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Bachelorette weekend - wine tasting

therealvdaytherealvday member
edited March 2016 in 1st Trimester

Hi all, I need some advice :/

3 months ago I bought plane tickets & event tickets for wine tasting in Napa Valley this weekend for my friend's bachelorette party. I didn't think I'd get a BFP this soon (I just switched over from the TTGP board after testing positive on Friday). I also thought that if I *did* get pregnant before the trip, I'd still go, it'd be fine, and I'd just wing it..

However, the more I'm thinking about it, the more I am dreading it... This whole trip is centered around wine tasting, I don't really know anyone going, except for the bride-to-be of course, and the house we're renting has a hot tub which also sounds like we'll be hanging out in a lot (which I also won't be able to enjoy).

I'll be starting my 6th week of being pg on Sunday and I'm scared to death that I'll start getting morning sickness soon and that would also be the worst thing, being away from home, away from DH, sick with a bunch of drunk girls.

I know deep down I'll still be going because a) to support my friend b) I already spent $600+ on this weekend, I'm going to take advantage of that lol. I just don't know what excuse to give for not drinking. I'm going to be the only girl not drinking, everyone will be wondering why/think I'm weird because no way in hell am I telling the truth. Are there options for non-drinkers who go wine tasting? I've never had to ask this question before.

What would you do? What would you say or what excuse would you give? Any input/support/sympathy is appreciated!

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Re: Bachelorette weekend - wine tasting

  • wildtotwildtot member
    I went wine tasting around 14 wks. I took sips from my friend's glasses just to taste. I enjoyed learning about the wines and all the cheese and appetizers they came with (got extras actually). I walked around with a wine glass of Sprite instead. I had a lot of fun regardless. Only difference is my friends knew. 

    Are you a big wine drinker? You shouldn't have to tell if you don't want but this definitely a tough situation. Maybe say your not feeling well and taking some meds? Sorry not much help but I hope you find a solution and are able to enjoy it. 
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  • MRSCORKERMRSCORKER member
    You could taste and spit or like PP suggested, say you're on meds and can't drink. Maybe put your feet in the hot tub for a few minutes if everyone is getting in? 
    As for nausea, I'm 7+3 and haven't had it too bad. Just some queasiness if it's been too long since I've eaten. I would make sure you have some snacks on you, throw some crackers or a granola bar or something in your purse just in case. Not everyone gets it and most that do have said it's worse when you don't eat. 
    You should definitely go and enjoy getting out of town. It won't be the same but I think you can get around telling people, especially because you don't know them all that well. 

    Me: 32 & DH: 37
    Married: November 2014
    TTC #1 Since: October 2015
    BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP
    BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
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  • Glow360Glow360 member
    Tell your friends your pregnant, they are more likely to understand then if you lie about it and not participate. They will know something is up when your not drinking wine and enjoying the hot tub anyways. Sounds like a fun trip! 
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  • MRSCORKERMRSCORKER member
    Glow360 said:
    Tell your friends your pregnant, they are more likely to understand then if you lie about it and not participate. They will know something is up when your not drinking wine and enjoying the hot tub anyways. Sounds like a fun trip! 
    I got the impression she wasn't comfortable sharing yet but OP, there is no rule that you have to wait to tell people. It's all about you're comfortable with. 

    Me: 32 & DH: 37
    Married: November 2014
    TTC #1 Since: October 2015
    BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP
    BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
    IT'S A BOY!!!!
    DS Born 10/16/16

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  • MamaRoniMamaRoni member
    You could easily use the UTI excuse... say you are on meds and can't drink with them and that's also why you aren't getting in hot tub....
     They won't question 
    Just have some fun!
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  • jonesl12jonesl12 member
    MamaRoni said:
    You could easily use the UTI excuse... say you are on meds and can't drink with them and that's also why you aren't getting in hot tub....
     They won't question 
    Just have some fun!
    I disagree with this. I wouldn't lie.  IMO it will be obvious if you aren't drinking or getting into the hot tub that you are either pregnant or they will think you are not having a good time. 
    I would tell them but I'd also tell them it's very early and it's important the news stays within the group until you feel comfortable telling friends and family you are expecting.
    spare yourself the awkwardness of a lie and just be honest 
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  • meggymemeggyme member
    If the only person you know is the bride to be, then if you're comfortable telling her, I say tell everyone. Say you're keeping it quiet if you think they'll somehow spread it to other people In your life, but otherwise it seems like there's only 1 person who knows you enough that they might have mutual friends. If you're not comfortable telling the bride to be, she might be too wrapped up in her bachelorette party (or drunk/hungover) to notice that you're acting weird and no one else will know you well enough to know the difference. Play it cool, have an excuse in case someone asks, but otherwise don't sweat it and have fun.
    DD1: June '16 DD2: March ‘19 :::: Married since 2011 :::: USN Wife ::::
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  • MamaRoniMamaRoni member
    See... I wouldn't lie but OP already said she dint want to tell the truth. ...
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