Spring Ahead!

BornReady · March 2016

How is everyone doing with Spring approaching? Feeling more hopeful TTC? Looking forward to any Spring activities like gardening, road races, etc? Having a hard time with an approaching due date or other milestone?

On my end, Spring always makes me feel more alive and hopeful. While we didn't have too bad of a winter here in the North East, it's still nice to see things turning green again and coming back to life. I don't do a big garden, but I do plant lots of bulbs in the fall that give me something to look forward to in the spring, even if several came up way too early this year due to mild temps. I also love that Spring means warm temps for playing outside and that my dog can go on all the public beaches before summer arrives and he's not allowed until Fall again.

As far as TTC I am feeling hopeful that something will happen, but who knows. I've made an appt. with an RE as I am approaching the one year and even though I have had a loss during that time the intake person still said I should come in to at least discuss what's going on and make a plan. So that feels good, my OB told me the clock starts over again and I just felt like that was crazy. I struggle with my upcoming due date (early June) as it's right around DS's birthday and was my Mom's birthday. I'm doing my best to stay in the moment and not live in the future or the past as much as possible.

So ladies, what's Spring all about for you?

Spartanrd4 · March 2016

I love gardening...its the only thing I'm looking forward to this spring and something that will keep me distracted. Mostly flowers but DH planted a raspberry and blueberry bush last year so maybe we will have some berries this year.

Waiting on first AF....hope it comes next month, then we can start trying and maybe get a BFP in May. Hopeful thinking! My main goals is to get KU by my birthday which is in October and when my EDD was. I was due 17 days before my birthday. My mom was 33 when she had me so I hope I'll be a mom by 33 as well.

mylittleversailles · March 2016

I'm not big on spring in reality, but in theory I see what all the fuss is about.

As a child, my mother's depression and PTSD flashbacks were always the worst in spring, so there's that burden. We don't have a relationship, but I feel that with me still.

As an adult, it's my best friend who passed away's birthday in March (well, tail-end of winter), the anniversary of his death and my birthday - which happens to be the day I took him to the hospital and the day before I found him dead. I was raised a Jehovah's Witness and escaped in the spring; meaning I lost my whole life then. It also means I'm not good with my birthday, not having grown up with one makes me vaguely uncomfortable with the attention it brings never mind anything having to do with grief. I'm fine, I worked very hard to be well, but it's still complicated.

I also don't care for summer, so that's on its way. I don't do well in heat.

We're gardening this year and I'm very much looking forward to surrounding ourselves with plants. The community farmers' markets open and I love the produce that comes in season throughout spring, like wild asparagus and fiddleheads. We live in walking distance from the Toronto beaches and they're quite nice, so we'll make it down there on cooler days and picnic, which means lots of chances for photographs and plenty of exercise and fresh air. I think my husband and I will start doing yoga on the deck, in the morning sunshine, too.

TTC is weighing me down, and I feel more pressure now that the weather is warmer and everything is blooming (except me in all likelihood) but that comes in waves and DH and I will ride it out together as best we can.

silentP · March 2016

@BornReady I hope your RE appointment goes well and you feel there is a sense of direction you'll be heading in.

@spartanrd4 I hope your berry bushes are fruitful. That would be yummy to have those berries at your disposal!

@reneeannemm I am sorry spring doesn't hold the best memories for you. Understandable that it isn't your favorite. I hope some good and uplifting things happen for you, though.

As for me, I am all about the sunshine and playing loud music lately. It's quite therapeutic! The spring makes me feel hopeful pretty much always. The colorful blooms that are beginning to blossom definitely help. And I am feeling optimistic about getting pregnant again soon. But I am also trying to focus on reasons it's okay to not be pregnant when it doesn't happen.

dpjennifer · March 2016

@BornReady Good luck with the RE appointment. I also am struggling with my upcoming due date in early June, which is also my birthday.

@reneeannem Sorry that spring is so rough for you. Sounds like a lot to remember. Sorry about your best friend. That's really rough.
I can totally relate with everything seemingly blooming around me except me. I wish that making and keeping a baby were as easy for us as planting seeds and making plants and vegetables is for me. I'm also trying to be positive and hopeful, but some days are rougher than others.

I'm excited about all the daffodils in my yard, and on my commute home from work, popping up. I love to seem them bloom in the spring. I've started my sweet potato slips and am hoping to start my tomatoes, and some other things from seed indoors soon.
I need to get my garden prepped so it will be ready to plant in in a month or so. Of course, I usually have it cleared out better by now, but with the tiredness of being KU followed by MC in the fall it just didn't get done. I just need a few nice, non-rainy days to do it.

MWoodside · March 2016

I am hopeful spring will bring new life for my family and all of yours as well.

Daylight savings time does so much for me mentally b/c before that for many months I leave for work in the dark and am not heading home until it's dark again so it's just kind of depressing to not have exposure to sunlight 4 days/wk unless I leave the office for a brief lunch.

We do a decent size garden so that is definitely something I look forward to very much. I feel alive with my hands in the dirt and gardening is so satisfying to me in many ways.

I have 2 girls so we spend a lot more time outside now that the weather has broken here (we are in Michigan) and that is also refreshing.

Overall, I am determined to enjoy spring whether it brings a new pregnancy or not. My due date for this latest loss passed at the end of February so I feel relieved now that the date is behind us. I thought it would make me more sad to have it pass and not be pregnant, but that hasn't been the case. It actually feels like a weight off my shoulders this time around, surprisingly.

penelope4612 · March 2016

I'm with @MWoodside - daylight savings is really helpful. I hate leaving work in the dark.

I also live live in the Northeast and spring and fall are my favorite seasons. The weather is pleasant and not unbearably hot or cold. It's a great time to get outside and be active, and I could really use a little motivation right now. My birthday is in April and DH in June so that's fun (although is also a reminder that I'm getting older and not pregnant yet).

My EDD was in May and I really only have this cycle and next cycle to be pregnant before then. I think I'm coming to terms with that l but we'll see how it goes.

beff12 · March 2016

*DD mentioned

I love spring. Like @BornReady said, it makes me think of new life and it's so refreshing. DD loves being outside (although she's obsessed with walking up the huuuuge steep hill to our landlords' house - not so sure about that one

) and it's nice to be able to easily keep her happy.

This spring will be hard. My due date was May 29. I've mentioned this before, SIL is due a couple days after and my cousin is due at the same exact time. We were thrilled to all be due within the same week. I'm trying so so hard to be excited for them but it's getting more difficult. DH did get that week off, so I think we'll try to take a vacation and do our best to live in la la land that week.

roper2617 · March 2016

Today I saw a spider crawling it's nasty legs all over my vanity! That's where I keep all of my makeup and it's off limits to bugs, how dare he! For real though guys I do not do well with spiders (I gaged to the point of vomiting when I saw it). At this point I'm ready for some extremely well below freezing temperatures again.

Yet somehow, despite my borderline phobia of spiders, I really enjoy gardening. And spending time outdoors, go figure. I still have about a foot of snow in my yard, but it's melting pretty quickly! We've lost about half of it since the weekend.

I expect next month to be hard. My cousin is due mid April and we were supposed to be 6 weeks apart (my EDD being June 3). I have been distant with her recently because it's sometimes just so hard to deal with.

@beff12 I understand your struggle to be happy for them, it's so difficult sometimes. I hope that you are able to take some extra time to take care of yourself in the coming months.

@reneeannemm Spring sounds like a very heavy time of your for you, I can only imagine the struggle. Sending creepy Internet stranger hugs.
Morning sunshine deck yoga sounds like quite the relaxing experience to look forward to.

BornReady · March 2016

@roper2617 @beff12 and @dpjennifer Looks like we have a few of us in the same boat with early June/May EDDs coming up. Such a tough time.

@reneeannemm Sorry spring brings up so much stuff for you. It's amazing how much our brains associate with particular seasons, the smells, the temperatures, clothes etc. So much room to tip our brains off to certain memories. I love your ideas for coping with DH, you sound like great partners to one another... And really morning yoga on the deck just sounds amazing.

@penelop4612 and @MWoodside I hear you on Daylight savings! I used to work in a basement office at a University. I would literally arrive in darkness and leave in darkness without ever having seen daylight some days. Not good for my brain.

@silentP Yes, how could I forget loud music... For me it's driving with my music and the windows down when the weather warms up.

@Spartanrd4 Enjoy your blueberry and raspberry bushes! My parents have both on their property and the raspberries produce like crazy. We can pick them for weeks. The blueberry ones are not nearly as plentiful, but still such a great addition to the yard.

catiecatp · March 2016

@bornready - basement of a university - we could be twins! Grad school was in the basement of an old campus building and I'd miss whole weather systems because Calgary has rapid changes in weather. There were times I'd go and it was sunny, I'd leave and it was sunny with wetness on the ground - I'd think "rain?" but it could easily also have been snow...

Spring isn't special or unspecial for me. My childhood was northern Ontario - we'd joke that it went winter-mud-summer-mud... then we moved to Kelowna (one of the warmer spots in Canada - and wonderful wine and a nice lake - a great place to spend US dollars with the current exchange rate) and spring and fall were distinct seasons and it was lovely. Here in Calgary - well, we just got a sprinkling of snow again...

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