Surprise MIL at my doorstep

Vkrosa · March 2016

I had just gotten home from my moms house after a long night with LO and I was nursing and my older kids were outside playing then my MIL who lives in New York (I live in AZ) shows up at my doorstep to say hi and see the kids!!!! Um okay. Wth are you doing here? No call no letter no notice she just showed up. She stayed for 5 hours took pics with the kids saw the LO brought gifts and then left. I called H and said your Mother is here. He was just as surprised as me. Lucky he works out of state because they do not get along. She flew into Phoenix drove 2 hrs to my house stayed for 5 hours left and is flying back tomorrow. I am still confused about what happened. I mean I was nice and invited her in but H hasn't spoken to her in years. We send letters and pictures but that is the extent of our relationship. I guess I am still trying to make sense of it all. I mean what if we weren't here? We were going to go to CA and visit H since the kids are on Spring break but decided to stay home I mean WTH who just shows up. Totally weird.

VitaLuna · March 2016

Whaaa?? That's super odd, and random. I mean, it would be one thing if she lived close and dropped in, but to fly half way across the country for a few hours? So strange.

srecupido · March 2016

That is insane. Way to go you for keeping it together.

ARogers26 · March 2016

Kinda creepy. Like you said.. How did she know you would be home?

g8trkim · March 2016

So weird! Kind of sweet in an odd way.

Vkrosa · March 2016

Thank you for helping me feel that I am not crazy. It was a very uncomfortable visit I'm still trying to process it. My H is confused too.

paytonpedro · March 2016

That is weird. Btw, you're so lucky your MIL lives across the country. Lol. Mine lives downstairs from me and yeesh. She likes to just walk in while I'm pumping.... But as others said, that is odd.

mrscammack · March 2016

Good for you for being so calm and welcoming, my MIL only lives 10 minutes away and it drives me insane when she (or anyone else other than my mom) drops by unannounced

MississippiCatfish · March 2016

Is there someone in the family that could have told her you'd be there with the kids, but her son would be away?? Maybe she felt more "comfortable" (that isn't the right word) coming to see the kids if he was away, and knew she'd have to do it sneakily??? Soooo weird!

BabySeaTurtles · March 2016

Very strange. I'm struggling with my biological mother's planned visit in a month so massive kudos to you for being nice and calm. Did she say what the motivation behind her visit was?

Vkrosa · March 2016

She didn't say anything except she wanted to surprise us and also told me that she probably won't see us for awhile. I don't know what to think. Her only family besides my H is in Columbia and she doesn't know anyone out here that has contact with us. I swear even my oldest DD asked what is she doing here? and how long is she going to stay? I'm going to continue to send letters with updates and pictures. I think I should also tell her that it would be better for us if next time she does this please give us notice and we will make sure to be home and will spend more time with her. H is planning to visit us for Easter I think we are going to have to call her together and figure this out.

robinj716 · March 2016

So random of her! I would be scratching my head wondering too what the heck that was all about!

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