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A dismissive pediatrician?

Knottie65841689Knottie65841689 member
in December 2015 Moms
On thursday I noticed white dots in LOs tongue and a small one on her lip. I of course attempted to whipe them down with a wet washcloth and they didn't come off, so it had to be thrush.

 I decided to take her to her ped to get a prescription before it got out of hand. I showed him the dots and asked if thought it was thrush? He proceded to say normally thrush would cause way more white areas (seemingly hers was on the early stages when the appointment happened) and that she was fine... He then said he could give me a prescription for thrush if I wanted. I said I guess not if you think she is fine. 

After I left I took another look at her mouth and found yet another white patch under her lip in front of her gums. So I decided evidently this is not milk residue, and yeah I am not a doctor. But it looks very much like thrush. I called back and let them know I disagreed with his opinion and I would be needing that prescription. 

I guess my question is if he said she was fine, why offer the prescription? He obviously was dismissing what I said or just wanted to get out of that appointment too fast. Needles to say I am changing doctors... But I get upset when I thinm about his advice. I mean today she had almost half of her tongue covered in that white shit. If I hadnt asked for the stupid prescription I would have had tl take her back in.

>.< sorry for the rant.

Does your ped ever dismiss you? Or maybe doesnt answer your questions?
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Re: A dismissive pediatrician?

  • oregonmommy-2oregonmommy-2 member
    No but my OB Doctor is the same way and I hated every appointment with him because he just brushed everything off.. It drove me nuts!!! But I would change dr to if I were you.. Especially when it comes to the baby!! My pediatrician is so good with my million first time mom questions! 
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  • ammnam14ammnam14 member
    Mothers intuitions are usually spot on. I'm glad you're changing doctors! You can't be lenient when it comes to babies health.

    I'm I'm the process of switching insurance and doctors for DD so we'll see how our new pedi is. Her last pedi was amazing and made us feel comfortable about everything. My OB brushed everything off though and I always felt like she wasn't listening. Safe to say I switched OBs during late 3rd tri.
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  • abteambabteamb member
    I disagreed with my pedi once. He wanted me to give DD pedialyte and stop BF bc her poop looked like diarreah. However, she wasn't dehydrated bc she had enough wet and dirty diapers. I used my mommy intuition and continued to BF and didn't give her pedialyte. I told the nurse the next day on the phone and she said I did the right thing by going with my instincts. Point is, go with your gut. There could've been a bunch of reasons for his answer. If it bothers you, I would call the office and explain the situation. Maybe he has an explanation as to why he acted that way. If not, just change. Remember, you're not going to agree with every doctor. Just do what's best for your LO, whatever that might be. Good luck. Hope your baby feels better soon.
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  • mrussellomrussello member
    When my DDs first pedi left her practice, the head dr came back to fill in.  She was pushy and very dismissive. I had to call her back into the room because she was so rushed to see another patient, she didn't let me finish. When she huffed, like I wasted her time, I asked for our records. She didn't even apologize. 

    Sometimes Drs make mistakes but it's really the way you were treated about that makes a difference. 
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  • BrookeBrown2015BrookeBrown2015 member
    I definitely agree that that's super weird that your pediatrician said lo was fine but offered go give you a prescription at the same time. That seriously makes no sense. And yeah, I don't like my pediatrician either and I feel like he is dismissive. That is the perfect word for it. Although sometimes I am not totally sure because his accent is hard to understand. I have thought about switching but idk... It could be worse. It's easy to get an appointment and my wait times are always really short. And I like the front desk ladies.
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  • taysuntaysun member
    It's possible your doctor offered the prescription because it wouldn't do any harm should you not have really needed it and figured if you were being pushy you might as well have it anyway? But if you aren't comfortable, switch. It's important you trust you child's Doctor. 
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  • Knottie65841689Knottie65841689 member
    I would seriously hope a doctor doesnt give out prescriptions just because the parent is pushy, thats wrong >.<' 

    I know in my case he came out right and offered it, no pushiness needed. Guess he just doesn't have the interest to answer questions towards the end of the day *__*


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  • cdv2015cdv2015 member
    edited March 2016
    My middle daughter had open heart surgery when she was 13 days old. She was also little due to Turner Syndrome. She came home on a feeding tube that we, as parents, had to maintain. This child would projectile vomit after EACH feeding and would not gain weight. I told her ped, and he said something like "you're going to have to get used to smelling like spitup. That's what babies do for the firat year." I argued and told him that no one in my family has ever been able to tolerate regular formula. We were all on soy or alimentum. In order for insurance to cover some of the formula cost, I had to have a prescription. Nope... just sent us home. 4 days later at a weight check, he thought she was having heart issues, so he sent us directly to the cardiologist. The cardiologist admitted her into the hospital. Turns out, her heart was fine. She was malnourished. They put her on Zantac and changed her formula to Alimentum. She had no problem after that, and started putting on a little weight. Ever since then, her pediatrician listens to me and values my opinion. He doesn't just pass off what I try to tell him, because he knows mama is normally right.
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  • dmendo01dmendo01 member
    Knottie65841689 said:
    I would seriously hope a doctor doesnt give out prescriptions just because the parent is pushy, thats wrong >.<' 

    I know in my case he came out right and offered it, no pushiness needed. Guess he just doesn't have the interest to answer questions towards the end of the day *__*


    Happens all the time. I think especially in the case of antibiotics. Parents get insistent that their child needs one and the provider gives it to them (against their better judgment) bc of this even though a huge percentage of URIs in children are viral. I agree with @taysun In the fact that it was most likely offered bc it won't hurt the child, just to keep momma happy...(not that it shouldn't have been given in the first place though) 
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