me 30; DH 35
TTC since May 2014.
Aug 2014 BFP, EDD April 22, 2015. Low progesterone, started suppositories. Loss at 5w6d.
Nov 19, 2015 BFP at 13 dpo, EDD July 29, 2016. MMC discovered 12/29 (9+4). Natural miscarriage 1/16 (12+1).
AMH results 0.42, 1.2; FSH 12.1, AFC 10, dx DOR.
RPL testing results normal. Nurse recommended progesterone suppositories in TWW.
Clomid + trigger + TI cycle August 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Femara + trigger + TI cycle December 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Short LP (8 days).
Acupuncture & Chinese herbs starting January 2017, lengthened LP to 10 days
Summer 2016 LFAF awards:
Winter 2016/2017 LFAF awards:
TTC since May 2014.
Aug 2014 BFP, EDD April 22, 2015. Low progesterone, started suppositories. Loss at 5w6d.
Nov 19, 2015 BFP at 13 dpo, EDD July 29, 2016. MMC discovered 12/29 (9+4). Natural miscarriage 1/16 (12+1).
AMH results 0.42, 1.2; FSH 12.1, AFC 10, dx DOR.
RPL testing results normal. Nurse recommended progesterone suppositories in TWW.
Clomid + trigger + TI cycle August 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Femara + trigger + TI cycle December 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Short LP (8 days).
Acupuncture & Chinese herbs starting January 2017, lengthened LP to 10 days
Summer 2016 LFAF awards:
Winter 2016/2017 LFAF awards:
Re: How is everyone this week? Check-in 3/21
Im just waiting for the inevitable at this point and trying to decide what to do in case things don't get a move on. They are taking betas today and Wednesday, mostly because I wanted to see what my levels are and how quickly (or if) they are dropping on their own while I weigh my options.
The cherry on top of everything is that my MIL is here for two weeks and we had to tell her about both MCs because I broke down crying tonight. She means well, but has said some unintentionally insensitive things, including "I'll be your surrogate". Ugh. Plus, she is pushing H to be "strong" and "grieve quickly to support" me, and that is the last thing I want H doing. He takes on too many people's troubles and bottles his feelings. I have the boards on TB to reach out to, but he has no one else but me and I worry about him. I told him not to fucking listen to his mother, but we'll see.
Sorry to start everyone out on a Debbie Downer note this week. This just all sucks and I hate that we are all here.
ETA: question - any advice about a D&E (I think... It wouldn't be a D&C, but rather the suction procedure) would be greatly appreciated. I can't decide whether to wait this out or get it over with, and I've decided against cytotec.
I don't have experience with a D&E but if you search this board you will find some stories from women who have gone through it.
TTC since May 2014.
Aug 2014 BFP, EDD April 22, 2015. Low progesterone, started suppositories. Loss at 5w6d.
Nov 19, 2015 BFP at 13 dpo, EDD July 29, 2016. MMC discovered 12/29 (9+4). Natural miscarriage 1/16 (12+1).
AMH results 0.42, 1.2; FSH 12.1, AFC 10, dx DOR.
RPL testing results normal. Nurse recommended progesterone suppositories in TWW.
Clomid + trigger + TI cycle August 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Femara + trigger + TI cycle December 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Short LP (8 days).
Acupuncture & Chinese herbs starting January 2017, lengthened LP to 10 days
Summer 2016 LFAF awards:
Winter 2016/2017 LFAF awards:
Emotionally, I'm a wreck. I have been having daily panic attacks and horrible anxiety and just completely ready to crawl out of my skin. I saw my PCP for it and he put me on prozac and said we can even up it later. The nurse said my blood pressure was high (and it is usually normal to low ) and I think it's because I've been a walking panic attack.
Hopefully, the prozac will kick in soon.
My PCP was very compassionate (I've seen him for years) and offered to refer us to a high risk doc for RPL testing if we wanted to look into the losses. I can't open that box right now but I'm considering it after my break.
@AL_TwinCities I laughed at the question this week. I'm going to go with a horse.
I am undergoing IF testing and that is helping keep my mind off of my losses. My first LO's EDD is a month from today, and it makes me so sad that I could have a one year old!
My spirit animal is a wolf. They are strong and fiercely loyal to their pack. Plus I think they are just gorgeous!
TTC since May 2014.
Aug 2014 BFP, EDD April 22, 2015. Low progesterone, started suppositories. Loss at 5w6d.
Nov 19, 2015 BFP at 13 dpo, EDD July 29, 2016. MMC discovered 12/29 (9+4). Natural miscarriage 1/16 (12+1).
AMH results 0.42, 1.2; FSH 12.1, AFC 10, dx DOR.
RPL testing results normal. Nurse recommended progesterone suppositories in TWW.
Clomid + trigger + TI cycle August 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Femara + trigger + TI cycle December 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Short LP (8 days).
Acupuncture & Chinese herbs starting January 2017, lengthened LP to 10 days
Summer 2016 LFAF awards:
Winter 2016/2017 LFAF awards:
I have been lurking on this board for a while, but feel compelled to post today, as today is the day my husband and I will bury our baby. I miscarried our first pregnancy last Sunday-Monday (3/13-3/14), and the bleeding stopped on Thursday (3/17). This was only a week after we saw the heartbeat for the first time and were told that everything was "progressing beautifully". I am crushed, and I can't imagine how things could have gone from "progressing beautifully" to not viable in just a week. This baby was a happy surprise during our battle with infertility, and while I am grateful for the knowledge that I can get pregnant, I am grieving this loss terribly. I feel broken, lost, empty, and ANGRY. I just keep asking myself "Why me?" My husband and I are good people...I know the statistics and the odds, and I know that miscarriage doesn't discriminate this way, but it still isn't fair. We are so ready for a baby, and I feel eager to try again, but I'm also terribly scared and full of anxiety that it will happen a second time. Again, I know the statistics are in my favor...But that doesn't lessen the anxiety.
Returning to the reason for my post...
We are going to bury our baby next to our wedding tree, which we planted on our wedding day four years ago. It seems like a fitting place for our baby to rest until we can finally hold him or her someday. Every day as I watch our tree grow, I can think of the tiny life we created as a result of our love.
I am sorry that any of us have to be here. I welcome your support, and I will do my best to reciprocate.
And wtf with offering to be your surrogate? I cannot believe that people think that might be helpful.
@iceandsnowflakes29 I am glad it looks like you are finally done, physically, but so sorry for how you are feeling. I don't know if I've seen anyone use that "crawl out of my skin" language about this experience, but that is exactly how I have been feeling.
@AL_TwinCities I love that wolf! And I hope you find IF testing helpful, and extra hugs as the EDD approaches.
@Kirchetta sorry for your loss. Your story about the wedding tree and burying your baby is beautiful. Thank you for sharing it. And I hear you about being grateful for the knowledge that you can get pregnant (although would like to punch all the people who've said it to me) but still being so devastated by this loss. We have MFI and I had wondered if maybe we had something else that we would later discover, so what a relief to actually get a BFP, but what a horrible experience to lose the baby.
/loss mentioned/
TTC#1 July 2014
dx: MFI (morphology)
IUI #1 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Sept. 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #2 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Halloween 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #3 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Thanksgiving 2015 ~ BFP!!
hb 146 bpm at 7w5d
1/28/16 ~ began to say goodbye to our beautiful baby at 11w
d&c, followed by cytotec
TTCAL April 2016
IUI #4 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Apr. 2016 ~ BFN
IUI #5 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ CP
IUI#6 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ BFN
Plus, it looks like I may finally be getting AF for the first time after my loss. Trying to decide if I want to get going again with IUIs. I had been planning to do so, but now with this new imminent loss I just don't know what to do. I think I will at least go for baseline monitoring to see how things look and leave my options open.
My spirit animal right now is my beautiful greyhound.
/loss mentioned/
TTC#1 July 2014
dx: MFI (morphology)
IUI #1 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Sept. 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #2 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Halloween 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #3 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Thanksgiving 2015 ~ BFP!!
hb 146 bpm at 7w5d
1/28/16 ~ began to say goodbye to our beautiful baby at 11w
d&c, followed by cytotec
TTCAL April 2016
IUI #4 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Apr. 2016 ~ BFN
IUI #5 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ CP
IUI#6 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ BFN
Would be 12 weeks now which is hard because I know I would be announcing my pregnancy soon and starting the second tri and now im starting over.
I'm excited to see my parents this weekend for Easter but also nervous because it's the first time I've seen them since the MC.
My spirit animal I think would be cat...im definitely a cat person and I think their personality is similar to mine in a lot of ways.
@BrightenMySkyI'm so sorry to hear about your pup. I can't imagine the grief that you are feeling on top of everything else. It just doesn't seem fair that so many people get more than their fair share of heartache. I can't imagine if anything happened to my fur baby right now.
My spirit animal I think would be an Owl.
TTC since May 2014.
Aug 2014 BFP, EDD April 22, 2015. Low progesterone, started suppositories. Loss at 5w6d.
Nov 19, 2015 BFP at 13 dpo, EDD July 29, 2016. MMC discovered 12/29 (9+4). Natural miscarriage 1/16 (12+1).
AMH results 0.42, 1.2; FSH 12.1, AFC 10, dx DOR.
RPL testing results normal. Nurse recommended progesterone suppositories in TWW.
Clomid + trigger + TI cycle August 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Femara + trigger + TI cycle December 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Short LP (8 days).
Acupuncture & Chinese herbs starting January 2017, lengthened LP to 10 days
Summer 2016 LFAF awards:
Winter 2016/2017 LFAF awards:
/loss mentioned/
TTC#1 July 2014
dx: MFI (morphology)
IUI #1 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Sept. 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #2 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Halloween 2015 ~ BFN
IUI #3 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Thanksgiving 2015 ~ BFP!!
hb 146 bpm at 7w5d
1/28/16 ~ began to say goodbye to our beautiful baby at 11w
d&c, followed by cytotec
TTCAL April 2016
IUI #4 w/Clomid + Ovidrel Apr. 2016 ~ BFN
IUI #5 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ CP
IUI#6 w/Clomid + Ovidrel ~ BFN
@iceandsnowflakes29 , I'm glad your u/s was clear so you don't have to go through that again. I hope the panic attacks are under control soon and you start feeling more in control.
I've been doing pretty well, other than a minor over reaction to basketball this weekend where I started sobbing uncontrollably over a loss but not really about the game. I think I confused DH who didn't get my reaction but it was really just an outlet about our loss even though I couldn't articulate that at the time. That was the only really bad breakdown this week though, which I think is a good sign. Last night I started spotting again after nothing for over a week. I'm wondering if maybe I do still have a bit of tissue or something to pass since my hcg numbers were higher than my ob expected at my last blood draw.
My spirit animal is a panda - pretty solitary, likes to eat its weight in veggies, sleep a lot, and is really cuddly.
@BrightenMySky I am so sorry about your fur baby. Life is so unfair. When you mentioned that you started 2016 as a family of four that really resonated with me. I got mt BFP the first week of January and I remember thinking what a great beginning to the new year. I had so much happiness and hope. My heart goes out to you and again I am so sorry.
@RiverSong15 and @Jolenef07 I am so sorry for your losses. Life is so cruel sometimes and I'm so sorry for the pain you are experiencing
@Kirchetta and @JDMRS I am so sorry for your losses and @JDMRS I'll be thinking of you today for your appt. Hugs to you.
@iceandsnowflakes29 I am glad the physical part is winding down for you and that your dr prescribed you some meds to help manage your anxiety. This process is so hard but I am very glad you are getting help.
As for me- I'm my new normal. Getting through my day, but with some sadness hanging around. Some days are better some not so much. I notice at night when I am in bed I start really reflecting on everything and that's when I feel the bulk of my sadness. I got my first AF and have started BCPs and am now waiting for my procedures. The first one is in 2 weeks.
I don't know what my spirit animal would be. That's a great question! I'll have to give it some thought.
Me (39) DH (40)
From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06
DH- no kids
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TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN
IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!! 2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days, D&C: 2/17/16
TTCAL: May 2016
IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
**10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!!
Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
At my appointment she did u/s and the embryo is still there and it measures the same size as it did last week at my first u/s, and my cervix is closed up tight. She offered medical or surgical (D&E) but suggested not waiting too long if I want to try to complete the miscarriage naturally. She wanted me to get 3 more HCG level checks- today, Friday and Monday, just to be sure that no one is being too hasty-so I got my first draw. She just called- my HCG levels have gone down since Friday at the ER and she encouraged me to think about my options and let her know when I am ready to move ahead. We have decided to go surgical and plan on scheduling the procedure for the middle to end of next week.I am grieving because I still had this little tiny bit of hope that our baby was just waiting to start growing until this weekend. Irrational but this process is anything but rational. On the fence about cancelling Easter- we have family coming this weekend and I just don't think I can do it. I am leaving work soon. I can't be here anymore because I feel like my skin is crawling.
ttc July 2015 ~ bfp Nov 2015 (cp)
bfp Dec 2015 ~ (tfmr 17wk, March 2016, genetic disease)
ttcal May 2016
@JDMRS, I'm so sorry. I know what it's like to hold on to the tiniest flicker of hope. Hope is simultaneously a bitch and yet the thing that keeps us moving forward. Hugs.
TTC since May 2014.
Aug 2014 BFP, EDD April 22, 2015. Low progesterone, started suppositories. Loss at 5w6d.
Nov 19, 2015 BFP at 13 dpo, EDD July 29, 2016. MMC discovered 12/29 (9+4). Natural miscarriage 1/16 (12+1).
AMH results 0.42, 1.2; FSH 12.1, AFC 10, dx DOR.
RPL testing results normal. Nurse recommended progesterone suppositories in TWW.
Clomid + trigger + TI cycle August 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Femara + trigger + TI cycle December 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Short LP (8 days).
Acupuncture & Chinese herbs starting January 2017, lengthened LP to 10 days
Summer 2016 LFAF awards:
Winter 2016/2017 LFAF awards:
@BrightenMySky, thanks for sharing your D&C story. That helps. I'm sorry for your loss and for the news about your fur baby. Hugs.
Me (39) DH (40)
From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06
DH- no kids
******************
TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN
IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!! 2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days, D&C: 2/17/16
TTCAL: May 2016
IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
**10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!!
Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
@jdmrs I know the feeling of holding out hope. I was spotting for almost a full week and told everything was normal up until i started bleeding red. I didn't want to believe what my body was already telling me. It's a horrible feeling to have a confirmation of what you desperately didn't want to be true.
@brightenmysky I am so so sorry about your furbaby. With everything else you're having to go through I can't imagine the heartache. I'm sure your sweet furball knows they are incredibly loved. You are in my thoughts.
I'm 4 days after my actual MC and I thought i was doing ok. Sudden tears and moments of sadness, but for the most part holding it together. Until I saw one of my best friends post a picture of her, her husband and their new 4 day old baby. I suddenly was bitter that she got what she wanted and I didn't. It came out of nowhere and I guess that's normal, but it's put me in a funk today.
I had my first beer last night and it felt wrong. Like i was acknowledging what had happened. I guess I should start enjoying all of those things now because in my ideal world I'll be pregnant again soon (wishful thinking).
Sidenote: It has been comforting to read everyone's experiences. You start to feel like you are alone and no one knows how it feels. As much as it sucks that we're all here, I'm glad we're all here for each other.
Married 2010
TTC since Nov. 2015
BFP#1: 2/8/16
MC: 3/19/16
BFP#2: 9/3/16 EDD: 5/17/17
mommy to the cutest rescue mutt ever.
my chart
thank you so much!
ttc July 2015 ~ bfp Nov 2015 (cp)
bfp Dec 2015 ~ (tfmr 17wk, March 2016, genetic disease)
ttcal May 2016
I feel you about the beer thing. For me, it's bacon. Every time I eat bacon I get sad and think "Two weeks ago I wouldn't be eating this." <3s and hugs to you
@babymama03252016
Thinking of you today.
@babymama03252016 Also thinking of you today. Try and do something kind for yourself. You deserve it.
Married 2010
TTC since Nov. 2015
BFP#1: 2/8/16
MC: 3/19/16
BFP#2: 9/3/16 EDD: 5/17/17
mommy to the cutest rescue mutt ever.
my chart
@jatwal128
thank you ladies that means a lot to me!
One thing - we don't like "baby dust" on the bump. It is a painful reminder to some moms who cremated their LOs. Please use other language to offer your support.
TTC since May 2014.
Aug 2014 BFP, EDD April 22, 2015. Low progesterone, started suppositories. Loss at 5w6d.
Nov 19, 2015 BFP at 13 dpo, EDD July 29, 2016. MMC discovered 12/29 (9+4). Natural miscarriage 1/16 (12+1).
AMH results 0.42, 1.2; FSH 12.1, AFC 10, dx DOR.
RPL testing results normal. Nurse recommended progesterone suppositories in TWW.
Clomid + trigger + TI cycle August 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Femara + trigger + TI cycle December 2016 - failed. Thin lining.
Short LP (8 days).
Acupuncture & Chinese herbs starting January 2017, lengthened LP to 10 days
Summer 2016 LFAF awards:
Winter 2016/2017 LFAF awards:
I'm so sorry! I didn't mean it in that way but I will correct that in the future!
Thank you for your kind words!