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MooFish2364 · March 2016

Hello everyone! I am new here...popping over from the miscarriage and loss board. While we aren't officially TTC yet, we will be soon and I wanted to introduce myself to everyone!

My DH and I have been TTC for 6 months. We finally got pregnant in December, got my BFP the day after Christmas. I went in for my first ultrasound at 7.5wks only to find out it was a suspected blighted ovum. I went in for more u/s over the next three weeks - all confirming the same thing. My Hcg never dropped (it actually continued to rise) and my gestational sac grew a bit. By week 10 my DH, Doctor, and I decided that the best course of action would be a d&c.

So I am now 3 weeks post d&c, waiting for af to arrive again. I'm still getting very faint positives on a Hcg strip so I'm hoping it will go down to 0 in the next few days. My doctor wants us to wait a few months before we TTC again but I don't know if I want to wait that long. I think we will wait until after my first af and start TTC again. Any opinions on when we should start? Should we wait or just start right up again?

Anyways, I'm excited to get to know everyone here. I found it really helpful to be on the loss board and I'm looking forward to being on this one and TTC again!

fivetimesnoluck · March 2016

I am so sorry for your loss. It's so hard to figure out if there is a "right" way to move forward. There are widely-varying opinions on this, even within the medical community. So, my feeling is you have to do what feels right for you and your partner. There doesn't seem to be much scientific rationale for waiting multiple cycles - it seems to be based more on emotional readiness.

Whatever you do, you're in good company here! Good luck and welcome!

ThePax89 · March 2016

Welcome. I'm so so sorry. I continued to get positive pregnancy tests for a while too. I did get my period before they returned to zero though.

I I was told by one doctor to wait 2 cycles to ttc. Another doctor told me to wait 3. I found out the cause of my miscarriage (a chromosomal anomaly), so I don't feel like I am jeapordIzing anything ttc after 2 cycles.

cjs260 · March 2016

I'm so sorry for you loss, but welcome nonetheless. It took my body several crazy cycles over three months and a dose of progesterone before my cycle returning to any sense of normalcy. As PP have said, there's a lot of varying ideas on the waiting topic. You know what's best for you emotionally. Keep in mind what your doctor says, but know that things may not go the way you plan - for instance my doctor told me to wait one cycle, yet I didn't ovulate for 3 making it impossible for me to actually conceive. I was so focused on getting pregnant again right away, that every time I had spotting or started bleeding heavily again (which happened several times) I would be devastated. I hope your stay here is short!

cooaladoll · March 2016

Sorry for your loss and hope your AF comes soon for you. I didn't have a dnc but my doctor advised us to wait a cycle. I thought we got KU'd right away, which it turns out I didn't, but I was concerned whether listening to the doctors order would make a difference. I realized since I hate to worry, maybe I should err on the side of caution and as much as I wanted to be TTC right away, I didn't want the added stress. That being said, 3 months is a long time to wait! Personally I would try to get some clarification out of my doctor's office. Maybe they can tell you why they want you to wait, such as healing time, or dating issues (though usually that's only 1 cycle), mine was to let the uterine lining rebuild so there's a better chance for the implantation sticking and staying next time around. Also, as PP's have said, sometimes the body doesn't want to play nicely anyway and takes a few months to get its days back in order and proper schedule, much to the chagrin of anyone having to wait on it.

catiecatp · March 2016

Welcome to the TTCAL boards - I'm sorry for your loss and hope your stay will be short. Doctors seem to be all over the place with recommendations - I didn't have a d&c and my doctor said we could start trying as soon as we felt emotionally ready - and in terms of dating she said my cycle could be so different now that if we were to wait for dating purposes we'd have to wait 3-4 cycles... so instead she planned on an early ultrasound like we did with my first pregnancy (second cycle after coming off of BC). We're on cycle 3 post loss now, so we'll see what happens in terms of ultrasounds etc.

roper2617 · March 2016

So sorry about your loss. I echo all PP's about varying waiting times.

Af2013nl · March 2016

So sorry for your loss. Again agreed that different docs seem to recommend different wait times. My doc recommended waiting one cycle. I think you just need to do what you feel is best for you both physically and emotionally.

GhanimaAtreides · March 2016

I'm sorry for your loss. Agreed to trust your gut on when to TTC again. I did have a D&C, ovulated 1.5 weeks after my last +HPT and 2 days after my blood test came back as 5, doc said just to wait 1 cycle. I ended up getting a Paraguard for 6 months because I had a belated grief/anxiety response. 3 weeks after I felt like I was hit by a Mac truck with panic attacks. You'll know when you're ready.

AL_TwinCities · March 2016

I'm so sorry for your loss. For me, TTC again was bittersweet but it has helped me focus on something other than the grief all the time. I wish you all the luck!

megsbrock · March 2016

So very sorry for your loss. I echo what @AL_TwinCities said, that TTC after a loss helps to shift my focus away from the grief of the past, and helps me look towards the future. I am the type of person who likes to seize every opportunity (of course taking doctor's advice into consideration!!)

MooFish2364 · March 2016

Thanks for all of the comments, ladies! It's nice to have a great group of women to share problems/concerns with! I'm still having slightly positive pg tests...squinters really so I'm hoping all of the Hcg is almost out of my system. DH and I were talking this weekend about when we thought that we should TTC again. We decided that we would wait until after my first AF and just NTNP. It took us 6 months to get our first bfp so I don't think we will even get pregnant right away. I'll be happy if it happens at all! I'm just going to try to relax and go with the flow...easier said than done but I'm at least going to try :-)

amberruka · March 2016

@MooFish2364My hcg took 5 weeks to go down to zero....seems to be all over the place.

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