Working Mama Guilt, bedtime/wake-up

Re: Working Mama Guilt, bedtime/wake-up

• ATolentino89 member

  March 2016

  So much yes. I wake my son up when I get up and he lays next to me as I get ready in the mornings. I make sure we get 15 minutes of cuddle time before we leave every day. Between that, me refusing to stop bed sharing (I argue to my husband that unless he starts waking up to feed Cole, he stays in bed with us) and the fact that I only work part-time my guilt is mostly kept at bay. 
  
  That at being said I'm seeing it from a positive view right now because I will have the next two days off with my son and a family day on Sunday. 

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• ramfam2507 member

  March 2016

  Mom guilt here too. I also have DD who's 5 so she's wants all my attention too when I get home. I cosleep with Nico, so I snuggle him at night and am starting to really love the MOTN feedings because it's just us two. 
  
  Also, we snuggle hard on the weekends. Me, Nico, and DD stay in my bed on Saturdays till at least ten just hanging out. 

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• laurabwalker member

  March 2016

  Aww I feel for you guys!!!

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• pupsicle23 member

  March 2016 edited March 2016

  Ugh. This will be me; I'm about to go back to working 7-5 with a 30 min commute. I'm at a charter school with an extended day.  I just pray I don't have to bring work home. But I've always had to before.  DD has been waking up between 4 and 5 to eat,  so that might work out in my favor.  
  

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• candace4erich member

  March 2016

  The mom guilt is real - and I don't even work that much!! I unfortunately had to go back too with several weeks ago. I run my own teaching business and the person I hired to fill in for me quit suddenly. I only work a few hours a day (and not at all on Wednesdays), but I still feel like I'm missing so much. You mommas who work full time are so strong!

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• breezypip member

  March 2016

  Ugh, this thread was right on time. I started back to work full time yesterday after 12 weeks leave and DD went to sleep at 8:00 so I only got about 3 hours with her. Then this morning she was still asleep when I left for work -- DH does drop offs at daycare -- and I was a mess since she's never woken up without me and without nursing right away. DH had to give her a bottle and he said she was still rooting for the boob. I wanted to let her sleep, but now I'm wondering if I should wake her up to nurse her and get a tiny bit of time with her.

  

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• Court11152325 member

  March 2016

  This thread makes me feel guilty that I don't have working mom guilt, but I have a flexible schedule and really only have to go in for 5-6 hours 3-4 days a week. I actually look forward to that time, but I do miss DD when I'm gone.

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• caketimes member

  March 2016

  I wake DD up. I want her on the boob. She falls right asleep when she's done so I miss all the morning smiles. It's super hard and it's only been 2 days. 
  
  Keep it up! 

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• mperotti220 member

  March 2016

  Ahh I go back on Monday and mornings are my favorite with my LO...we laugh and make faces and cuddle in bed in our pjs! I plan on feeding her before I leave for work but I know I'm gonna cry my whole drive to work thinking about our mornings

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• amye02 member

  March 2016

  So much guilt here. I wake up Jackson to BF in the AM if he doesn't get up on his own. Then we spend time cuddling until it's time to get up. I try to stay where he can see and hear me while I am getting ready but it still isn't enough.
  

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• asmith40 member

  March 2016

  I start back tomorrow. I cried so hard earlier today that I almost hyperventilated. I know I'm going to cry tomorrow morning. I just hope I don't give myself another headache by crying so much. DH went out of town this afternoon so that didn't help with my emotional state. I do feel fortunate that my mother is coming to stay the night and she will watch DS tomorrow. He usually gets up around 7:00am so I will feed him before I leave for work. 

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• kaylanpolk member

  March 2016

  Ive been back to work for almost 5 weeks now and I just want to assure you it gets better. I cried every day for over a week when I went back because I felt so guilty and missed DS so much. And while I still miss him dreadfully while I'm away, it has become routine and I'm getting used to it. It helps to remember that he will have no memory of this and I'm working to provide for him. And weekends are always just around the corner!

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• pupsicle23 member

  March 2016

  Bringing this back because I start work tomorrow.  Are you all still waking up your babies?
  
  I'll have to pump at work at 7, 10, 1, and 4. So in the morning,  I'll have to pump or feed the baby at 5. I can't decide whether to wake her up that early or just pump and visit with her briefly before I leave at 6:15-6:30. Closer to 6:15 tomorrow so I can get my life in order before my first class

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• ATolentino89 member

  March 2016

  I am selfish so I wake up DS. He doesn't mind and will chat with me as I am getting ready. Then it's his turn. 

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• mltarrio member

  March 2016

  Turns out baby girl has been waking up around the time I would normally have woken her. Maybe getting her up taught her what time morning is?

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• JulieK79 member

  March 2016

  I wake DD up at 5:30 to feed her on days I work. It's more so to help with routine though. If I feed her at 5:30, then afterwards I can shower, have breakfast, and get her and toddler out the door and to daycare by 8:00. I worry if I don't wake her at 5:30, she'll wake up either later on while I'm mid shower and then will be late for work or that she'll be hungry and crying on the way to daycare.

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