Scared??

Re: Scared??

• wildtot member

  March 2016

  It's normal to feel like this. I had one mc last year (first pregnancy). I originally had feared infertility due to having endo. The loss made me feel worse. But I had to think about it in a different way ... I can get pregnant! I was able to get pregnant again within 3 months. Early on I experienced bleeding which lead to bed rest during all first tri. I always feared the worst but I was glad that I was able to call my doc and see her right away when I had issues. I am 33 wks today and still dealing with complications but baby is big and healthy. I literally only had one month of being worry free this whole pregnancy. It's hard to not be afraid and worry. But you got to tell yourself "today I am pregnant". Hang in there and always seek your doc even if you think it's a silly question. Stay away from Dr Google! Best of luck and congrats on your pregnancy!

  Report2 Reply
• Loading the player...
• kyraaD member

  March 2016

  although i haven't been through a miscarriage myself (I'm so sorry to hear btw), i would expect that after being through 2 it's pretty normal to feel scared & anxious. just try & stay as positive as possible. maybe also speak with your doctor about your fears, they may have some reassuring advice for you
  

  Report0 Reply
• WinchestertoPittsburgh member

  March 2016

  Normal. I've had three miscarriages in a row prior to this pregnancy and I'm anxious, terrified and almost have it in my head that this too will end in miscarriage. You have to just try and take it one day at a time and keep yourself busy. 
  
  There is a Pregnant After a Loss board that you may find helpful. I lurk there from time to time to get reassurance that I'm not the only one thinking like this.

  DS Maxwell - 08/25/2009

  Wedded Bliss - 05/19/15

  MC - 05/15/15 & 7/29/15 & 11/25/15 (You were wished for, hoped for and loved)
  

  BFP#4; EDD 10/21/16 - Praying for a miracle.

  
  

  Report0 Reply
• peevpee member

  March 2016

  I feel the same way. had silent miscarriage last summer. there was no heartbeat at my 10 week appointment and baby measured only 8 weeks. I am now five weeks pregnant, very scared. I have not yet scheduled my 6 week appointment and probably will skip it. I don't know if I can take it again seeing healthy heartbeat at 6 weeks just to find out the worst four weeks later. 

  Report0 Reply
• megstervt member

  March 2016 edited March 2016

  Totally normal.  PGAL brain is so real and really annoying.  In addition to the board mentioned, id recommend seeking support on your BMB.  We have a weekly check-in for PGAL ladies in July.  They have been a huge support to me these last few months.
  

  ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

  Me: 29 & Husband: 36                                                         
  Married: October 2014

  NTNP: April 2015 - June 2015

  M/C: June 2015
  TTC #1 since September 2015

  BFP: 11/9/15 - EDD: 7/24/16
  

  Report0 Reply
• tripledaggerWed95976 member

  March 2016

  I've had one miscarriage and 2 chemicals-  and I hate to say it, but I'm now 30 weeks along and STILL terrified all of the time that something is wrong/will be wrong.  It gets more bearable as time passes but if you're anything like me then some degree of fear will most likely stick with you throughout your pregnancy.  
  My best advice would be- Make sure to really acknowledge and celebrate your milestones (end of first trimester, first kick, anatomy scan, etc) as you hit them.  Also, look into relaxation techniques... For me, yoga has been a huge stress reliever (not to mention really helping me manage pregnancy aches and pains).
  Best of luck

  Report0 Reply
• tinypikachu member

  March 2016

  I had a miscarriage and can completely relate. When we found out we were pregnant again, it was hard for us to get excited. I was happy, but we were terrified. We didn't even want to talk about it so we wouldn't get too attached  (although I think that's impossible for me). I apologized to my baby constantly for not being excited yet. As time went on, it got easier to be all out happy. I was very attached to our first pregnancy and so I went from being cautiously happy to being excited and constantly crying over the loss. I believe having a miscarriage changes you in many ways, one of them being that you're robbed of having a carefree pregnancy. Hang in there, it gets better.

  * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
  
  

  Report0 Reply
• emilie250 member

  March 2016

  I'm sorry for your losses… I'm sure it's normal for you to feel anxiety. Don't be too hard on yourself.

  Report0 Reply
• bbkidz member

  April 2016

  Praying for you! I haven't had an miscarriages and pray I never do, but I also have these feelings of doubt sometimes. I rebuke them and pray thanking God for His promises to me!

  Me:  29  DH:  32
  Together since January 23, 2013
  Married March 22, 2014
  TTC #1 since August 2015
  First RE meeting February 2, 2016; tests normal for both of us
  Clomid round #4 of 150 mg followed by
  First Ovidrel trigger shot February 10, 2016
  First IUI February 12, 2016 Negative
  Started Letrozole 5mg round #1 February 23
  Began additional Letrozole 5mg + Dexamethasone 1 mg March 8
  Ovidrel trigger shot March 16
  IUI #2 March 18 with progesterone suppositories beginning March 19
  Positive HPT April 2 Praise God!!!
  Estimated Due Date: December 8
  
  <a href="http://www.thebump.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=HTML&utm_campaign=tickers" title="Parenting Advice"><img 
  
  Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see. Hebrews 11:1
  

  Report0 Reply
• mrszoess member

  April 2016

  exactly the same. I'm 12 weeks now and this week I got to see the baby dancing around in there. every appointment it gets easier 

  Report0 Reply