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June 2016 Moms
KatAttack101
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so stressed. . .panic attack
KatAttack101
member
So after two years of living in our townhouse apartment we woke up to a 45 day notice of eviction. Im so upset and stressed. I had just finished our nursery and was so proud of it and now we have nowhere to go and honestly no money. Im 7 months pregnant now and im just trying not to upset myself but its practically impossible. I just don't understand why they are doing this. We thought we would be renewing soon not being evicted. We always pay on time and we dnt get complaints really and they wnt give us a reason other than they just decided not to renew. This place sucks. Im guessing that they're pissed about this summer wen the ac went out and it took over a week for them to fix it. I overheated and ended up miscarriying my first child so we wanted money off our rent for the month for the inconvenience(thts putting it mildly) it caused. They refused saying it was a necessity. But now idk wat to do. No money. No place to go. We still need alot of baby essentials. And we are drowning in hospital bills from my miscarriage. Rant over
Re: so stressed. . .panic attack
Now, you have 45 days to get a new place. That's plenty of time. You're obviously paying rent now without concern, you'll find another place too.
DST T4L
Start looking now, you have plenty of time to get out of there and good riddance to horrible landlords. ❤️
After contacting legal aid to determine what your rights are I would absolutely seek out rental assistance programs or low income housing. Many programs will count the baby on the way as a dependent prior to him/her being born. Most section 8 programs do have some form of emergency assistance. Tax credit properties have income restrictions but lower rent and HUD properties provide rent based off your income. Look for any of those to see if you qualify.
I see similar situations everyday and there are people who will do what they can to help you if you seek them out. Best of luck!
Good luck, and like others have said, look into the laws.
I hope your husband steps up and is proactive in helping you solve your problems.
It doesn't sound like you're getting evicted, it sounds they are choosing to not renew your lease. It's different and laws are very different depending on which it is. They're more than within their right to not renew a lease for no given reason but I doubt they're refusing to renew your lease because of something that happened last summer.
You've claimed multiple times that you live paycheck to paycheck and can't afford baby essentials. Why on earth would you spend presumably hard to come by money doing anything for a nursery if you claim you can't afford essentials, I just don't get it. Babies don't care if their room is decorated for them or painted in the appropriate color, they just care about your love and affection.
You say you need "a lot of baby essentials" still. Last time you posted, you got a lot of great questions about what you considered "essential" and I didn't really see you respond to any of them. Quick recap of the physical essentials. Small babies need a place to sleep (a basic packnplay with bassinet insert runs pretty cheap), a car seat if you plan to drive with them (again, these can be pretty inexpensive if you look for good sales), diapers, food (if you breastfeed, cost is basically non-existent) and clothes (there's nothing wrong with simple onesies and a pair of pants, especially for a summer baby. Consignment sales can be aweosme places to get lots of clothes for really cheap). It may not be what you had in your mind for your baby but those are the things they "need", everything else is an extra item that makes life a little more convienant but isn't necessary.
My honest advice, stop feeling sorry for yourself, it won't do you any good to dwell on what's not going well in your life. Remember the positive, you are carrying a healthy baby, and are past the point of fetal viability. Take your security deposit from this place and apply it to a new place that you can afford. Don't waste money decorating a nursery until you've bought the items you actually need and even then, think wisely about how you spend money that could otherwise be spent on paying down your debts. Many hospitals will work with you if you're struggling financially, talk to them and see if you can work out a payment plan for your existing medical bills and the bills that will come with delivering this baby as well. Take things a day at a time it'll all work out if you make smart decisions.
Youve been provided with a lot of feedback on options for accessing resources to help alleviate stress: section 8 housing, hospital resources for decreasing your total bill, and places that will support you in getting actual essentials for the baby. I know some places in my area that will teach you parenting skills and you get packs of diapers for completing the classes. You should definitely be looking in to these resources now rather than when the baby gets here. Again, a counselor could help you identify these resources. And you can get a counselor at no cost to you if A) you are on the medical card B: you go through your local public health department C) you or your husband works for a place that offers EAP services or D) you have met your OOP and deductible for your insurance. Good luck and I hope you get the support you need.
Edited because I said OPP first (you down?) And because when I listed B ) it turns in to a sunglass face
Give support to to get support.
Moving sucks anytime, especially when very pregnant and especially when it's not your choice. I think, however, that people were suggesting you can do this and that it will work out, not judging. I'm sure there are other great places to rent if you get creative and utilize some of the suggestions throughout the thread. GL!
As for what PPs have said, babies don't have to be super expensive if you're smart with you money. Also, it's probably not a good idea to stay on a property whose landlord doesn't care about your unit working properly- might as well move out before LO is born.
Moving is stressful and having a baby is stressful, those two plus extra hormones... I don't blame you for freaking out. Like others have said, big breath, you'll get through this. I'd look at the silver lining of getting the heck out of there.
Best of luck!