First Baby!

babybillek · March 2016

Hi! My name is Devin and my fiance and I are having our first baby in November, we couldn't be more excited! I have my first sonogram next week and I am really terrified that I'm gonna go in for it and the technician isn't going to find anything. I know most people say that they can tell when they have miscarried, but I have such a fear that I did without knowing. Does anyone else have this fear? Is it possible to have a miscarriage without knowing, without bleeding? I am so excited about this whole thing and I just want everything to go perfect.

jarethinafrock · March 2016

Yes, it is possible and yes a lot of us have this fear, but unfortunately there isn't really much that can be done. Wishing you all the best at your ultrasound next week!

ShallowSeas · March 2016

It is possible to have a miscarriage without knowing or bleeding. Its called a missed miscarriage. This topic has been discussed recently on this board. I think most of us have a fear that something will go wrong but you have to turn your mind elsewhere.

babybillek · March 2016

Thank you! I am just praying that baby is healthy and I am very anxious to get out of my first trimester

MollySm · March 2016

The first trimester is scary. An ultrasound is really the best way to get some peace of mind. Good luck next week!

juliehollz13 · March 2016

Yes and yes. I am dealing with anxiety as well but I thought about something this morning - I can either live in fear of something bad happening and be miserable everyday, or I can take it one day at a time and choose joy and be grateful every day that I am pregnant. Today, I am pregnant. So at least for today, I will be happy.

Chcaggie1 · March 2016

juliehollz13 said:

Yes and yes. I am dealing with anxiety as well but I thought about something this morning - I can either live in fear of something bad happening and be miserable everyday, or I can take it one day at a time and choose joy and be grateful every day that I am pregnant. Today, I am pregnant. So at least for today, I will be happy.

Yes @juliehollz13 I think that is the perfect philosophy! Of course there are infinite things we could focus in on during pregnancy to terrify us and live in fear the same holds true once our angels arrive but we are not called to live in the a spirit of fear but instead with a heart of gratitude and expectation! And if you're a numbers person (as I am) it's very comforting for me to focus on the fact that statistically we are much more likely to have healthy pregnancies and deliver happy healthy babies!

m6agua · March 2016

Welcome and first let me say I hope everything goes well and the odds are that it will.

Now lets get real. *TW*

I had this fear with my first pregnancy and then I had an ultrasound at 10 weeks because I started spotting and that is exactly what happened. There was no baby, just a gestational sac that measured 6 weeks (blighted ovum). That image of the empty sac up on the screen is burned in my head forever. I did not miscarry until 11 weeks. So basically I was walking around for 4 weeks not knowing and then another week knowing until I miscarried.

mrsjlang · March 2016

We were terrified until we had the ultrasound. Being a FTM as well, can totally relate. In the mean time, the best thing that you can do is take care of yourself. I know, it's not much to go on. But once we saw that little blob on the screen, all worries were gone.

Hold tight dear, you only got a few days to go.

Hedgessm · March 2016

No matter how many times you do this, the anxiety doesn't go away. All you can do is take it one day at a time. Try to focus on other things and just enjoy the moment. The first trimester really is the hardest. But we have survived and you will too!! (And then if you have another, you'll repeat the process)

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