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When & how are you telling other children?

jjgypsyjjgypsy member
in October 2016 Moms

This is my 4th & last child.  My oldest is 12, 2nd is 9 & 3rd is 15 months. The 3rd  was very unexpected for our older children so we decided to wait until after our 24 week ultrasound.  That also gave us less time to hear, “Is he here yet?”  They were very surprised & excited.

This time though, I’m wondering if it would be better to tell them sooner.  It would help explain the tiredness, etc. & get them prepared. 

I’m curious to see what others are planning.

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  • greenliagreenlia member
    I think I'll tell my 3.5-year-old after my first u/s next week at 9 weeks. He's going to tell everyone, but I agree it would help for him to know why I feel sick and tired sometimes.
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  • alysie89alysie89 member
    **trigger warning. Miscarriage  mentioned.

    My kids are 19 months and 3.5 years, so I'm waiting until my dating ultrasound on the 21st. I'll be about 10 weeks then, but I really want to hear the heart beat  first. 
    My sister lost twins at 16 weeks and my 3.5 you old cried for 2 weeks because her Auntie wasn't having babies, and I really want to avoid any more heart break for her.
    I know nothing is guaranteed, but I also feel like she would really enjoy the excitement  of it and has been asking for another sibling for alost a year.
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  • krzyriverkrzyriver member
    My son is 15 and we told him right away. We didn't want him to get upset that I never feel good or because I'm so emotional/impatient. He kind of figured it out anyway, so there was no point in hiding it. Lol

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  • LizaKate1213LizaKate1213 member
    We brought DS to the dating ultrasound (I didn't have any childcare). He faced the wall "to give mommy privacy" until we knew everything was ok then had him turn around and guess what was in my belly. He was SO excited and asked for his own picture to hang on his bedroom wall. 
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  • btsrc5btsrc5 member
    We are trying to decide when to tell our 4.5 and 2.5 year olds. I have an appointment at 10 weeks. We will either tell them after we hear the hb again at that appointment or when we get the MaterniT21 bloodwork back 
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  • kewltifkewltif member
    I'm going to tell my 3 and 4 year olds on Easter. My US is a few days before and I'll be 9 weeks.
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  • BahamaRiaBahamaRia member
    edited March 2016
    We told our 10 year old probably a week after we found out. He has been asking for a sister since he could talk. He's also been obsessed with pregnancy since he was four and updates me every week on what's going on with the baby. We recorded how we told him on video and he was so surprised! https://youtu.be/nfCd_LsKBBs 

    Feel free to watch  :#

    He came to the first ultrasound when the baby was just a heart beat since he was on winter (January) break. We refer to the baby as "our baby" and it's helping him to feel a part of the whole process. 
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  • Favoredx6Favoredx6 member
    I have been having the same issue!! As soon as I tell the kids everyone is going to find out!! I wanted to wait til my 20-week U/S and then do a gender reveal surprise EVERYONE party!! However with this being number 6 I am already pooched and "showing" I dont think I will last until 20-weeks..  :'(
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  • vanessa11411vanessa11411 member
    I told my 12yoDD right away. She's known about all of the pregnancies and losses I had last year. We held off on telling my 4yoDS until after my second ultrasound at 10 weeks. I had bought a book online about being a big brother during my last pregnancy and we didn't get the chance to give it to him then. So as soon as I got home from  my appointment we all sat down in the living room and we gave him the book. He's got severe baby fever so he was really excited. 
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  • mothernorthmothernorth member
    We just went ahead and told ours right away so we could get to the point that mom is tired and may need some help from the big kids. SS is 8 and was over the moon, he is the world's best brother as far as I am concerned, DS is 4 and was like "Another one? But you just had one... can we have a girl this time?" (LO is a 7mo boy). She's a bit more of a character but has come a long way!
    This pregnancy came as a surprise to all of us, but the whole gang is happy now =)
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