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Thoughts??

Court11152325Court11152325 member
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I'm currently at a conference. My mom came with me to help watch DD. Tomorrow I have a panel from 4-5:45 and a reception from 7-8. There's also a dinner from 7:45-9:45/10 that I would like to go to, but isn't really a part of the conference. It's mostly just a get together of everyone who went to my phd granting school. 

I can't decide if I should go to all of the evening events (I'm definitely going to the reception) and leave my mom to get baby to bed by herself. DD nurses to sleep usually, so I don't know if a bottle would cut it. I will come back to the room from 6-7, so I could nurse her and bathe her, but I just can't decide what to do about the dinner.

Would you go and have your caretaker get baby down? Is she too young for that still (she's 12 weeks)?
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  • preggoandglowingpreggoandglowing member
    Assuming your DD takes bottles, I would go to the dinner. If your mom has trouble putting her down and you get back around 10pm that isn't super late so you can put her down then. 
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  • kdoak2015kdoak2015 member
    Give it all a try, are you close enough that if your mom messages you, you can come running?
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  • ljhgreyljhgrey member
    We were away overnight and left DD for the first time this weekend, at 11.5 weeks. She's EBF but does well at night, once she's down she's asleep for a good stretch by 8 pm or so. My mom and sister got her to sleep without issues with the bottle while I was gone. She falls asleep for me easily most nights, how does your LO normally do at bedtime? If she's easy going I'd definitely let your mom give it a try and you can go back to the room if needed! 
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  • ammnam14ammnam14 member
    Zoe has slept over MILs house quite a few times in her short life. She figured it out. I mean, your mom raised you (and siblings if you have any) so I bet she knows how to soothe your LO. The first time my mom watched DD during the night I had a detailed plan for her for bedtime. She rolled her eyes at me and said she raised 5 kids. Lol go have fun.
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  • Court11152325Court11152325 member
    kdoak2015 said:
    Give it all a try, are you close enough that if your mom messages you, you can come running?
    It's not super close, but I could at least leave if the restaurant and get to her in 20 minutes or so.
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  • Court11152325Court11152325 member
    Thanks for your replies. She does take a bottle and my mom does want me to go to the dinner. I guess some of it is that I feel weird not getting her to bed or being there to do her exact routine. 

    I I was so set on not going, but I'm going to have to seriously reconsider! I think some of me also feels guilty about my mom being stuck in the hotel room while I run around.
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  • dec15mumdec15mum member
    I went on a night out with some work friends and left DS with my partner, he's breastfed and will take a bottle. It was hard parting but I don't regret going, it was good to be me again and not mothering! You need you time, just keep your phone on and you'll be fine- go have fun you deserve it 
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  • abteambabteamb member
    I would go if I were you. Your mom is set up with everything she needs for baby. Worse case scenario, you leave early and go back to hotel. Have fun! And congrats on getting your PhD!
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  • spottedgingerspottedginger member
    You should go. Your mom can make it work, and if not, you can go back. At least try!
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  • Gingermom15Gingermom15 member
    Go out and have fun! Your mom is experienced and can handle it. If not, you could be there in 20. Babies often surprise us with their ability to adapt to their surroundings and she might just do perfect. You deserve a break so take advantage. 
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  • NellieHarringtonCarterNellieHarringtonCarter member
    Go and do it. I had to leave my DD for two days with my mom for work, and while I was really nervous about it, since she had never been away from me overnight, it actually worked out really well, and put her on a better schedule. I think you deserve a night out!
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  • taysuntaysun member
    It's important to remember, your mother knew what she was signing up for when she agreed to go with you. Don't feel bad that she's stuck in a hotel room. Try to think of it as bonding time with her grandchild and not a chore. 
    My mum babysits 2-3 nights a week and has to put DD to bed. I usually nurse to sleep but my mother manages just fine with whatever she does, I don't ask too much because I know it's never going to be what I would do exactly but it works for her. 
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  • Knottie1456179799Knottie1456179799 member
    preggoandglowing said:
    Assuming your DD takes bottles, I would go to the dinner. If your mom has trouble putting her down and you get back around 10pm that isn't super late so you can put her down then. 
    Exactly.

      My husband needs to put DD down without me when I have events at work, and she usually nurses to sleep.  (She's 15 weeks.)  10pm isn't as late as it seems. :smile: 
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  • spottedgingerspottedginger member
    Let us know how it goes!!! I hope you have a fabulous time. 
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  • Court11152325Court11152325 member
    Thanks @spottedginger - I actually skipped the dinner to hang out longer with some friends from the reception. The reception was for a conference for women that I attended and all of its alumna, so it was great to connect with women from the year I went and other years!
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