I have cross posted this in hopes to get a few more replies!
I am in no big hurry to have my second baby and am thoroughly enjoying every moment with my little man but I can't seem to pull my mind away from the delivery of my next baby. My little man was breech which we found out after 12 hours of hard labour with no progression. I went into everything with my only plan being 'get my baby out safely' but after being told my baby was heads down for the last 20 weeks of my pregnancy I really hadn't considered the possibility of actually ending up a c section and was completely heartbroken when told he was breech. Needless to say, he is here, and perfect and my recovery was a breeze but I find myself constantly thinking about what I missed. Besides seeing him for a couple of mins in the operating room, I didn't get to see him for close to an hour, I didn't get to feel the weight of him on my chest and a lot of people got to see a lot more of him in that first hour than I did and it breaks my heart a bit. I am just curious as to how many of you have had a successful VBAC? Did it hit on all the spots you feel like you missed out on with a c section? For those of you that had a RCS, were you able to request that your baby stays with you while in the operating room? Were you able to have them with you in recovery? For those of you facing this decision for your next, what are you planning? I know when the time comes I can discuss this all with my Dr but like I said, it's eating me up a bit and I'd love to hear some of your stories.
Married:09/27/14
Baby N-Born:10/29/15
Our Angel: EDD: 05/11/17. MC at 6 weeks
Baby #2- EDD: 07/18/17
Re: VBAC vs RCS
I was scheduled for a c section with DS because he was breech, but I went into labor before my scheduled date. My spinal didn't take on one side, so they ended up sedating me and I wasn't able to see or hold DS until well over an hour after he was born. I was given the option to VBAC with DD but I chose a RCS for several reasons: I already knew what to expect with recovery, I didn't want to risk uterine rupture, and I was planning on a tubal ligation so two birds with one stone. I didn't ask to hold DD in the OR, but DH held her next to me for a short time before they both had to leave so they could close me up. I was holding her in the recovery room within 45 minutes of her birth (the tubal took about another 20 minutes). I have never felt like I was robbed of or cheated out of the experience of a vaginal birth. One of the biggest things to consider if you are thinking of an RCS is how many more children you want; the most c sections you have, the more likely you are to develop placenta accreta through your scar. Also, very few hospitals will allow a VBA2C, so you would want to aim for a VBAC if you want to have multiple children vaginally in the future.
I had a birth plan written out and Ok'ed by my midwife and the OBs in the office for both possible scenarios- as advised by my midwife.
With my CS I had skin to skin in the OR and my daughter latched on completely on her own. We were never separated. So I was lucky there. That's common practice at my hospital. But I still went over those wishes and got them approved in writing in the event my second delivery was via CS.
I'm still on a birth high more than 6 weeks later. It was a very hard fought VBAC and so worth it. All the nurses over the next 2 days and the on call doctors and midwives all came in to our room to congratulate me. They said VBACs make them so happy.
As long as there is 15 months or more between deliveries the chance of rupture is extremely small. I was told by the doctors in my office that they prefer women to try for a VBAC because it's actually safer than major surgery.
Madison is my VBAC baby. She's 11 weeks old and the recovery was quick. I had some tearing, but it was nothing compared to cut in my abdomen. I decided to do the epidural at the vary last second. 10 minutes and 3 pushes later, my baby girl was in my arms. We were even released from the hospital a day early!
It was important for me to do the VBAC because I still wanted to be able to hold my first baby. I will admit that the risks scared me at firsts, but the numbers where on my side. Zachary's only 2 and I didn't want him to feel left out. The transition was easy and he loves his little sister.
That's my story. Every pregnancy and delivery is different. No matter what you decide to do, I hope everything works out for you and your family. Good luck.
Around my parts they have this new thing called a "gentle C-section" (you can google it). It more mimics the natural birth by putting the baby right on your chest, etc. Unless there is a complication, not sure, other than outdated hospital procedures, why babies need to be taken away for that long. My friend said that she wouldn't have been able to make it through the sewing up section without the distraction of her LO on her chest. I hope, if you choose that direction, that your caregiver would consider it.
Me: 42, DH: 46, Married: 11/12
Losses: MMC#1 11/12 BO, MC#2 11/13 at 8w BO?, MMC#3 8/14 chromo healthy M @12 weeks, stopped growing at 10.
Negligible AMH, FSH finally went high. Pursued DE.
DD born at 38w2d on 5-27-16. Finally!!
Pregnant again with OE. EDD 11/9/17 Girl!
In 2013, I delivered my second daughter via VBAC. It was a long, hard labor, but I do not regret it for a second. I was able to have all of those moments that I had hoped for with my first, and it made me feel less bitter about my first birth experience. It was also great to not have the post-surgery restrictions that come with a RCS with a toddler at home. I am pregnant now with my 3rd child, and am planning on having another VBAC, barring any complications.