Pretty upset with my mom today.

Allisong124 · March 2016

My SO messaged me saying my mom posted on Facebook, "Goin to be a grandma again!" And added mine and his names. Thank goodness she doesn't know how to `tag` yet. I'm a little over 5 weeks, and have only told a handful of people, which does not iclude my SO's family yet. I didn't think it was necessary to ask her not to post it public, but I figured she'd have some common sense!
I really hope it doesn't result in his family finding out. That would be an awful way to find out.
She was able to remove it after 15 min or so, so I'm crossing my fingers!

ShallowSeas · March 2016

I definitely spelled it out for my mom when I told her. I told her should could not tell ANYONE and I told her the only people that knew. She's asked me a couple times, "can I tell your grandmother yet?" so I keep reminding her that I will give her the 'okay' when I'm ready.

I think sometimes moms just get excited and don't think rationally about these things.

I agree that it would be an awful way for his family to find out $:\$ Hopefully she deleted it in time.

ficbot · March 2016

My cousin found out my grandma died because my sister posted it on Facebook before she was told. When my mother had surgery last year, she explicitly asked us not to post about it. So when I told my dad and my blabbermouth sister, I was pretty explicit with them about who knew so far and that we were not sharing on Facebook yet :-)

hellopartyof5 · March 2016

idk about your parents, but mine are idiots when it comes to social media. They just don't get the implications

tvh1982 · March 2016

I understand being upset with your mum right now @allisong124.
I would be too.
I actually blocked people from tagging me or posting on my wall until I'm ready and will again when due date arrives. So I could keep the damage limited from those over excited family members!

lilwonder · March 2016

Parents and social media do not mix. It's always a cluster-f*ck! I had something VERY similar happen with our last pregnancy and for that reason I have told our parents not to post anything about it-- that it's our thing to tell, when we're ready. They're a bit more sensitive about it this time, but that's only because they saw the pain from our recent loss.

rspalding001 · March 2016

My Dad once did the same thing to my cousin who was undergoing IVF treatments. He went online and congratulated her on FB before she was ready to announce (face palm). Parents just don't get it sometimes, especially with technology being what it is today. I had to call him and tell him to remove it for her ASAP. Oh geeze.

FallenLeaves1990 · March 2016

We told a few close friends so far, as well as my mom and my husband's mom...but we know no one will post it on Facebook until we do. It's kind of common courtesy. Id be super bummed if my mom did that. That's YOUR exciting thing to announce. Parents just don't understand, unfortunately.

DunkinDecaf · March 2016

@ficbotThat's. Awful. I can't imagine getting such painful news from f*cking Facebook.

OP sorry your mom was a bit clueless. Hopefully it won't spoil anything. Is she Facebook friends with any of your husband's family?

Cristin343 · March 2016

OP, it is so hard for our moms to contain the excitement. My mother TORTURED me to come out of the closet because I told her too early last time. I am now waiting this time till at least ten weeks.
I suspect that when some of us tell our mothers that we are pregnant, the excitement is nearly equatable to their own pregnancies! It makes them a bit cray.

rencontrezmoi · March 2016

Oh man, I hope she got the post down before anyone saw it! My mom outed me on Facebook when I was pregnant with DD. I was way farther along, I think 14 weeks, but it was still my news to share when I was comfortable sharing it, and I was really pissed off. I thought DH was going to kill her, he was so mad.

mrszoess · March 2016

lurking from october16...

my mom blabs to someone new in the circle of relatives and friends (and complete strangers anywhere she goes) EVERY DAY. I speak to her at night and she says "oh I told so and so" MOM CUT IT OUT! my entire extended family knew before my mother in law.

kns1988 · March 2016

That stinks, OP. I hope no one found out from her. My mom can't keep a secret to save her life, so I'm not telling her until I'm ready for everyone to know. Luckily, she doesn't have social media.

whaat · March 2016

I'm just shocked that my mom has kept it together, since she's pretty selfish and desperate for attention. I think the only thing helping her keep the news of her first grandchild secret is that once it's out, she's a "grandma" and grandma=old. I wish I was kidding.

Allisong124 · March 2016

shes 'friends' with his dad who is struggling with dementia right now. He didn't see it, thank goodness!

Sheybre · March 2016

My mom announced my baby name on FB last pregnancy way before I wanted it out there. I was PISSED. (Not sure why but I was very protective of it. The pregnancy was announced before I was ready, so I felt like the name was finally something I could announce when I was ready.) So yeah, now I have to remind her no facebooking.

aquasocks · March 2016

That sucks, but she took it down so I would just forgive and move on. My husband did the same thing when we got engaged. He was just so excited and not thinking. I decided to marry him anyway.

whaat · March 2016

aquasocks said:

That sucks, but she took it down so I would just forgive and move on. My husband did the same thing when we got engaged. He was just so excited and not thinking. I decided to marry him anyway.

Lol about 15 minutes after I proposed to my husband, he was like "let's not post about this until tomorrow." It was a good idea and I'm glad he said something if he was worried.

muybueno · March 2016

Oh, social media. Oh, parents using social media.

I don't announce on FB until around the 20 week mark because I don't want anyone close to me finding out via FB. And my family knows not to post anything until after I do.

Sorry about your mom's blunder

Jmccabe12210 · March 2016

I don't tell anyone unless I want everyone to know. If I can't keep the secret then I don't expect her to. Moms on Facebook are the worst lol. I think there might be a security option on Facebook that won't let anyone tag you in a post without you reviewing it first.

kimberdubs · March 2016

We're planning to tell immediate family this weekend. It's my mom that I'm worried about with spilling the beans. She may not outwardly say anything, but she likes to share "meaningful" (aka passive aggressive) quotes on her page and everything from Pinterest gets tied to her Facebook account. I can totally see her start pinning baby stuff like crazy and it wouldn't be so hard to figure out from there. My sister has two sons, but she has been done since her second was born 11 years ago. Wouldn't take a genius to figure out which daughter it is. We may have a social media 101 class before I leave town and I'll set her up with private Pinterest boards lol. My nephews were born before this was ever an issue.

whaat · March 2016

I told my dad, stepmom, and stepdad yesterday (stepdad is divorced from my mom now but still a big part of my life) and I explicitly said to all three "please don't post this on Facebook yet." You can never be too careful. Luckily my mom doesn't have Facebook.

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