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hospital or home?

Stickybaby2016Stickybaby2016 member
in 1st Trimester
ive had both.  This time I want to do it at home agi
again but DH wants me at the hospital.

i wish very much that he would reconsider.
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    kyraaDkyraaD member
    i feel like this is your decision, not his. he isn't the one pushing out the baby. you should do it where you feel most comfortable.
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    Glow360Glow360 member
    I agree, your the one giving birth. I had a son born with special needs, so I had to be at hospital, but my mom delivered 5 children at home, comfortably. I think it's up to you. Maybe try addressing hubby's concerns.
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    megstervtmegstervt member
    Initially I wanted a home birth, but DH was not comfortable with it so I will be delivering at a hospital.  As much as I agree with those saying "you're the one giving birth", I also considered that this is DH's child.  Also, because he was not comfortable I was worried about his ability to be fully supportive during the birth.  I know when I'm uncomfortable it would be hard for me to be there in the way that I will need him.  There are plenty of things I won't give him a say on during delivery (like epidural or not), but this was one decision I went his way on.
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    therealvdaytherealvday member

    You two need to have a thorough discussion about it, maybe involve your doctor as well.

    Personally, I would never have a home birth. I wouldn't want to risk my or my child's health by not having all of the resources & availability of doctors, specialists, etc. if an emergency were to happen.

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    mauishaymauishay member
    Have you considered a birthing center? 
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    whenwillieversleepwhenwillieversleep member
    It's really up to you whether you are comfortable with taking that risk. But then again if hubby is not comfortable with you taking the risk of birthing at home just to be more comfortable, I would take his opinion into account because it is his baby too and if something does happen to go wrong a home birth could immediately put you and baby into a risky, dangerous situation. That being said, I wouldn't go forward without hubbys approval.
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    emilie250emilie250 member
    I understand why some people say that the woman who will be in labour should be able to decide. I disagree with that - I think that it's a decision that should be taken by both parents because different types of birthing and interventions entail risks for the child… You'll be parenting together and I think that collaboration should start in the delivery room even though it affects you much more directly than it affects your partner.
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