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Back to work...

oregonmommy-2oregonmommy-2 member
in December 2015 Moms
Who all has had to go back to work? how long have you been back? how are you feeling about the transition? 

I started back on Monday. I work 4 10's and my schedule is Monday,Tuesday,Thursday,Friday. So far I hate it. I want to be home with my baby it is so hard to leave him. On the other hand we worked it out so he stays home with my husband and I am very thankful for that. But between my shift and drive time 12 hours away from him kills me!! 

Please tell me this feeling gets better.. I've cried 3 times today just thinking that I have to go to work tomorrow.. 
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  • breezypipbreezypip member
    This is my second week back, 5 days/week and am gone 9 hours. She's at daycare 4 days and with DH one day... And I'm miserable.

    My heart aches everyday and I feel like I shouldn't be leaving her yet. And being EBF makes it logistically more stressful being away. I have never wanted to be a SAHM but I find myself feeling like that's what I'm supposed to be doing. Everyone tells me it gets easier and I'm hoping they're right.
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  • christiel14christiel14 member
    It has gotten easier for me at least. I work three shifts a week and thankfully the husband is able to be home to care for little one when I'm gone. The first week of work was so tough and I cried so much. Now I'm on week four of being away and it's not so bad. I would still give anything to be a SAHM but at least I can make it through the days without crying. 
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  • NycbkNycbk member
    I start back next Monday (21st) and I am dreading it. DH will stay home with her for 2 days and she will go to childcare the other 3 days. Thankfully I will be able to be home by 2 so we have  good amount of the day, but I am still really not looking forward to leaving her for 6 hours a day. DH said we could try to work it so I stay home with her, but I had promised my school I would come back and the parents were so over generous before I left and I would feel bad only teaching their children for 3 months. My boss said to just see how it goes but if I find I need more time I can take it (unpaid of course). Ughhh Wish we lived somewhere that gave us more time off. Good luck ladies. xo
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  • heatherkennedy021heatherkennedy021 member
    I went back to work the beginning February. I work 3 long days 12-13 hours so I don't see my LO when she is awake on those days because I leave so early and she is sleeping by the time I get home. It stinks and I want to be home with her so bad everyday but I know she is being taken care of and loved on and that I'm working to provide the best life we can for her which makes it much easier. And of course on my days off we spend lots of time snuggling and cuddling! Hang in there mommies it does get easier! 
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  • thatgirlree24thatgirlree24 member
    I posted a thread a couple weeks ago that talks about going back to work anxiety, the transition and about pumping while away


    https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12661980/for-those-who-went-back-to-work
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  • butterfly1256butterfly1256 member

    The love of a mom is so very strong.  Guilt and parenting goes hand in hand.  I am a mom of 4 and worked full or part-time during the formative years.  Yes, it gets better.  However, because I always wanted to be the best mom to such special little gifts in our life it was never easy.   Life has many directions in which each person is pulled.  Children add a huge pull.  Choices in life come with pros and cons.  Really taking time to weigh the pros and cons helps a person come to terms with whatever decision is made.  I know moms who say they are board at home.  If you need to work for financial reasons, would listing the benefits of why you work on a paper to be placed in your bathroom, on a door and where ever else to remind you of why you work and the blessings this provide to the family as a whole help?  Discuss with your husband what your goals for your child and future are and see what other options might be present for now or in the future.  My heart goes out to you as you really assess the emotions you are experiencing……..Praying for blessings on your family. 

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  • groovylocksgroovylocks member
    edited March 2016
    My first day back was March 3rd. Exactly 12 weeks after Olive was born. 

    I'm from canada originally. In canada, we get at least a year. So this 12 weeks nonsense really pissed me off. Moreso because apparently that's "good" in the USA. SMH.. 

    But i wanted to go back. At the same time. And wanting to go back made me feel guilty on top of feeling cheated. 

    I blamed my husband who QUIT his career so he could stay home with Olive. My husband, who insisted on us moving to the USA, then promptly snaked my year's mat leave out from under me. 

    I went back to work scared, lonely, angry and resentful. 

    That first night, I came home from work and immediately wanted to breastfeed. My husband put Olive on the bed next to me. She was asleep. She opened her eyes as she was laid down and noticed i was back and just stared at me. We both just stared at each other for.. must have been a good 20 seconds. And suddenly she began to cry. And i immediately put her to my breast and she breathed this long, relieved sigh and put her little arm around me. 

    And it was, without a doubt, the single best moment of my life.

    I would have never had that moment if i had not gone back to work. 

    Things are going well. I enjoy being at work. I have career goals that I am anxious to work on and have the opportunity to do so now. I enjoy the routine of getting ready, leaving the house, getting coffee, driving on the freeway and getting to my desk. We have a great pump station with an easy chair, a sink, a curtain and locks on the door. I am tickled about having adult conversations again. One of my coworkers constantly tells me I'm looking great pp because he knows I don't agree. And he's my friend. And we flirt and it's fun. And best of all, Olive is welcome to visit and has visited several times. 

    I'd rather be home. But it's not too bad. You make the best of it. And if you truly do this, yeah.. it's not too bad at all. And seeing that tiny face at the end of the day makes you love that baby more than you could possibly imagine. And that's pretty cool. 
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  • KRH6829KRH6829 member
    I am going back to work on Monday, but this time is different than the last. DS is two and a half and he was never sick, and I really didn't have any trouble sending him to daycare at three months.  DD has been so different.  She was hospitalized with RSV and has still not gotten back to herself. Ever since her hospitalization, she had had terrible reflux and trouble pooping. She is being seen by her pediatrician for both and is taking a prescription for reflux and milk of magnesia for pooping. I  am so worried to send her to daycare on monday. I know that she is going to an infant room in a great Montessori school, but I am just so scared. I did not feel this way with my son, so I hope that it goes away quickly with my daughter. 

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  • pupsicle23pupsicle23 member
    edited March 2016
    @KRH6829 Good luck.  I'm sorry she's been so sick.  

    DD was a great sleeper and mostly slept through the night.  Now that I'm working again,  she has a terrible time  falling asleep, and she wakes up around 3:00. I'm not sure if the change in routine threw her off, if she's napping less, or if she just misses the boob. But I hope she figures it out!
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