Husband just lost his job.

oxinfree · February 2016

Hey all. We were definitely nervous about this for some time, but my DH just lost his job. My heart is pounding out of my chest right now. We just ordered our meds and everything. Hopefully insurance still covered them due to when they were purchased. That'd be good at least...
We were down here in the US on a visa for his job, so now have to leave the country and everything.
Looks like IVF for us is postponed until further notice. Very stressful morning trying to wrap my head around it all.
If I disappear for a while you know why. I'll probably still be blogging but it might be too hard for me to watch and support others as they move forward on their journey at this time.
Wishing you all loads of success.
If you believe in prayer or positive thinking, we could use all the help in the world.
Thanks for all your kind words over the course of my time here.

tvh1982 · February 2016

Oh wow, what a stressfull and horrible day for you.

Like you haven't got enough to deal with already.

I am definitely sending you lost of positive thinking and I found out prayers don't do any harm, so I'll started doing them too.

Hope you don't have to put your life on hold too long, and that you'll find out where you end up soon.

Keep breathing, keep believing and keep strong.

Only badasses get this much crap, so you are the queen of badass right now! You can do this. xoxo

BrightenMySky · February 2016

I am so sorry for yet another obstacle on your journey. Sending good thoughts your way. Please take care of yourself as best you can.

wifeinraleigh28 · February 2016

I'm so sorry @oxinfree. My heart really goes out to you, as you have been such an amazing support to all of us here. I pray for the best for you and your husband, and that you are able to find peace during this rough transition. *hugs*

susykat77 · February 2016

Damn. Damn. Damn. I am so sorry! I have been rooting for you and I'm so sorry to see you going through this. I would check into when the insurance is terminated as often companies have a short period of continuation of insurance (usually 30-45 days) and maybe you can squeeze in an IVF before then?? I'll keep reading your blog. Big big (creepy internet) hugs to you.

mskeenan · February 2016

Ugh I am so sorry for such shitty news . My heart goes out to you and your DH . I hope that your plans are not put on hold for too long . This process is already a bitch and having other things happen that are out of your control are just super crappy .

As for your meds , most of the time when a job is lost you have insurance through the end of the current month . So I would think you should be fine . I'm not sure if everyone's insurance is like that but that's what I have experienced at all of my jobs .

Best at of luck to you . I hope to see you back soon

ultratomato · February 2016

I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope everything works out for you both and you can get your journey restarted soon. Good luck!

chicandbubbly · February 2016

I am sorry to hear you are dealing with this, I will be praying for you!!

LizzieJ13 · February 2016

I'm so sorry to hear that. What terrible news. Any possibility of extending your insurance coverage?

mskeenan · February 2016

You could look into cobra to extend coverage . It is crazy expensive but if you had good coverage for your meds and not sure what future coverage will be then it could be a good option .

AandDM2014 · February 2016

Oh no! This is devastating news! I am so sorry that you are going through this.

I wish you the best of luck in your new adventure and hope you get back to baby making (if that is your wish) soon!

I will miss you.

leakypen · February 2016

We've never interacted but I read this and I am sorry to hear about this challenge in your life and I hope that you both stay strong and come back even stronger. Take care...

ZoeFer · February 2016

I do not know if it applies to you, i just assumed that you are on H1 visa and i wanted to share. when you loose your job on H1 visa, you could switch to tourist visa in order to extend your stay and then you do not loose your h1 and when you find a new job you can still transfer that h1 visa. Maybe by using cobra you can still stay in the country and continue your ivf process. One of my friend did that recently and i realized that many people did not know about this option. Both DH and I are on visa in the States so I can relate to that aspect.
I am very sorry for what happened, i hope you find a way to get back to baby making process very soon.

Piperella · February 2016

Lurking...

I'm so sorry about your husband's job and the repercussions you two are facing due to it. It sucks and has to scary on many different fronts. You have always provided so much support and insight on this board and I'm sorry you have to put this process on hold. I'm wishing you the best and I hope to see you on the boards again soon. I can't wait to cheer you on as you try again. You two are definitely in my thoughts.

capps42613 · February 2016

1 step forward 3 steps back

So sorry to hear. I hope you guys find a way to stay & Get out of this tough situation. Your in my thoughts...

bbkidz · February 2016

So sorry! Praying for you!

momof2furkids · February 2016

So sorry to hear this. Praying new opportunities present themselves to you both soon.

cmm012 · February 2016

I'm sorry about this significant setback. I hope you are able to get right back into treatment once you and DH get resettled.

mtpbadger · February 2016

This news breaks my heart. I pray everything will work out and this will just be a small speed bump. Totally understand going MIA for awhile on here but please do keep us updated, especially if you need to vent. We are all still here for you even if treatment is temporarily placed on hold.

Like others have said, you are one tough chick and while this is totally craptastic news, I have no doubt you will prevail and will keep you and your DH in my thoughts and prayers.

bbkidz · February 2016

So sorry! Praying for you and him!

oxinfree · February 2016

Thank you all so so much for your kind words. Our heads have at least stopped spinning and we're working out the details and plans now. He's searching for new jobs, and I'm applying for some back in Canada as well as oversees. We'll take whatever is given to us. If we're fortunate enough to not have to move, we'll hopefully be back at it sooner rather than later. Ugh.
Anyways. Thanks again for all your positivity and commiserating. Both were much needed!
xx

Angelic789 · February 2016

Hi, poor thing oxinfree! I'm so sorry you have to survive such painful things..
I'm sorry for your DH lost his job and that you'll have to move to another place.. It's really hard in such a time.
You've written about the medicals ordered. Are they for the specific procedure?
We've fortunately applied for DE ivf in biotexcom where all the meds needed for the subsequent stimulation protocol are included into the package. So probably this is also a good way for saving money, if only the cases do not differ.
We've chosen the clinic for its guarantee, honestly saying. As there have always been problems on work field for both of us. We booked 5 att program. It says that in case of 5 negatives they'll refund 100% money paid for the procedures. So anyway this is a good idea to try treatment you're to do and have the opportunity of saving money whenever the problem with job occurs or not.
I wish you all the best. May your troubles vanish soon x

2legbaby · February 2016

so sorry@oxinfree....another major stress in an already stressful time...this is truly what makes us warriors! I am originally from Canada and my family (knowing our struggles) told me a few months ago about changes in Ontario's IVF coverage (they are now covering IVF treatments)....if you have to go back to Canada- maybe look in Ontario to be able to continue IVF at low/no cost?
https://www.thestar.com/news/queenspark/2015/10/01/ohip-to-cover-in-vitro-fertization-treatments.html

oxinfree · March 2016

Update to all - (and big shout out to @ZoeFer for mentioning Cobra - you're right, we did NOT know about this option!!!).

So still no jobs

BUT... we were able to extend our health coverage via Cobra and considering we already had all our meds ordered we've decided to go ahead with our cycle this month! OMG OMG OMG. What a rollercoaster.
DH and I talked about it in length, and basically we decided there's no RIGHT time to do IVF. We just have to believe that by at least the time the baby comes he'll have a job. We have amazing family, and know we will manage somehow along the way... We have enough money stored to survive in NY for the next few months AND pay for a move if need be.
We've waited so long to be ready for another cycle, and the fact that we had insurance to cover the cost made us feel like we might as well give it a shot while we're here and have it all set to go (you pay out of pocket back in Canada... not covered by insurance except maybe in Ontario now someone mentioned!?).

So I'm back

vssbrm · March 2016

Fantastic news! good luck with the IVF, it's quit the ride, but you will do awesome!!

oxinfree · March 2016

thanks @vssbrm ...obviously I'm super excited!
Where are you at with everything currently???? How are you? Did you start your cycle last month???

vssbrm · March 2016

I just had my retrieval Thursday. I thought the stim meds were pretty easy, 150 menopur and 150 follistim for 11 days, three low does trigger shots, pregnoyl and something else. I am apparently a super producer, 26 eggs retrieved, 23 were mature, 20 fertilized! Praying that quantity did not affect quality. Because I produced so many the recovery has been a little harder than it is for most. The other 2 girls who were having a retrieval the same day as me seemed to bounce out of their beds, I went in before 1 of them but left about an hour after she did. Feeling better today, but very sore. We are doing a frozen transfer in April - hopefully the 7th. I can't wait!!!!

oxinfree · March 2016

@vssbrm - woah!! that is indeed a lot of eggs. woah! I only got 7 my first round (only 4 fertilized) and none of them worked, so don't stress about the quantity/quality too much. We're all so different. I'm very excited for you, and definitely think it's good you're doing a frozen so your body can recuperate a bit...

I'll be shortly behind you on the transfer, likely transferring around the 10th or so depending on how I stimm etc... you know how it goes

Yay! That would be so awesome to be transfer/2ww buddies!!!

mskeenan · March 2016

Yay ! I'm so happy for you . You are right .. There is no right time . My husband has been on the chopping block to be laid off multiple times this past year and at first I felt guilty moving forward with our plans due to our financial uncertainty . But we have found ways to make it work and we are just having to sacrifice in other areas to prepare for the possibility of being down to one income with a lot of student loan debt hanging over us .

I'm so so excited for you !!! I wish you the best of luck and hope everything goes smoothly ! Hugs !!

oxinfree · March 2016

Thanks so much @mskeenan - when's your frozen transfer? how you doing? I feel so out of the loop with you all!!!!

mskeenan · March 2016

@oxinfree I had my transfer yesterday !! We transferred two good quality embryos . I'm feeling good ! Just crampy but that's ok !

When do you start your meds ??!!

oxinfree · March 2016

Oh yay @mskeenan - how exciting!!!! Okay. I'll send you a plethora of positive vibes. I feel super hopeful for you... good feelings all around. Hope your DH is spoiling you.

I'll look forward to hearing about the outcome.

I'm waiting for my next period and will start stimms around day 4 which will be around march 25 or so depending on length of my cycle.

2015dee · March 2016

Absolutely agree. There's never a right time. You've thought through the decision and have great support. Im glad you're going for it!!

susykat77 · March 2016

@oxinfree I am so very excited for you!!! This is just the good news I needed to hear today! So where are you in your cycle exactly and when are you going to get started? Tell me tell me! Yay! Yay! Yay! Big big ( creepy Internet) hugs to you!!!!

ZoeFer · March 2016

@oxinfree i am so happy to hear that you found a way to get back to treatments. Best of luck to you with the IVF cycle. It s so exciting. I am also in NY

AandDM2014 · March 2016

@oxinfree I'm so glad to hear that you've looked into COBRA and have been approved!!! What amazing news!! Congratulations! I wish you nothing but the best!

oxinfree · March 2016

@2015dee - thank you thank you thank you!! ps. I probably already knew and forgot, but OMG natural bfp!?!?!? What!? crazy exciting. Glad to see ultrasound went well. Thanks for popping by with well wishes

@susykat77 - you're so sweet! I'm just around ovulation of my last pre-ivf natural cycle. Waiting for period, and then start stimms near end of March, transfer will be mid-April ish. How are you? Are you going to Prague??? I keep checking your blog for an update. You've been on my mind.

@ZoeFer - thanks my dear! Awesome that you're also in NY. I'm with Sher here and really love them...What's your upcoming plans?

@AandDM2014 - my gosh I've come back to such wonderful news! Congrats on the bfp. I'm so so SO happy to hear!!! How are you feeling?

AandDM2014 · March 2016

@oxinfree I feel tired and hungry a lot, but mostly I'm very nervous and scared. I'm terrified of having a miscarriage or ectopic.

oxinfree · March 2016

@AandDM2014 - that's honestly one of my biggest worries too. That finally after all these years we'll get a bfp only to be devastated by a mc... Once you're through the first trimester I'm sure that worry will ease at least slightly. Big hugs to you. Try your best to enjoy it, though I know WHEN (hopefully

) I'm blessed to be in your shoes I will be feeling the same exact way. Keep in touch xx

susykat77 · March 2016

@oxinfree I finally updated my blog yesterday. Honestly I haven't had the energy to post an update on here yet. I will get to it in the next few days as I am only popping in occasionally to check on folks.

wifeinraleigh28 · March 2016

@oxinfree - I've been out of town and haven't checked the boards for awhile but I am SO thrilled to read the updates here. YAY!!! I'm so glad you can continue with your plans. I did cobra myself for awhile a few years ago and although it was expensive, it was a life saver. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you!! We are moving on to IVF next so I'm looking forward to sharing this journey with you over in the IVF threads!

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