Am i being a bad mother? Help

Re: Am i being a bad mother? Help

• shupertj09 member

  March 2016 edited March 2016

  Your husband sounds like an ass and a tool. 
  
  ETA: who tells their wife they are a bad mother? 

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• SarahChristine12 member

  March 2016

  I don't understand why you would be a bad mom for holding your baby while you are feeding him. You should be holding him while he is being fed. So, no, you are definitely not a bad mom. Babies need to be held and you should enjoy this time while he is still little. They grow up way too fast.

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

  

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• g0lightly8706 member

  March 2016

  Wtf?! Sorry but he does sound like a jerk.. All, well I guess most, babies are held to feed and sleep on our chests. It's one of the best ways to bond with your baby. I don't know how his baby momma is doing things but you are doing everything normal so you're definitely not a bad mom. Also tell your husband to shove it next time he critizies you.
  

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• nbc2015 member

  March 2016

  He's an ass. You are doing everything right. Like PP have said, babies should be held. Skin to skin contact is the best thing for them. If I were you, I wouldn't let his ignorant comments get in the way of your bonding with your child. Screw him!

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• Achae member

  March 2016

  I'd be questioning why I was with this man if this is how he spoke to me. Also the fact that he has 3 other children with "his baby mamma" worries me. Is that just a saying? Idgi but either way, he's out of line for calling you a bad mother. And saying he knows best? What is this, 1920?

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• skschnake member

  March 2016

  Take in every moment you can with your little one! They really do grow up so fast. I hold and snuggle my little girl every feeding. I also sometimes put her on a pillow sometimes next to me to sleep but I wouldn't sleep with her on me. Safety reason. But, when she takes naps I do let her sleep on me sometimes. It's the mothering bond we have with our sweet babies. Your husband is being an ass! You are a great mom! 

  

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• VitaLuna member

  March 2016

  Breastfeeding moms hold their babies to feed, why shouldn't bottle feeding moms/dads do the same? It's ridiculous that he's telling you not to. And yes, hold your baby anytime you darn well please. Babies NEED to be held. It is important for their development, and you're right, they're only little once.
  
  All that aside, it sounds like you need to take a good look at your relationship. The way he's treating you is not ok an it's not healthy.

  

   

  

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• ashton2190 member

  March 2016

  You can't spoil a newborn so there's no reason not to snuggle the crap out of them while they'll still let you. They get squirmy and fight it after a while. I actually cried the other day because my LO didn't seem to want to sleep on me but did on DH. They love that skin to skin contact and it's actually good for them to have some time off the back of their head

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• slthomp92 member

  March 2016

  Wait. Someone help me out here. How do you bottle feed a newborn without holding him???
  
  Cuddle that baby and send your jerk husband to the couch. 
  
  

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• Vkrosa member

  March 2016 edited March 2016

  Hold baby love on baby and don't let your husband tell you otherwise. Your the mom. You carried the baby. You have an innate sense on how to take care of your baby!!! Stand firm mama!

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• paytonpedro member

  March 2016

  My baby chokes when I feed him so if I DIDN'T hold him, that would be bad mothering (and possibly deadly!?) Whenever my husband says I should put our son down, while LO is sleeping, to do a chore or something else I tell him I carried this child for 9 months and worked damn hard making him and being in labor, if I want to hold him 24/7 that's what I'm going to do!! Stand up for yourself, you know what's best for that baby!

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• chincha03 member

  March 2016

  Thank you everyone for your comments i will continue to do what i am doing for my son. Iys working for us and i want to bond with my son as much as i can while he is still small.
  

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