Anybody NOT have the first grandchild?

JJ&BB1146 · January 2009

Obviously I know the importance of having the first grandchild. The excitement, the loads of free stuff, and all of that. But was your first child NOT the first grandchild in your family? How did your parents react to the news? Did you feel like it wasn't as special as if you would have been the first? Do you feel as if your child got "slighted" by your family because they weren't first?

ali-1411 · January 2009

Not me. My poor sister got the short end of the stick though...I had the first grandchild, then I had the first GIRL grandchild

Kristen&Doyle · January 2009

Colton was the first grandchild on DH's side, since he is an only child and the second grandchild on my side, my brother had the first. ?So yes and no. ?I think my parents were just as excited as they were with the first, but since having their third now (my brother's again) I really think they are just as excited with each. ?Of course my DH's side was really excited and I'm sure they will continue to be with any other children we have, everyone on his side asks all the time when we will have another one! ?Anyway, on to your questions. ?I don't feel at all "slighted" by my family because Colton wasn't the first on our side. ?My parents might have and still might give Colton more because he is more local than their other grandchildren, but they still do their fair share of giving to them! ?I think everyone has done a great job of spoiling Colton, just like they say grandparents do!

txbabs111 · January 2009

Our child is the first grandchild on my side, but not on DH's. I hate to say it, but the difference in how my parents reacted to the news and how his did was like night and day. Now, our parents are very different people so that may have something to do with it.

mcurban · January 2009

Jack was the first grandchild on each side. BUT, since then, Jon's brother and SIL have had a baby (no difference in treatment) and my brother and SIL are expecting. My parents are JUST as pumped about my brother and his wife's baby as they were for Jack (they have also offered them the exact same gifts they offered us).

AustinMimi · January 2009

Ours will only be the first for DH's mom's side. My sister has two girls and my SILs on DH's dad's side have lots of kids. I doubt my DH's dad's side will care too much about our having kids (we are the black sheep). His mom will be over the moon and I think (hope) that my parents will be as excited for my kids as they were for my sister's.?

fjaril · January 2009

Little dude is the first on hubby's side and second on my side. Both were just as excited.

m_and_m · January 2009

Hadley is my parents 5th grandchild, and my grandma's 7th great grandchild. She's FIL's only grandchild (and will likely stay the only one!), and MIL's 12th grandchild. So she's the full spectrum.

My mom and grandma have been as excite and happy, and spoiling as they were with the first ones. There is no indication that she is anything less than the greatest baby ever born. She is definitely not slighted in any way, and my entire family was incredibly excited to find out I was was PG but then my family knew my IF and MC history.

MIL likes to make comments about our "tiny little family", probably because we're the only ones with fewer than 3 kids. She doesn't seem as excited as the other members of her family, but eh.... She was excited for us, but she didn't act over the moon or anything.

nanann · January 2009

Hmmm. My DH is an only child, so the girls are the only grandchildren there, and of course his mom was/is all sorts of excited.

On my side, my girls are grandchildren #13 & 14. My parents were still super-excited b/c it was *my* first child, although my mom has a tendency to just worry. Since I was working 80+ hours a week at the time, she was worried about *how* I would be a mom, etc. And my siblings? Eh. Some were excited, others didn't really affect them. I don't really think we were slighted -- instead, we've gotten a lot of hand-me-downs, including big items (crib, dresser, twin bed) and clothes etc. And for each grandchild my parents have always given the same exact gift -- a crib mattress and a baby quilt.

So different, but still good.

rssnlvr · January 2009

Ours won't be first for my family. But I also know that my parents will be just as thrilled for this baby as they were for my niece. But that's just how my family rolls. Smile

jennynorene · January 2009

Grace was #4 on my side and #4 on the other side. No complaints here. Everyone has been great about it and I love that she has older cousins to play with. So much fun that way! The first did get a LOT of attention, but I really didn't want all that attention so it's all good. Oh, and we get a ton of hand-me-downs! I love those too :-)

borah22 · January 2009

My two children were the first for my dh's side but # 9 and #10 on my side.

They have not been slighted at all--if anything since I am the baby of the family --they have been more spoiled by the whole idea of the baby having babies (strange family).

Kim777 · January 2009

Ours are not the first on either side, but there hasn't been any difference in treatment. If anything, he has a more special relationship with my in-laws than the others, not because they love him more of course, but simply because we are local so they have been able to develop a closer relationship with him. My mom keeps my niece and nephew, which is part of why we go see her so often. I don't really want for Rhett to feel like the other kids know Nana and Grandpa better than he does.

HSartteach · January 2009

I am the last on my side to have a child. And my husband's sister has a foster baby. Both sides are very excited for us. And our siblings are too. Especially my sister...She is very excited that I am finally having a baby. My mom is very excited for me. My baby will be grandchild # 7 for her, and it is no less special.

abbysmom1005 · January 2009

Abby is the first grandchild on DH's side. MIL was over the moon. But, she was just as excited when we announced that I was PG again. I do not see the treatment any different so far on her part. The baby got Christmas gifts from MIL and SIL and is not even here yet.

She is the 2nd on my side. I was not in the country when my brother announced to them they would be grandparents but I imagine it was about the sae as when I announced mine. They treat the two girls (Abby and her niece) the same and love each of them equally. As someone else said it wasn't *only* about them having another grandchild but also about their daughter having a child that was so special. Theie reaction to this PG/child so far has been about the same as it was for Abby. I actually thought it might be a little different since it is the 1st boy on my side. (which would have been a little dissapointing) But so far they have acted just the same.

molliedb · January 2009

we have the third grandchild on both sides and i never felt like it was anything but perfect yes, my mom prefers her first granddaughter over all of her other grandchildren, but she is also my brother's girl and he is her favorite... so that was to be expected

honestly, no matter how anyone else reacts, its your baby and nothing could make it less special

Abrooks · January 2009

I didn't have the first one on either side. I don't think the reaction was any different. Everyone was very excited for our new little baby. (And after she was born, they were very excited for a girl...all the other grandkids are boys.) I actually think my dad and his wife were more excited than DH and I were. And I don't think DD is treated any differently than the other kiddos.

amyliisa · January 2009

We didn't have the first grandchild on either side, but I definitely think the news and the arrival were just as special as if we had. On DH's side, our neice and nephew are 11 and 8 years old, so it had been 8 years since there'd been a baby born, so that could be why everyone made such a big deal out of ours.

My side is much more dysfunctional: We found out about my brother's son when the baby was 6 months old. (even my brother found out then!). My brother's not married to (or even still dating) his baby-mama, and the baby and baby-mama live about 6 hours away (also, my brother works on the road and is rarely in Texas). So, his son was about a year old (and I was 6mo pg) when we met him last March. Of course my mom was and is over the moon about him, but it was super exciting for her to see me go through the whole pregnancy, be at the hospital for DS's birth, and since we only live a half hour away she gets to see DS more than she sees nephew. Oh and since my dad lives in California, both grandbabies are kind of surreal to him!

So yeah, even not being the first GC, our DS was/is a pretty big deal... Wink

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