STM - how you feel compared to #1?

Ampip2270 · March 2016

Just wondering how any STMs feel compared to pregnancy #1? Same, completely different? Are you having the same sex baby as #1? We're team gree n and we were with #1 also, I feel almost exactly the same.

LeahKnits · March 2016

I'm not a second time mom, this is my 4th pregnancy. So far it's been almost exactly like my third and most of my second. My first was different, but only because I didn't have kids to take care of. I was able to sleep all day if I wanted. So I usually did. I have 3 girls and I'm pretty sure this one is a girl also.

Themaritimemama · March 2016

4th pregnancy for me too. My pregnancy experiences have always been the same, and I had girl, boy, girl. I'm much more tired this time around, but I attribute that to taking care of the other 3 and working full time.

kcl219 · March 2016

This is my 2nd and we don't know what we're having yet.... However this pregnancy has been different in a few ways. I've gained weight faster and feel way more bloated, I had first trimester nausea which I also never had with my son. And I broke out really really bad with my 1st, so far my skin has been clear. I'm excited to see if this means a different gender or not!

Shiva14 · March 2016

This pregnancy has been similar to my first with a few differences. I had a boy last time and am having a girl now. I had morning sickness with both but it was all day with my son. On the flip side it's lasting longer this time (15 weeks tomorrow and I was sick this morning). I've been extremely tired with both.

Very sore and enlarged boobs this time around which didn't happen at all last time and my weight gain is slower.

Other than that, the biggest difference is having a toddler to run after this time and having a much better job where I'm not on my feet all day which is making the fatigue more bearable.

618mom22boys · March 2016

This is my 4th pregnancy and is COMPLETE different! If I didn't have a belly or a appetite I really wouldn't know I was pregnant.

With my 1st 3 I had morning sickness almost the whole time. This go around nothing. They were all boys and this is a girl.

hey_clever_girl · March 2016

This is my 3rd pregnancy but my 2nd that went past 7 weeks (so for arguments sake we will say baby #2.). So far, I have been sicker, more tired, and have gained weight faster. My skin was a nightmare with my daughter in the first trimester, and this time it wasn't. I seem to be breaking out now (could be the change in seasons).

Overall this his pregnancy has been harder and more tiring. Don't know what I'm having yet but I think it's another girl.

JennM205 · March 2016

This pregnancy (my second) has been very similar to my first in terms of which symptoms I had and have been having but this time, I feel everything has been turned up one notch. I'm more tired, more emotional, I was sicker during first tri... Not sure if it's because of the toddler I'm caring for this time, a slightly more demanding job or what. I had a girl last time and we are team gree (again) this time.

izzetoot · March 2016

This is my second and could not be more different than my first. With my first I had zero symptoms and didn't start showing or even feel pregnant until almost 6 months. With this pregnancy, I am crazy bloated, had terrible MS (that thankfully has almost stopped), I look 6 months pregnant now, am super tired all the time and have been having crazy hormonal episodes of crying, upset or just plain bitchy. Both boys??!!

camichael84 · March 2016

This is my second and it's been different than my first, but not drastically. Morning sickness didn't seem to last quite as long this time. I had clear skin the last time and get the occasional pimple with this one. Some totally different cravings, but some the same. The biggest differences are completely different aversions, and very little boob/nipple pain this time when I had extremely painful breasts/nips from 5 weeks until well after birth with my first. First was a girl, still don't know what this one is yet.

chavezrd2 · March 2016

This is my second pregnancy and while I've gotten big quickly I've had a lot less MS and cravings than last time. I'm on pelvic rest similar to last time as well but this pregnancy has had a few scares already and it's emotionally exhausting. Team green so we don't know if gender plays a role yet. Very curious to see if it does!

sareej521 · March 2016

Second! Definitely different this round... More/longer lasting sickness and I have the awful metallic taste all the time! Still so so tired too and showed much faster, felt baby a week later this time as well.
ETA: heartburn set in much earlier this time as well, basically the moment the 2 lines showed up on the test! Only bonus is I really never had the frequent urination this time!

beachmama14 · March 2016

This is my second, and couldn't be any more different than my first. With my first I had basically no symptoms until the third tri, gained tons of weight from the start, and was never sick. This time I have been so so sick since week 6 and miserably tired. I haven't gained weight and have just managed to stop losing. Im wondering if my symptoms are being made worse because I am still breastfeeding. I feel so worn down. I think I might try to stop, but idk if I have the energy to deal with the weaning process

sunshinern96 · March 2016

This pregnancy could not be more different than my first. My pregnancy with my son, I was not sick at all, was not tired at all, had cravings but no aversions and basically felt good until I got huge at the end. I remember telling my husband that I could be a surrogate for other people because I enjoyed pregnancy so much and I was serious.

With this one, I have been so nauseous from the start and I'm still on meds, the fatigue in the first tri was overwhelmingly bad, my skin is worse than it was when I was a teenager, and I have these crazy food aversions to pizza (the saddest one), any sort of sandwich bun (so random), and red meat. I am curious to find out April 8th what this one is! But I have SO many friends who like @izzetoot had totally different pregnancies but had another of the same sex. Pregnancy is crazy!

RedMar · March 2016

@Knottie1456511431 I could've written what you just said. Aside from the pizza and sandwich bun aversions (I'm living off pizza and English muffins). I think my husband is relieved I no longer have the desire to be a surrogate. He was legitimately worried I was going to do it to pay off some of my college debt.
As far as the nausea, I didn't do Diclegis, but i had to wear SeaBands 24/7 to alleviate the spins. With DS, I only had to wear them every so often, with this LO I went through 2 pairs. We will be finding out this time around in about 3 weeks. I have also heard the same; totally different pregnancies but the same sex baby. Weirdness.

sarahg8r · March 2016

This has definitely been different than my first. I had no morning sickness last time, but I had the other classic symptoms - bloating, fatigue and sore feasts. Haven't had that at all this time. I have had bad breakouts and headaches both times, though.

Last time, I was starting to show by this point (probably not noticeable to most people, though). This time, I haven't gained any weight, and im not showing either...but I'm also 20lbs heavier than last time, so I'm sure that's why.

TheTamedShrew · March 2016

I guess I'm one of the few that feels like this pregnancy is EXACTLY the same as my first. I'm having another girl so maybe that could be why. The MS started and ended at the same time. I have the same cravings/aversions. I'm gaining weight the same rate. I even have the same tiny red dots all over my arms and chest called spider angiomas. I kept expecting things to be different, but so far it's all deja vu.

mhilpisch10 · March 2016

beachmama14 said:

This is my second, and couldn't be any more different than my first. With my first I had basically no symptoms until the third tri, gained tons of weight from the start, and was never sick. This time I have been so so sick since week 6 and miserably tired. I haven't gained weight and have just managed to stop losing. Im wondering if my symptoms are being made worse because I am still breastfeeding. I feel so worn down. I think I might try to stop, but idk if I have the energy to deal with the weaning process

I decided to wean my 10 mo old a few weeks ago. Emotionally I feel some guilt for stopping and wish I could still whip out my boob when he's upset or hungry. But physically with the pregnancy I'm glad I did it. I was under weight and drained physically and emotionally. Overall I'm glad I weaned but it is a hard decision to make. Ultimately, I started to feel like it wasn't fair to the baby in my belly and I had to be grateful for the 10 full months of breast milk my son was able to get.

Ampip2270 · March 2016

Same here. We just weaned my 19 month old. He was still nursing over nights and it was becoming very tiresome to me. I also experienced nursing aversions which were extremely intense and I didn't feel it was fair to put myself through that. We had 18 strong months and I enjoyed every minute of it. As soon as we weaned (took about 1.5 weeks) he was STTN and eats much better at meal time too. It was hard on me and him, but it's been 20 days since he nursed last and he hasn't asked in about 14 days. You can do it if you need to mamas! But if not, that's on too!

Cameron1113 · March 2016

I'm having a completely different pregnancy then with my DS and it sucks. With DS I was a little bit tired right in the beginning but other then that I felt fantastic the entire time (minus that last month... That's just a hard hard month). This time I feel terrible. I haven't thrown up, but I feel like I have extreme carsickness 90% of the day and I haven't been awake pass 9pm since December. I broken down to DH because I had a moment of fear that I would never feel normal again. I keep saying I hope this baby is a girl to help explain the difference, but I really I know every pregnancy is a different experience. Honestly, for all of those who feel worst and have toddlers at home, I bet having those demanding high energy mini humans around plays a big role... It can't be that we're older

owlcup · March 2016

This is my fourth pregnancy (well, 5th but one was a miscarriage really early) but so far I've felt the same as my previous two. Morning sickness until about week 10-11 and then just lots of bloating and not really "feeling pregnant." My first, I'm not sure because I was in a really different situation, no other kids, I was working, etc. But my last two were a boy and a girl and those pregnancies were both "by the book" to say.

LeahKnits · March 2016

beachmama14 said:

This is my second, and couldn't be any more different than my first. With my first I had basically no symptoms until the third tri, gained tons of weight from the start, and was never sick. This time I have been so so sick since week 6 and miserably tired. I haven't gained weight and have just managed to stop losing. Im wondering if my symptoms are being made worse because I am still breastfeeding. I feel so worn down. I think I might try to stop, but idk if I have the energy to deal with the weaning process

I quit breastfeeding my baby a few weeks after finding out I am pregnant. I talked to the pediatrician first and he advised that I not worry about weaning. Just stop and give her a sippy cup with formula. If your baby is over a year you can just give her whole milk instead. There was only a day or two of confusion and interrupted sleep. So the weaning process might not be as bad as you are thinking.

beachmama14 · March 2016

@LeahKnits @Ampip2270 @mhilpisch10 thanks for the advice ladies! My girl is 15 months old so I know she can go without and just rely on sippy cups... I just feel bad making her upset because she uses it as such a calming mechanism. My doc has said its fine either way.. But I'm just wondering if my symptoms are worse because of it. Do you think at her age it's better to cut one feeding out every few days or just stop cold turkey? She nurses 3-4 times during the day and once at night.

schuberta · March 2016

This pregnancy has been SO much different than my first! I had zero morning sickness/nausea with my son, and I am 16 weeks and still have random bouts of nausea. Haven't thrown up for about a week (although typing that means I will probably throw up tonight or tomorrow, lol). My chest didn't change at all with my first pregnancy, and with this one I am already outgrowing my bras. I'm having way more indigestion/bloating, too. My skin is worse, though it's still not too bad. I never had any real cravings or aversions with my son, but this pregnancy I have had plenty of both. I didn't gain any weight until around mid-second trimester with my son, probably because I never had the bottomless-pit hunger, and I started showing around 20 weeks. With this one I have been showing for a while now and I am already gaining a lot of weight because my hunger is out of control! On the positive side, I had a lot of joint pain with my son that I don't have this time... that's literally the only thing that's better, haha... but I'd rather have the joint pain than the morning sickness!

LeahKnits · March 2016

I think it'd be better for YOU to quit cold turkey. Kids are resilient. She will adapt to a cup very quickly. You can still rock her and look at a book or something for comfort. Or just snuggle her in with her favorite blanket and sing.
Breastfeeding while pregnant was very uncomfortable for me, and I felt better after quitting.

mhilpisch10 · March 2016

beachmama14 said:

@LeahKnits @Ampip2270 @mhilpisch10 thanks for the advice ladies! My girl is 15 months old so I know she can go without and just rely on sippy cups... I just feel bad making her upset because she uses it as such a calming mechanism. My doc has said its fine either way.. But I'm just wondering if my symptoms are worse because of it. Do you think at her age it's better to cut one feeding out every few days or just stop cold turkey? She nurses 3-4 times during the day and once at night.

I did a week or so of only nursing in the morning and night and then mixed some formula bottles with frozen breast milk. Then quit cold turkey. It was hard when I was so engorged to not nurse!! But once I committed I didn't want to start over again.

sunshinern96 · March 2016

@RedMar yeah I am not so sure about the surrogacy route anymore! We were thinking of having 3 kids but this pregnancy has been so hard that part of me is afraid to get pregnant again. But I still really would like the 3rd child and DH is starting to lean that way too if I decide I can handle another pregnancy. So I might just cross my fingers that the next pregnancy isn't so bad and go for it...eek! As for surrogacy, I am still open to it if any of DH's brother's wives ever needed that type of help or if any very close friends needed help. I just think it is a wonderful gift to give someone. But I have to actually make it through this current rough pregnancy first before we make any decisions for the future!!

PSUBecky23 · March 2016

Last pregnancy, team pink, morning sickness galore. This pregnancy, team green, no ms and tons of exhaustion. No other symptoms with either pregnancy. Late to show with both as well.

Everly18 · March 2016

This is my second pregnancy and is quite different than my first. With my daughter I had no morning sickness, gained alot of weight (but I was also smaller back then too, didn't loose all baby weight before conceiving number 2) and had a tonne of acne! This time I gave morning sickness, food a versions to just about everything that isnt fruit or a carb, no acne, and very tired. We don't know what we're having yet but everyone seems to think it will be a boy, I'm 14 weeks and 2 days now.

audi681 · March 2016

Second pregnancy, both boys, but this one is different. I was SO tired this time around... Like incapacitated tired. Also more queasy this time. And I'm showing! 14 weeks and totally showing. This time last pregnancy I was still in skinny jeans... Ha!

drmh22 · March 2016

Second pregnancy, first was a girl and we don't know what this one is yet. They are very different. The first time, I felt sick only at night, and it was super mild. I also had sore boobs, but that was about it. This time I've felt a lot sicker, have serious food aversions, nipples hurt like crazy (from breastfeeding?), and I'm so exhausted.

Ampip2270 · March 2016

@beachmama14 I stopped cold turkey, after doing 3-4 sessions a day still. On his last day nursing I enjoyed each session, took extra time to nurse, and I made sure to talk to him about it. "No more boobie after today" and "last time bubba" & afterwards i would tell him "all gone or empty" and since we sign with him show him the sign language for "all done" not sure how much he understood but he took it much much easier than I thought he would! I was pleasantly surprised with how easy it was for him. We understand our feelings a bit more so I think it's harder for us.

SuperFudge00 · March 2016

Like sh!t. Sex still unknown.

marialevinson · March 2016

This is my second pregnancy and it's been so similar to my first. We find out in a week what number two is. I'm interested to see if it'll be a boy again.

RedMar · March 2016

Aside from feeling different, is anyone being treated different from the first pregnancy? DH has been wonderful, but it's other relatives and friends that are not as "excited" and don't inquire as much about this pregnancy. Makes me kinda sad that the first-time mom glory is gone

, but hopefully once I start showing they'll get more into it and it'll feel more real!

hey_clever_girl · March 2016

RedMar said:

Aside from feeling different, is anyone being treated different from the first pregnancy? DH has been wonderful, but it's other relatives and friends that are not as "excited" and don't inquire as much about this pregnancy. Makes me kinda sad that the first-time mom glory is gone , but hopefully once I start showing they'll get more into it and it'll feel more real!

My husband is about the same, if not a bit better. I've been way more tired this time around and he's been great picking up the housework/older daughter care. My in-laws are just as psyched, because they are insane and my MIL is obsessed with babies (she calls this one "her baby"). It's been 7 years since my last pregnancy, so I think people around me are pretty excited since it's been so long for us (and we tried for 2 years).

camichael84 · March 2016

RedMar said:

Aside from feeling different, is anyone being treated different from the first pregnancy? DH has been wonderful, but it's other relatives and friends that are not as "excited" and don't inquire as much about this pregnancy. Makes me kinda sad that the first-time mom glory is gone , but hopefully once I start showing they'll get more into it and it'll feel more real!

My family is treating me about the same as they did the first time. But, aside from my mom, nobody was overly intrusive about my pregnancy. If anything, I'm sharing less this time. With DD, I was all about calling my mom and grandma after every single appt and then sharing with MIL asap. This time I bring it up when they ask, which sometimes can be a couple weeks later.

danielle1290 · March 2016

For the most part I feel about the same as I did with my first. The only differences are that I had nausea during the entire first trimester this time and I maybe had a couple days of it with DS. Also, my boobs were incredibly sore with DS and they haven't been sore at all this time around, I'm not sure if it has to do with the fact that I had just stopped BF when I got pregnant or what the reasoning is.

ssimon621 · March 2016

This pregnancy feels nearly identical to my first pregnancy except my aches and pains have started earlier and are more intense.

We found out Saturday that this is another little girl which may explain the similarities.

MammaJams · April 2016

This pregnancy has been completely different. Morning sickness started earlier, and has lasted longer, but my skin is better and I haven't had the mood swings I did with my first. I'm also craving completely different foods. I was convinced it was a boy this time, but nope, another girl!

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