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December 2015 Moms
keiragann
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Struggling...
keiragann
member
So I have a few questions and struggles going on right now that fit into several categories so I apologize if it's repeat and maybe you could help lead me in the right direction. I have a DS who will be 15 weeks tomorrow.
1) He continues to eat only 4oz every 2 hours. Should I be giving him more and hoping that he goes longer periods between eating? I keep reading that they should be going 3.5 to 4 hours between feedings now.
2) My LO is never at a point where I can put him down awake and happy. He is either sleeping because of nursing or crying. He cannot self soothe and never wakes up happy and cooing it is always crying. Am I doing something wrong? How do I change this? He refuses a pacifier and only sucks his hand when he is hungry.
3) the last week or two he has gone from being this awesome sleeper who went to bed at 8 and woke up once at 3:30 for a feeding and then went back to bed. All of a sudden he sleeps only till 12 or 1 and then is up every hour or two from there and of course I just went back to work so this is killing me. Any ideas or suggestions to get my good sleeper back? I am reading things about the four month sleep regression but it doesn't really have any ideas how to go back.
4) My LO is splitting his days between two people so in the morning he is with my mother in law and then in the afternoon he goes to a family friend. There are days when I pick him up and he hasn't had more than a twenty minute nap all day long. So then of course he sleeps for two hours when he gets home. How do I get them to make sure that he is sleeping especially with the difficulties I am having with getting him to sleep?
Thank you you in advance. I'm feeling like a terrible mom right now
1) He continues to eat only 4oz every 2 hours. Should I be giving him more and hoping that he goes longer periods between eating? I keep reading that they should be going 3.5 to 4 hours between feedings now.
2) My LO is never at a point where I can put him down awake and happy. He is either sleeping because of nursing or crying. He cannot self soothe and never wakes up happy and cooing it is always crying. Am I doing something wrong? How do I change this? He refuses a pacifier and only sucks his hand when he is hungry.
3) the last week or two he has gone from being this awesome sleeper who went to bed at 8 and woke up once at 3:30 for a feeding and then went back to bed. All of a sudden he sleeps only till 12 or 1 and then is up every hour or two from there and of course I just went back to work so this is killing me. Any ideas or suggestions to get my good sleeper back? I am reading things about the four month sleep regression but it doesn't really have any ideas how to go back.
4) My LO is splitting his days between two people so in the morning he is with my mother in law and then in the afternoon he goes to a family friend. There are days when I pick him up and he hasn't had more than a twenty minute nap all day long. So then of course he sleeps for two hours when he gets home. How do I get them to make sure that he is sleeping especially with the difficulties I am having with getting him to sleep?
Thank you you in advance. I'm feeling like a terrible mom right now
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Re: Struggling...
1) no I don't think you should give him more. You could stretch out his stomach that way or he'll just spit the extra up. DD is 15 weeks tomorrow and eats every 1-2 hours, about 1-2 oz at a time. Not every baby is going to go long periods of time between feedings. And milk or formula doesn't make a difference, it's about the particular baby.
2) DD will not be put down and be happy unless I'm actively engaging her. It just doesn't happen. She doesn't wake up happy and doesn't smile until she sees me/I pick her up. I don't think you're doing anything wrong, some babies are just less content.
3) 15 weeks is a leap according to wonder weeks. Your baby could be waking more because of that or a growth spurt. Babies are meant to wake up and it's not always because they're hungry. Sometimes they're too hot or too cold or want to be held. It's normal but I know it sucks. Also if your LO is not napping well it can cause trouble sleeping and more wakefulness at night. Backwards, I know.
4) I think you are just going to have to stress how important naps are. Talk to them about what they do all day. Babies should be sleeping every 2ish hours of awake time at this age.
How do you get him to sleep at home? Come up with some tactics for them to try.
You aren't doing anything wrong. My LO also doesn't seld soothe or take a paci (I've tried 8 now.)
There are no one set of steps to go back from a regression or time frame. Trust me thats all I've done the past 3 weeks is research. All experts say is to begin some "training" according to your LOs age to get him back IF thats what youre comfortable with. Aside from that, some moms have found success with the merlin suit, others zipadeezip, others black out shades, others white noise machines along with sticking to routine as close as possible. Reasses your bedtime. At 15 weeks babies no longer go to bed that late at least not recommend. Try putting him to sleep when you were doing that last nap time before. (Around 7pm?)
Your last concern is my largest. Babies at this age should not have more than a 2 hour awake time. This not only affects their temperament but their night sleep. I would communicate this urgency with your caregivers. They need to try everything under the sun to get him to sleep. I eould recor starting at an hour and 40 mins to allow that 20 min window to get him down.
Hang in there. I empathize with you 100%.