TW Tuesday 3/15

AdorkablePixie · March 2016

I don't see one posted yet and I really need to get this off my chest before I burst into tears.

We were supposed to close on our new house on Friday. Our lender messed up the form to get our transcript from the IRS and I guess took a while to get a corrected one back to us to fill out. We got it back to them last week, the turned it in for the transcript. They still haven't gotten the transcript back. We can't close without it. I got a transcript for them today and sent it in because she said that would word. Well, she got it and said she took it to management and since they have an open request, it won't work. Had they not had an open request, it would work. WTF! So now we can't close until Monday, but we said we'd be out of the apartment on Sunday. I don't even know what to do or how this is going to work out now. We had people helping us move, who won't be able to help on Monday. We are probably going to have to hire a moving company and we don't have the money to! I am so stressed out and I feel so sick. And I still feel like crying. Anyway, my TW is our lender..

Charissadeats · March 2016

Sorry, that is a kak situation to be in! I have nothing to suggest, but just want to say that I hope you guys manage to sort something. People suck.

H0neyC0mb · March 2016

@AdorkablePixie that stinks! Hopefully they'll get it sorted out sooner than expected.

My tw is my immediate coworkers. One of them in particular has turned into a short tempered brat within the last few weeks. Every day she lays into me about something and I'm so sick of it. Then goes and gossips about me to the other teachers. So professional. H says I need to stand up for myself more but I just don't think it's a war worth fighting.

At least not with her. I'm meeting with my bosses later to discuss concerns I have woth our room.

AdorkablePixie · March 2016

Charissadeats said:

Sorry, that is a kak situation to be in! I have nothing to suggest, but just want to say that I hope you guys manage to sort something. People suck.

Thank you. I agree, people do suck. We are getting screwed over for a mistake that they made. It sucks!

dsmith211 · March 2016

@AdorkablePixie So sorry you're in this situation. I just remember being in a similar situation back when we bought our house a few years ago and I know it is an absolutely horrible situation to be in as there isn't really a whole lot you can do. I really hope you guys manage to work something out though.

nerdymama15 · March 2016

My twatwaffle nominees for the day are pretty much all the presidential candidates. I don't like any of them and really I am having a hard time deciding on the lesser of the evils when they are pretty much all equally evil in my eyes. I really do not feel that any of them deserve the nomination. On the other hand there are some pretty arrogant Bernie Sanders fans in my Facebook feed (about five people total) that I just feel the overwhelming need to piss off. When I say arrogant, I mean they are super arrogant and obnoxious and don't let others have different opinions without personal insults. When Bernie Sanders loses (I have a feeling he will not get the nomination. It's just a feeling) then I can't wait to ask them if they are feeling the Bern now. Just b/c they are being super obnoxious about it. No other reason really.

My DH is the other twatwaffle nominee. Last night I told him that I was going to sit in the recliner in the nursery and decompress. Just shut the door and get way from everyone. He was like okay. So I guess that third trimester fatigue had kicked in or something. That and I had only had two hours of sleep the night before. I dozed off. Two hours later I emerged from the room. Well apparently he thinks that downloading HR Block software to his computer and starting on the taxes is a lot of hard work. Then I get dissed on b/c the kitchen counter is not clean, and the kitchen floor needs cleaning. Nevermind that he never lifts a finger when it comes to regular house cleaning. He whines whenever I ask him to. Also he had to clean out his CPAP machine in the kitchen sink. He took the few things that were in there that were dirty and put them on the counter. He put the sink drainer rack thing that sits in the bottom on the stove. He cleaned out the sink and then put the dirty paper towel on top of the clean dishes that were drying in the drying rack on the other side!!!!!!! I was ready to kill him. He left everything that way afterwards and I had to put everything back. He is a real jerk when it comes to cleaning the house. Just b/c his paycheck pays for most of the bills he feels I should be responsible for cleaning the house. Nevermind I also work full time and I am growing a human. Ugh!!!!!!!!!!!! But anyway!

Jparke2 · March 2016

@AdorkablePixie moving/buying a house is such a stressful time, I feel for you. I can't imagine doing it while pregnant! If it makes you feel any better, I cried from frustration during my moving process, and I didn't even have any snags or pregnancy excuses. Also my friend just bought a house and spent a lot of their moving day crying. So go ahead and cry! It'll feel good to let it out.

Bltbear82 · March 2016

My TWs are the businesses we bought all of our fixtures, toilets, tubs, and vanities from who actually expected me to be ok with curbside delivery. Wtf people, what do you expect me to do with a tub on the sidewalk outside my building when the first time you've mentioned curbside delivery is when you were two blocks away? Also you provided a certificate of insurance to enter my building, which kind of implies you would be entering the actual building. You know, to deliver the stuff I bought.

gamommyx3 · March 2016

@AdorkablePixie that sucks!!! I would say figure out a way to hire the moving company...I know the money sucks but it will be so worth it in the long run. Use the time & people you had allotted to moving this weekend to get all your stuff super organized so that you can move in as little time as possible (that may help cut down the cost). I was in a similar situation (and NOT pg, which is only making it a billion times worse) and that's what we did. Also, HOORAY for owning your own home!!! That means you won't have to go through the moving process again for a loooooooooong time (if ever)!!!

TheThornBird · March 2016

nerdymama15 said:
Just b/c his paycheck pays for most of the bills he feels I should be responsible for cleaning the house.

People who think they are entitled to not do housework because they make more money are huge TWs! I can understand if someone works many more hours than their spouse or has an incredibly physically demanding job, but just going off of salary alone is unfair.

dsmith211 · March 2016

Aquinna82 said:

@AdorkablePixie that sucks!!! I would say figure out a way to hire the moving company...I know the money sucks but it will be so worth it in the long run. Use the time & people you had allotted to moving this weekend to get all your stuff super organized so that you can move in as little time as possible (that may help cut down the cost). I was in a similar situation (and NOT pg, which is only making it a billion times worse) and that's what we did. Also, HOORAY for owning your own home!!! That means you won't have to go through the moving process again for a loooooooooong time (if ever)!!!

This is thing I kept thinking about when we were moving. I think it's the only thing that got me through and made everything worth it. I ABSOLUTELY hate moving and am so glad that we probably won't have to again for a long time.

laurenmdrn16 · March 2016

This one is super minor and I feel so blessed that this is the worst for today. It was just one of those "I want to bang my head on my computer" moments. I sent out a crystal clear email about screening makeups and when I wanted to see each class and the specific students from each class. I said "The students in rm 101 should be sent promptly at 8:30am tomorrow morning and the last student from that classroom will alert the teacher in rm 102 to send those students and so on." The teacher from rm 101 just sent an email back saying "Ok, just please come down to get the students when you are ready." No, my whole point was that I don't want to heave my giant pregnant body all around the school. I want YOU to see the clock and send students down when it says 8:30am. Argh.

Bluejay3030 · March 2016

@AdorkablePixie I'm sorry, that sounds so frustrating. Moving is stressful enough without dealing with incompetent 3rd parties, and being pregnant too just makes it more miserable. Hang in there.

krisspy22 · March 2016

@AdorkablePixie Sorry you have to go through this! We had a similar situation very early in this pregnancy. We were supposed to move in the middle of August. August 12 was closing day, and August 14 was moving day. Our closing got delayed 6 weeks while waiting for the lender to come through. It was almost as if they did not want our 20% down payment!

The thing that kept me going week after week was knowing that 1. I wouldn't have to move again, and 2. I was moving into an amazing home which my LO will get to grow up in. It seriously sucks, and I cried many times over it, but all the stress and aggravation has now been totally worth it.

My TWs today are my coworkers who think it's OK to 1. sign a redline version of a contract, instead of returning my redlines to the vendor, and 2. sending a contract on a Tuesday with a due date of the day before on it asking for it to be reviewed asap.

I like what I do, but days like this make me count down the time I have left before maternity leave starts!

saltedcaramel518 · March 2016

@AdorkablePixie When DH and I bought our first house, the closing date got moved back 2 weeks, causing all kinds of problems (including a lot of anger from the previous owners who had to delay their cross-country move). We had the same issue with our apartment, and we ended up having to move everything out of the apartment and into a storage unit for week, then moved it into the house. We had to move the stuff into the storage unit ourselves, but thankfully we had family help out when we moved in the house. It was a nightmare, and I'm sorry you have to deal with it!

My TW today is my co-worker that Will. Not. Shut. Up. about her mother-of-the-groom's dress for her son's upcoming wedding. She apparently has bought a dress, but isn't sure about it or something like that. Anyway, she has literally been talking about the dress to ANYONE who will listen for the past 2 days. She's talked about how much it cost, how she's not sure if she can wear it after she loses weight, and "OMG it's just so stressful."
Seriously, it's not that big of a deal.

gamommyx3 · March 2016

My TW is also a co-worker, who I really liked until about an hour ago. A few weeks ago we had the following conversation: Her: here's a big thing that I know. Me: Wow, that is a big thing. Have you told anyone? Because that needs to be addressed. Her: yeah, I told my manager. Me: Ok, and he's going to do something about it? Her: I think so. So I think for awhile and then go back to her the next day. Me: Hey, that thing from yesterday is really bothering me. You're sure you brought it up to your manager? Because if not, I will bring it up to mine. Her: Yes, I brought it up. Me: Ok. Now, thinking that the manager will do what needs to be done. Fast forward to today and a conversation between me and my manager. Me: Hey, you know that thing from a few weeks ago? Manager: Blank stare. Never heard a word. So then my manager goes to the Director (because it was THAT big of a thing) and he questions the supervisor. Director: Did you tell anyone about this when it happened. Her: yeah, I told Aquinna. Director: Anyone else? Like your manager? Her: No, no I don't think I ever said anything to him.

What the actual fuck.

JoMunson · March 2016

TheThornBird said:

nerdymama15 said:
Just b/c his paycheck pays for most of the bills he feels I should be responsible for cleaning the house.

People who think they are entitled to not do housework because they make more money are huge TWs! I can understand if someone works many more hours than their spouse or has an incredibly physically demanding job, but just going off of salary alone is unfair.

So I'm gunna admit a financial dorkiness that I didn't know how much I got paid for awhile and so I always assumed it was less than my husband- turns out I get paid a lot more. But I'm definitely not about to throw down the broom and say "alright hubs, time to start cleaning!". We both live here. We're adults!

dshannah · March 2016

AdorkablePixie said:

I don't see one posted yet and I really need to get this off my chest before I burst into tears.
We were supposed to close on our new house on Friday. Our lender messed up the form to get our transcript from the IRS and I guess took a while to get a corrected one back to us to fill out. We got it back to them last week, the turned it in for the transcript. They still haven't gotten the transcript back. We can't close without it. I got a transcript for them today and sent it in because she said that would word. Well, she got it and said she took it to management and since they have an open request, it won't work. Had they not had an open request, it would work. WTF! So now we can't close until Monday, but we said we'd be out of the apartment on Sunday. I don't even know what to do or how this is going to work out now. We had people helping us move, who won't be able to help on Monday. We are probably going to have to hire a moving company and we don't have the money to! I am so stressed out and I feel so sick. And I still feel like crying. Anyway, my TW is our lender..

Minor piece of advice, as this happened to me a few years back (not with the horrible lender, but with having an unexpected day between parts of a move): Rent a truck and get the people who were going to help you move load your stuff into the truck. Stay in a hotel overnight and if anyone can help you unload the truck on Monday, great, if not, hire someone (from a moving company, or a local university) to help you move for an hourly rate.

Renting a truck overnight and paying for a few hours of people's time is vastly cheaper than hiring a moving company!

durbie92 · March 2016

^^^^ great idea! @AdorkablePixie girl that sucks, FX it all gets worked out soon!! My TW is the cold/bronchitis/bilat ear infection/sinus infection I have. And for me being such a guy when it comes to being sick lol seriously, I'm the biggest baby ever.

folamij · March 2016

We were in a similar situation @AdorkablePixie. We were supposed to close on our house at the end of one month, and ended up closing one month later on the day our contract with the builder expired because the builder didn't have the house ready. Since we had to give 60 days notice to our rental at the time, we ended up living in a hotel, with all our stuff in storage. It's a stressful situation but in the end everything did work out but it did cost us more. So sorry you have to go through this! Deep breaths Momma, everything will work out!

evalynn24 · March 2016

My TW is my pelvis. I'm not sure what made it dislocate, but after 6 weeks of pain I was finally able to see the physical therapist and he confirmed my pelvis is misaligned. Where it should be connected to the cartilage in the middle, one side is tilted and basically popped out of place!

My second TW is my coworker who tells me everyday I need to go for a walk around the block and I'll feel better. Uhhh NO! My pelvis is dislocated! She finally stuck her foot in her mouth today when I told her what was wrong and why I literally couldn't walk. This is the same coworker who said I wasn't going to get lunch from a certain place because they didn't deliver.

Also, the PT is a TW for assuming I accidentally got pregnant pretty much 4 weeks after my stillbirth. He said, "well you didn't have enough time to heal and that's why you are having these problems. Some things happen though." I pretty much immediately said, "well my daughter was stillborn and I didn't take any time off work and we wanted a baby as soon as we could." He promptly opened his mouth and inserted his foot as well

AdorkablePixie · March 2016

H0neyC0mb said:

@AdorkablePixie that stinks! Hopefully they'll get it sorted out sooner than expected.

My tw is my immediate coworkers. One of them in particular has turned into a short tempered brat within the last few weeks. Every day she lays into me about something and I'm so sick of it. Then goes and gossips about me to the other teachers. So professional. H says I need to stand up for myself more but I just don't think it's a war worth fighting.

At least not with her. I'm meeting with my bosses later to discuss concerns I have woth our room.

@H0neyC0mb I can't stand people like that. My old office there were two woman there who would gossip and talk about you behind your back. I am so glad I moved to a new office with mature people who don't act like they're still in high school! Sorry you have to deal with that.

AdorkablePixie · March 2016

@nerdymama15 Men!! They don't get it. My DH was supposed to shampoo our carpets Monday night since we are moving and I bet you can guess that they still haven't been done. lol

I agree with you about the presidential candidates. We are screwed. I like Bernie. I don't see him winning either, though. He just doesn't have enough support out there.

@BLTbear82 What?!?! I hope you got that situation worked out. What the heck did they expect you to do with a tub on the sidewalk?

@laurenmdrn16 Doesn't seem that complicated.. does he/she not know how to tell time? I wouldn't want to go and get them either!

@KDennis202 Wow... 6 months. That's way worse than three days. I hate stuff like this. Why can't lenders just get what they need to done?! We did everything we had to do. My DH is FURIOUS.

@dshannah That's the idea I came up with last night too. lol Plus his mom offered to pay for the moving truck, so that will help. The seller MAY let us move our stuff in on Friday and Saturday, but we are still waiting for their response on that. They are kinda jerks, so I wouldn't be surprised if they say no. I guess I don't really blame them though.

Thank you everyone for all the support! At least I am not the only one who has been in this position. It is so frustrating though! Once this is all over though, we're both going to be so happy.. hopefully we forget all the bad stuff.

AdorkablePixie · March 2016

JoMunson said:

TheThornBird said:

nerdymama15 said:
Just b/c his paycheck pays for most of the bills he feels I should be responsible for cleaning the house.

People who think they are entitled to not do housework because they make more money are huge TWs! I can understand if someone works many more hours than their spouse or has an incredibly physically demanding job, but just going off of salary alone is unfair.

So I'm gunna admit a financial dorkiness that I didn't know how much I got paid for awhile and so I always assumed it was less than my husband- turns out I get paid a lot more. But I'm definitely not about to throw down the broom and say "alright hubs, time to start cleaning!". We both live here. We're adults!

I make more than DH too, but I don't make him clean the house either. lol I actually usually do the cleaning because he works on Saturdays so I will clean. Sometimes I will have him vacuum or clean the toilet, but he's really good about it. I feel like we have a pretty good split.

Plus he does SO MUCH that I can't do, like changes the oil in my cars, buys me tires and puts them on, etc.

JoMunson · March 2016

@AdorkablePixie we might be married to the same guy! I do the general cleaning, what my DH calls "clean that you can tell", I usually have him do one room, especially the office since I'm just not in there, and he's had to take on the litter box (he doesn't do it as often as I used to, but he does it if I ask). But he also does changing the oil, house repairs, walking the dog (I used to but I hate walking nowadays).
I think it's more important to have a balance and for everyone to feel like they contribute in the family and like their contribution is supported and valued.

khochanadel · March 2016

@AdorkablePixie good luck with the move. We just moved into our house last weekend and even with everything going as smoothly as it possibly could go, it was so stressful and I felt overwhelmed and cried several times. It will be a distant, shitty memory before you know it.

Bit of advice if I may - as much as you'll want to get things done and unpacked quickly, don't overextend yourself. My doctor had to limit all my activities starting this week because I am dilated 1 cm. Just let everyone do everything for you!

AdorkablePixie · March 2016

@JoMunson It's great isn't it? I love having a handy husband.

@khochanadel Moving while pregnant is just a terrible idea. lol Our move date got extended to this upcoming weekend, but we had to be out of the apartment by today.. so we get to move all our stuff two weekends in a row. To say DH and I are exhausted is an understatement, and I didn't even do that much (DH won't let me lift anything that's heavier than like 5 pounds).

khochanadel · March 2016

When weighing moving while 7 months pregnant against moving while having 2 infants - pregnant wins. But yeah, it sucks. Moving any time sucks. Moving while pregnant doubly sucks because you can't do all the things you want to do. Hang in there

Lucky for me, DH has REALLY stepped up and helped with unpacking even though he knows it's really hard for me to ask for help and it's not at all a priority for him. Since he knows it's important to me to have our nursery ready and not be dodging boxes left and right.

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