August 2016 Moms

Things to consider when moving

DH and I are considering a move about 4 hours away from where we are now. We wouldn't be moving out of state and I've lived where we are considering moving to when I was a teenager. I absolutely love it down there so I'm completely biased when it comes to pros and cons of living there. DH has never lived anywhere but where we are now. We would be leaving his family but my parents would move as well, if we did. They're retired and just want to be near their grandkids which I'm cool with because we have a great relationship with my parents. 

Long story short, I need a list of things to consider when making a big move. We wouldn't move until next February or so we have plenty of time to plan and save. 

Re: Things to consider when moving

  • Pay vs cost of living would probably be #1 for me...
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  • Are you able to find jobs easily in the new town?  I'd probably start with that. And see what the housing market/cost of living is. 

    If you both love it there, can find jobs that allow you to afford the area, schools are good, the town is nice, then go for it. 
  • Is the hardship of  actually moving worth it? I've moved 17 times since I turned 18, and every. single. time. it was a pain in the ass. 
    How will you actually move? Is it cost prohibitive? I've hired mover for a similar move, prior to marriage and it was about 2k. I packed and unpacked everything, so this was just the actual moving. It would have been more with my husband, he has about twice as much *stuff* as I do - and half as much furniture. 10 tubs of video games. Not even kidding. 
    Is what you loved about the area still there? Places, and people change. I have no idea how long "a teenager" was for you. For me, we're talking over a decade, lol. A lot can change in ten years.
    How does your husband feel about the move? We moved last year to an area which was new to both of us, but like I said, I have moved around a bunch. My husband lived in Montana until he was 18, then spent the next 18 years in the town we moved from. Him being on board was key. What sealed the deal for us was three things - We found a BEAUTIFUL house, there was more economic opportunity for HIM on this side of the state, and our old area and lifestyle wasn't super family friendly. 






  • I'm surprised no one has mentioned the safety of the area yet. Like crime rates, sexual offenders and that kind of thing. I know when we moved & bought our house about 4 years ago (prior to kids) those questions were very important to me. I did lots of research online and even called our local police department. I knew it was the house we would bring our babies home to so I wanted to make sure it would be a place where they would be safe to play outside.
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  • This may not be important to you, but do you have friends in the new location?  And do those friends have kids that are a similar age to yours?  Do you have friends in your current location that are in the same situation?  What are the schools like in the new location vs current? Are their kid-friendly activities? I think this last question is especially important if it is a cold-weather location, the winter can be long with small kids!

    I second a PP about job opportunities.  We moved when I finished law school (pre-kids) and it was incredibly difficult to find a job.  When I did, there wasn't much room for career advancement and spending the time, effort and money on a law degree meant I had some aspirations in that department.  Moving back to a bigger city away from our families (that we had just moved closer to) made the most sense and we are incredibly happy now.  It was a good lesson and we don't regret making the move, but wish we had thought beyond some of the emotional aspects of the move.
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  • Along with what has already been mentioned, what about lifestyle changes? I'm not sure how the new place is compared to where you currently live, but that's something I would consider, especially since your DH has only lived where you currently live. Is the new place more/less rural? Will you have to travel farther to go out and do things? Is the entertainment closer?

    Maybe try to go visit for an extended weekend. Get an Air bnb in an area you would be interested in living so you have a realistic drive to go do things. Do normal things like go out for dinner, go to  a park, etc. Just get a feel for it and how it may have changed. 
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  • Thanks for all the feedback, there are a few things mentioned I haven't considered! We would basically be moving from one big city to another. We would move from the middle of our state to the coast so the main thing I loved about living there definitely hasn't moved and that's the beach! DH works for a big company so he could easily transfer his position. 
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