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SIL rant

msBlackandGoldmsBlackandGold member
in October 2016 Moms

I'm just so over SIL. She has been a pain since DH and I got together 13 years ago! I think prego hormones are making her small stabs even more irritating: 

So....We are hosting Easter Brunch at our house on Sunday. I asked SIL if she was going to bring her boyfriend's daughter and niece (actually I asked, "do you know if you will be bringing bf daughter and bf niece on Sunday?").  She replied "no." I don't know if that was "no, they're not coming," or "no, we don't know." 

I plan on doing an Resurrection Egg Hunt for my girls (4 and 2) and would have included them if they were coming. Talking to DH, I'm going to prep for my two and if she brings the others, then we'll just wait until they are gone to do the egg hunt. No biggie. The thing is that it kinda is a big deal because MIL makes a fuss every year about not seeing the girls do an egg hunt! I feel like we lose either way. 

Then, this entire week she has been sending the family old family pics (via our family group text). There was one pic of me and DH. She took the picture of the picture so that half my face was gone, and it looked like a picture of DH and some random person in the background.

She tagged DH and CIL in a pic on FB today, and I realized that she has also unfriended me on FB! It's so stupid because I have DH's password! I logged in and it's not like she has posted anything....(she used to post pics of my kids which we made clear was not what we allow)

No real point to this post, just irritated with SIL and would really appreciate if she decided to stay home on Sunday. 

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  • blaf322blaf322 member
    Sorry you're dealing with this kind of immaturity! For the egg hunt situation, can you make extra eggs in case she brings them? Or ask for clarity on the "no" comment (which I know may be easier said than done if she's being a complete jerk. One of those two things could solve the egg hunt issue at least. 

    Keep your chin up! :)
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  • msBlackandGoldmsBlackandGold member
    edited March 2016
    Resurrection Egg Hunt actually require a bit more work. It's telling the story of Jesus' burial and resurrection with 12 eggs. It's really not a whole lot of work, but more than I want to do for them not to show. 

    Ask for clarity.....yeah....I should be the bigger person and just ask. But I am just tired. I try to reach out, I try to be nice, and she....ugh. 

    This chick comes to my house, ignores me and plays with my kids. She's harmless....(meaning she doesn't say anything toxic), but I'd rather her just not be around. 
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  • MRSCORKERMRSCORKER member
    What is her problem with you? She sounds like a piece of work. I get just not having the energy to deal with her but for the sake of family get togethers, I might just have it out with her and some point and see if you can move on. 

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    Married: November 2014
    TTC #1 Since: October 2015
    BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP
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  • mothernorthmothernorth member
    I think it's safe to assume that maybe she meant she doesn't know so I personally would reply "Okay, would you let me know if you'll be able to when you find out?" It's simple and has no negative tone, if she meant No as in "no I'm not", no harm no foul. Your question was "do you know" so if she wants to get up in arms about it, that's her bad, not yours for it not being clarified. Best of luck and I hope you and yours have a great egg hunt no matter what!
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  • agogo1agogo1 member
    Your SIL sounds like a peach. I have one of those, too, but she's challenging for different reasons. I try really hard to just let things go and not bother me, but it's so, so much easier said than done. I could rant about her for ages, but I know it's not healthy and it doesn't exactly make me sound/look like such a great person either. It's a struggle.

    TBH, it's probably best that you aren't planning on having SIL's BF's daughter/niece join the egg hunt. IDK exactly how close you are with them or what their background is, but since you're doing an egg hunt that has more of a story/religious purpose than your run of the mill "okay kids, go run around the back yard and find some eggs", it is probably more appropriate to keep it to just your children. Frankly, I would be really uncomfortable if my daughter were to partake in just about any activity with a direct religious message, especially if I wasn't aware of what was happening. Because of this, you might be avoiding some potential disagreement by keeping it to your kids, too. 

    Just my two cents! Totally get the need to vent. 
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  • msBlackandGoldmsBlackandGold member
    That totally makes sense. I agree, I wouldn't want my children involved in a religious activity that I didn't pre-approve. Especially since I don't know the kid's moms, and have very low interaction with SIL's BF. I think it actually is best for me to not have them included. 

    I also agree that the text not being clear was my bad. I should have asked more directly. But with what agogo1 stated, I think I'll leave it alone and if they come, we'll just wait to have our egg hunt after everyone has left. 
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  • mothernorthmothernorth member
    I think maybe you misread my comment, but I didn't think the text was unclear on YOUR end, I think HER response was too vague!
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  • vcabbywvcabbyw member
    Make hubby deal with it for now by calling her for clarity. That's always my response to his family drama and if I'm feeling short tempered at the moment. 
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  • gatorMom2014gatorMom2014 member
    Sister in laws are the worst.  
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