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Just one of those weekends (Long rant)

CEW225CEW225 member
edited March 2016 in September 2015 Moms
Found out my dad had a spot of melanoma on his nose.  The doctor is fairly confident they got it all, but he has to go and do a skin test at the end of the month.  They'll scrape a little layer of skin off and examine it to see if there are cancerous cells there.  If there are, they keep repeating the process until they don't fins any.  Each examining time take an hour, so it has the potential to literally last all day.  

DH is about to go nuts because our daughter won't sleep through the night yet. We both get up (switch times) and feed her but he's just not dealing with it well anymore.  She went from waking up once a night to 2 or 3 times, one of which is at 445, 45 minutes before we normally got up. He is so grouchy about stuff now.  He hasnt said good night or I love you before bed in weeks, although he does show affection other times.  Other people are strating to notice how I'll he's gotten.  

And, to go along with that, everybody and their brother asks if she is sleeping through the night yet and is shocked when we tell them no.  A couple have been sympathetic and have said, "It will happen eventually", but most everybody else can't believe our 6mo isn't sleep through the night.

I'm super behind on grading papers because of meetings at school, tutoring sessions, etc.  I can't seem to get caught back up and it's driving me and my students crazy.  I just wish I could take an entire day and do nothing but catch up, but taking a day off creates so much more work since I have to plan for a sub.

Gave LO sweet potatoes for the first time yesterday and really our first big time trying food.  She loved them, which was wonderful and I was so happy.  Then, I noticed there was a container of food missing from the pack my mother purchased.  Pretty sure that while DH and I went to breakfast Saturday, they gave her baby food.  I'm mad, but what can I do about it now?  They both pressured me so much into starting early and we've waited until now because she wasn't quite ready before, but then to go and do that?  They weren't even going to say anything because dad made a little slip about it and I saw mom cut him a look.  Its a good thing she didn't have any kind of reaction.

Oh....and if one more says anything to me about giving her ice cream, cake(mine and dad's birthday celebration this weekend), other adult foods, I don't know what I'll do.  

I honestly felt like I couldn't enjoy my weekend because I was so upset about everything. Small or petty issues maybe,  but they just all add up after a while.  Sorry for the long rant, but I had to get it out somewhere....

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Re: Just one of those weekends (Long rant)

  • snowflake2214snowflake2214 member
    I am a teacher too, so I share your pain of never feeling caught up. The good news is every day gets us closer to summer break
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  • jlemons-2jlemons-2 member
    edited March 2016
    I hate it when people ask if LO is sleeping through the night. It isn't their business! It is also an irrelevant question since there are a variety of reasons babies get up at night. I know it might not be the popular opinion, but can you take a few more nights so DH can rest? My husband just can't handle getting up at night so I wouldn't be able to use him effectively. I BF so I get up anyway but he's put to better use during the day doing whatever he can to make my life easier and then I do all MOTN. I'm also super paranoid that someone will feed my girl solids before I'm ready because apparently it's a common occurrence! I hope your week is better than your weekend was. 
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  • cmommy13cmommy13 member
    I am SO sorry youre going through this :( 
    I would be so angry if someone gave my DS good but livid that they werent even going to tell me.

    I would talk to them about it so they dont think they can continue doing things like that
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  • BognesBognes member
     I'm sorry to hear about your father.   Maybe your husband can sleep on the couch one night?  I'm fairly blunt with people  so my advice on the frustrating questions would not be helpful.
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  • xJKxORxJKxOR member
    I always feel like defensive when people ask about sleep; like my ability as a parent is somehow linked to his sleep. So even if he's sleeping good (in my opinion) I feel awkward answering because I feel like it's some sort of test. 
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  • dmbfan46835dmbfan46835 member
    xJKxOR said:
    I always feel like defensive when people ask about sleep; like my ability as a parent is somehow linked to his sleep. So even if he's sleeping good (in my opinion) I feel awkward answering because I feel like it's some sort of test. 
    ^^ this!!! Their sleep literally has nothing to do with your parenting. Some kids sleep and some don't. Ours has STTN once and he's almost 28 weeks. I get so pissed when people look at me like I don't know what I'm doing or like they are better than me because their baby sleeps. I'm sure my kid does some awesome shit that theirs doesn't but I don't ask them about that, you know?? 
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  • BrandiLaw87BrandiLaw87 member
    ^^ I'm with you on this as well. DS always slept through the night and this LO not so much. I get so tired of the question and then I feel like I'm defending why she isn't sleeping. Then I realize, I shouldn't be defensive this is normal for some babies! 
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  • CEW225CEW225 member
    Thanks for your responses ladies!  It's so nice to know I'm not the only person that's heard all this.

    @snowflake2214 Amen and Amen!  It's been so hard to get caught back up and my principal is not making that any easier.  I know one day it will happen though!  

    To all those who have said something about feeling defensive when comments about LO'S sleep are made, you hit the nail on the head!  That's exactly how it feels!  

    I plan on talking to my husband tonight just to express how I feel.  I also want to discuss what we need to say to my parents.  I know my mom will be upset if I say anything because I'm hurt by what they did and she hates to do anything that hurts me like that.  She's pretty emotional about that so it's something I have to sort of tread lightly on IYKWIM.  
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  • mel0601mel0601 member
    Ladies. I was asked if my daughter was sleeping through the night at 2 weeks old..... Yep TWO WEEKS! I just stared at the lady in disbelief and said "you know if she was sleeping through at this age id be worried" 
    people just want to make small talk and literally ask the stupidest things! probly why I  hate small talk! 
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  • laurapaine2003@yahoo.comlaurapaine2003@yahoo.com member
    I always wonder when people ask me if my LO sleeps through the night if they truly have some type of child-induced-Dementia: where these people forget their own children never slept through the night till they were much older because HOW can this many people TRULY have had babies that MAGICALLY slept through the damn night at like 10 weeks old??? Bullllshit they did. Sorry but I firmly believe a baby who always sleeps through the night is the same as a unicorn: they don't exist. 
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