So, I have a 3 month old son and I love him to the moon and back. I was put on birth control so I wouldn't get pregnant like literally right away again but I feel like I'm truely ready for another baby, I'm young so it's not like I'm running out of time or anything but my fiance isn't ready for another baby
. It's because he's afraid that he doesn't make enough money for us to have another baby and all but he does his best and acts like we would never go threw a rough patch in our whole life. I'm just a little upset that we never really had a conversation because it was all him telling me no end of story. We do plan on having more kids but we wants to wait 5 years! I can't wait that long for another baby and I want to have and get it over with while it's early instead of waiting then changing my mind on having more children. Is anyone else in this same problem or something similar? I don't want to argue about it with him but some of his reasoning are unreasonable! lol.
Re: Wanting Another Baby Already but Partner isn't ready.
Hey, OP. I just wanted to let you know I was the exact same way. A few months later, I still desperately want to start on baby number two. I started pretty strong on pushing the idea on DH about TTC sooner rather than later when LO was just getting out of the NB phase*. At first he was open to us trying again late this spring/early this summer, but he's recently admitted to me that he's afraid LO won't get the attention he thinks she needs once the new baby is here. I'm a SAHM and surrounded by family, so I don't really get his viewpoint, but I feel like I have to respect it because I can't make a decision that affects both of us alone.
I agree with PP to keep the conversation open, but don't push it. DH keeps telling me to just enjoy the time I have with LO now and that we can revisit the conversation about TTC#2 when LO turns one this summer. Maybe you can have him agree on a date for y'all to revisit the conversation about the next baby. That way you at least have an end date that's closer than 5 years, and he still has time to cool off from the NB phase and rethink it all.
*ETA: I really pushed so hard because my sister and I are just 15 months apart, and I really really wanted to have kids that close in age. I loved it growing up. DH is four years apart from his only sibling, and he thinks that works out better for the parents; makes paying for them easier or whatever.
Me: 25 | DH: 25
DD: Aug. 15