when people separate for sure, but it sounds like Olive would be better off. 

    So my husband and i are in a weird situation. I'm an immigrant. Olive is a born citizen of two countries. It's complex 

    I want my husband and i to be friends. But yes. I want out. It's not ever going to work out between us. I want us to establish a healthy friendship. For baby's sake. We own a house together. That has to be sorted out.

    So my friend is pretty much the same situation i am. Which makes him dangerous. He's SO nice. He's really kind to me. He and I are exactly alike and have the best time together but because his life is also geologically unstable, part of me wants to just avoid it. It's flattering and a big deal only because I know there is life after marriage now. 

    In all honesty, I'd prefer to stay single from here on if DH and i split. It's nice to have that person to talk to. It's flattering to be asked out. He's cute, etc. But I need a lot of space for myself and my girl. DH and i used to have fun together too. He used to be nice. Things used to be ok. Maybe I'm shell shocked. But I have her now. I'm not bringing clowns in and out of her life. It'll take more than some stuff in common and cute office banter to strike up anything serious.
    You know my situation, so I feel you 100%. I think it's a great idea to just focus on you and Olive and just live your life without misery every day! That's what I'm doing for a long while. I hope you get this figured out soon. And keep us updated through the process. I'm rooting for you! And I'll let you know how the single life is ;) lol 
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  • eliseandbabyeliseandbaby member
    @groovylocks it's true , you are being very sensible. You're 10,000 x more patient than I am! I would date the co worker, but I'm the worst haha.

    Do you have any kind of timeline for how much longer you'll stay with DH? Does he know your plans to separate? 
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