December 2015 Moms

Funeral

Hey ladies...need some help. 

My grandmother is 90 years old and not doing so well. She had a stroke 2 weeks ago and since then has lost the will to live. My mother has said that i pretty much won't have another opportunity to see her alive even though I'm going to visit Easter Monday. I live in maryland and my family lives in NY. I am trying to think proactively about any funeral and services we might need to attend. I have looked through LO closet, but everything is bright colors. How do you dress a 3 month old for a funeral? If I could leave her with someone I absolutely would, but my whole family would be attending. Thoughts? 

Thanks! 

Re: Funeral

  • Mizuiro007Mizuiro007 member
    edited March 2016
    I've actually been in a similar situation lately. Grandmother, same age, and currently they're saying anywhere up to 30 days is expected. My dad and uncle have been making funeral arrangements to be ready but honestly, I hadn't thought about clothes yet.

    I do remember a few years ago at hubby's grandmother's funeral there was someone in the family that had a newborn and just put her in a white dress. It was the same time of year. The funeral was Easter day that year so my guess is it was likely an Easter dress.

    ETA I found this on carter's website
    https://www.carters.com/carters-baby-girl-dresses/VC_120G013.html?cgid=carters-baby-girl-dresses&dwvar_VC__120G013_size=12M&dwvar_VC__120G013_color=Navy#navID=header&start=40&cgid=carters-baby-girl-dresses
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  • I brought DS to a funeral in a onesie that had a printed bow tie on it. Cute but not overdone. Like PP said, babies brighten moods no matter what they wear. Formal (ish) clothes are a nice sentiment, but anything will work. 
  • I dressed DS in a beautiful off white sweater romper from the Gap I recieved as a gift from the wife of the husband who's memorial I was attending. A baby always brings smiles even when there's sadness around, so I think anything she wears will be fine. 
  • I put my son in a navy blue onesie and pants at a memorial I went to last weekend. I don't really think it matters what babies wear. 
  • I brought DD to my uncles funeral when she was a month old. She wore pastels and we were dressed appropriately. No one cared and it was the first time anyone on that side of the family got to see her. The only time my aunt looked happy was seeing DD and when I offered to let her hold DD she was overjoyed. 

  • I agree with everyone that she could wear anything.  If you want a dark outfit, though,  you could always check out Primary. They have knit dresses that come in solid,  darker colors.
  • We brought our twins to a funeral and just made shirt their onesies didn't have a saying on them. No one batted an eye. With babies, they're just so excited to see them that they don't care what they're in.
    You should also start to think about how you will handle your lo with others who may want to hold her. The funeral we went to was more of a memorial and not as traditional.  We also didn't have to stand in the receiving line. During the luncheon afterwards, the immediate family kind of formed a barrier around the twins so no one could hold them or get too close. They were still fairly young and were preemies so we were concerned with someone getting them sick.
    I know others have just worn their los to avoid a random friend of the family or someone they've never met trying to grab them from someone's arms.

    I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother.
  • I brought my daughter to my Dad's funeral at 2 weeks old in bright purple pj's. I think everyone was so glad to see something happy that it didn't matter what she wore.
  • I brought DD to a wake and put her in a white and black outfit because I had one. Plus I wore her in my moby wrap, which is also black. I don't think it matters though. As others said, everyone was so happy to see a baby and they would have thought bright colors were cute.
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